drink fu

crexor · 2010-04-23T01:54:23+00:00

Gin and tonic with lime, do a few with a good tip. When you feel like you've had enough just tonic and lime. Turn it into a topic of discussion if someone mentions it, which they probably won't. "I'm driving" "I have to be up early" "I already drank before I came" whatever you want to spring board into other topics. And you don't have to pound them down either.

intjpua · 2010-04-22T18:27:03+00:00

Tipping is more important than what you're drinking. I order bottled or mineral water all the time, or a soda. Just always tip. First drink of the night, if the bartender is really friendly, then I'll tip really big.

I think you're spending way too much time sitting at the bar and staying in your head; the bar is where you drink, the rest of the club is where you meet and talk to people. You aren't there to drink, you're there to meet people. Don't stake out a spot and defend it all night long. Get a drink, if you want one, wander around, talk to people, and keep moving. When you feel like you've run out of ways to open and talk to sets in the venue, and you're feeling too self-conscious to do any more approaches (I know this feeling), move to another one.

Just step outside, breathe deeply, and start walking to the next location. Talk to people on the way. If there's a doorman by the door as you're leaving and he makes eye contact, "Have a great night", if you see girls who're dressed to the nines on the sidewalk, "You guys look great, what's the occasion?" or "You guys look like you're looking for trouble. Have you found any yet?" always make it casual and upbeat, always be ready to continue walking so it's not stressful for you or weird for them. You're obviously battling social anxiety of the worst kind (I recognize it from my own experiences), so just getting out of your head is the single most important thing with your outings right now. Learn from the experience, realize that most people are going to be nice, and if you're bringing interesting stories, funny jokes, or just a positive energy, most folks are going to have no problem talking to you.

In other words, you're trying to solve the wrong problem. The problem you need to solve it getting out of your head and moving between sets. When you do that, you no longer have to solve, "What do I do while I'm sitting there at the bar all night." You shouldn't be sitting at the bar all night; you won't meet many people there.

2010-04-22T23:02:34+00:00

The refill gives her a reason to talk to you. I wouldn't recommend going for bartenders, and I strongly don't urge you to buy a drink so she comes over and talks to you as she should be wanting to talk to you because you're such an interesting person, but don't feel obligated to order alcohol if you do. Bartenders have seen all the orders and they won't think less of you for ordering a soda (maybe you're someone's DD), or water. You can also try light beers or drinks with little alcohol. Most gin and tonics I get are skimpy on the alcohol. Or you can just ask her to halve the alcohol she puts in.

thefugue · 2010-04-22T02:51:27+00:00

If they recognize you well enough to have an opinion about you they'll remember how much or little you drink. Tip well and you'll be welcome there.

hypnobear · 2010-04-22T03:38:22+00:00

Let me get this straight.

You're planning on picking up the bartender but you don't drink and you're worried that you need some sort of gimmick to make sure they don't refill your glass or wonder why you're not drinking?

I don't get it. But just talk to her and try to connect, but, if you're new at this picking up a bar tender is hard for anyone, especially cause she's going to be at work.

Maybe just hit on the patrons instead. Or something. I don't think I get the question.

Good luck.

edit: spellcheck

returnofdoom · 2010-04-22T03:50:03+00:00

Get mixed drinks with weak liquor. Also, the bartenders that I get along with usually don't mind at all when I order water or soda. It would be a good idea to tip still though.

2010-04-22T23:10:53+00:00

Are you trying to date her or befriend her. If you're trying to date her its a better idea that you don't drink because you don't want to approach her as a customer. I don't drink at all. It's gross. But I still go out to bars because I think it's fun.

Either way, she's human.

Listro · 2010-04-28T03:22:16+00:00

When you say you're at the bar, do you mean you're actually standing next to the bar where the bartenders are trying to pour drinks for people? Or do you mean you're in the building that is a bar?

If you're standing by the place people are ordering drinks all night...that just seems really weird to me. Why are you doing this?

If, on the other hand, you are in the building that is a bar and walking around then why would saying, "I'm good right now" be a problem? I go to bars all the time and don't order a drink. I don't understand why this is a question if this is what you're doing.

roxxe · 2010-04-22T09:16:12+00:00

pussy, tell her you don't drink, if she doesn't respect that, it's her problem

Title	drink fu
Author	nooneinparticular
Upvotes	3
Comments	26
Date	April 22, 2010 2:49 AM UTC (16 years ago)
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