I saw this thread on my front page yesterday and while reading through some of the top upvoted comments I began to see a pattern emerge. The comments from men ranged, including passive aggressive behavior, head games, schizo/bipolar craziness, pushiness, unrealistic expectations, and the list goes on.

It occurred to me that this would be a good opportunity to address some of these issues, as for the most part, the fault lay not necessarily in the women/girls themselves, but in the men/boys who tolerate it. I think that this is good theoretical practice for approaching and interacting with women, because what I see in that thread (for the most part, some problems are cute/funny and aren't relevant to this post) is the consequence of beta males being used and manipulated by females who are far more assertive than them.

Let's look at a few specific examples:

The Entitled Princess

  • "I shouldn't have to ask you for help. You should just know."

  • "I DESERVE to be treated like a princess"

  • I'll sit down on the couch, put my feet up, get comfortable. She'll come in, sit down next to me, and then ask me "Can you get my X?" where X is anything she could have gotten on the way to the couch.

Here we see an obvious pattern of entitlement. When approaching a woman for the first time, this behaviour might look slightly different, it's slightly more reserved, but equally full of shit. What these men have described above is the ShitTest taken to extremes, these guys have given over a part of their freewill to satisfy their women through daily exercises like these. The woman deserves to be treated well if she treats you well, not just because. During the approach, keep a look out for comments like 'are you going to buy me a drink?' said in an aggressive and almost dismissive tone, or for demeaning looks and actions. In cases like these, asserting dominance over the situation will typically result in her losing interest, or if handled very well, in her interest in you rising.

This type of girl dominates because she wants to see how far she can push you, how much she can control you with her sexuality. It doesn't necessarily turn her on, in fact, it's a form of punishment for being weaker than her. Unless she's bipolar and emotionally abusive, she will typically be looking for men who will shut down her aggressiveness, who will take control of situations, and lead, both in life and in bed. When encountering this type of women, decisiveness and assertion is key, you have to disarm her with undying confidence in your ability as a man.

Emotionally Controlling and Borderline Crazy

  • The passive aggressive bullshit when you're angry. If you're mad and I'm not getting why, just fucking tell me. I will do my best to make it better and if I'm the cause of your anger, I'll apologize and fix it.

  • I asked my girlfriend over and over and over again what was wrong, how she was feeling, etc. In which she responded "fine." Her tweet tonight before she went to bed, "Fine is not a feeling #FigureItOut" IT'S LIKE SHE'S TRYING TO PLAY A FUCKING GAME WITH ME.

  • "No, you can go out with the guys, I'll just stay at home and find something to do I guess."

  • Whenever we're having a serious discussion and she whips out some overly bitchy response when she feels slightly offended by anything I say. I call them low-blows (and not the good kind)But something I see universally in relationships that pisses me off when it happens to me as well as when I see it happen, is when you blow your SO off. Say we have plans together. My GF goes and makes plans with another friend. I personally wouldn't care that much if she came to me to ask and say for tonight I'd rather hang out with Hrrm Hrrm, cause it's been a while since I've seen them. But she'll neglect to tell me intentionally in fear of hurting my feelings or completely forget about me and I have no idea until and hour before. It sucks all around. If you'd have told me, I would have made different plans and everything would be fine, but then I just feel unimportant, especially when you choose the new plans over me after you remember we had plans. Personal pet peeve, clearly...

I put an emphasis on the last phrase in that last example because I think it pretty much sums this up perfectly. If you're seeing a girl who at any point in time lies to you, blows you off, says A but then does B, makes you feel guilty for doing the things you love and care about, attacks you or demeans you in front of others, and basically has you feeling like you're less of a man, there's only one thing to do: leave.

I know, Seddit purists will be crying out in unison, "WHAT DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH SEDDIT?!" Well, everything, good sirs. You see, the attitude that the men who get trapped with women like these is all wrong from the start, from the very approach. They drop their guard, they let these women in, and they slowly begin to lose control over their lives to the emotional control and mind games. The Seddit game is simple: you have to know when to walk away, and you have to have the confidence to choose your women.

If a woman is SUPER hot and wants to sleep with you, but it comes at the cost of you losing any kind of freedom in your life, it's just not worth it. For women reading this thread, the same goes for you. The people who get trapped in emotionally manipulative relationships are 50% to blame for it, because they do not know when to say 'fuck you, you crazy bitch, I'm OUT', which typically should happen after the first time she/he tries to make you feel bad for simply being you.

Conclusion Sorry for this write up being a bit all over the place. I wanted to make the point that poor approach techniques and not knowing what you want out of a relationship (be it fuck friends, or life partners) can result in very bad situations. Be sure not to get caught in these traps, to demand the respect you deserve and to give it back to her as well if she treats you well.

TL;DR By using the right approach techniques right off the bat, you can avoid getting sucked into shitty relationships with sub-par women. Knowing yourself, and knowing what you want will not only ensure that you're sleeping with quality women, but heighten your chances of landing a really great one once your ready for something more.