The Complete Guide to Not Giving a Fuck

bonix · 2011-10-19T04:14:29+00:00

I always read this kind of advice and think, fuck yes its so obvious! who gives a fuck!

Then I slip back into stupid anti social boredom and any interaction I do have is plagued with a constant need of acceptance from people.

I did enjoy this article though and am going to try again tomorrow.

axelwetzel · 2011-10-19T04:30:50+00:00

definition of a contradiction: giving enough of a fuck to not give a fuck that you read a guide on how to not give a fuck better

mogdit · 2011-10-19T08:35:26+00:00

From personal and "current in the moment" experiences, I can say alot of these guidelines have pushed me in the direction of being in control of my self and my surroundings, rather the surroundings controlling me.

I have with unfortunately good reasons been very sensitive to being jugded and what other thinks of me most of my life. Which lead to me becoming as invisible as possible in most social situations. Holding back what I generaly would call to live life. Starting accepting that being judged of others is a part of life, and the true judge is no other than yourself, I've managed to turn that coin around and care less about what others might think about me.

Now I'm currently going through the second fact of that blog, as I've over the year seen the true colors of some of my friends. To cut it short, we have fun together once in a while, but most of the time they doesnt seem to give a shit about my well being or appreciate the things I've done for them. Instead they speculate on lot of shit behind my back, and I dont even want to know what that could be. Which brings me to the second fact and simply put: I don't need people who makes me feel bad. And I'm not concered about cutting them off my life, cause I know Im better off without. It's a scary thing to think about and do (might end up forever alone in the end), but I only need my real good friends which is mentioned in Fact 3. I'm feel fortunate to have my remaning few good friends today, and all the fun things we do together.

tl;dr: I didnt give a fuck and took control of my own life and boundaries. Feels good.

Speedtarzanjujitsu · 2011-10-19T04:17:49+00:00

I feel like this almost all the time. It's always fun to fuck with people just to see how they react in a socially awkward setting as well. Someone who doesn't care doesn't worry about how society will react to their shenanigans. Cheers!

fapstatuslegit · 2011-10-19T05:04:28+00:00

I like how nice the site looks.

dlbear · 2011-10-19T10:05:28+00:00

RE "You don’t need everyone to like you." My dad always put it "If more than half the people you meet like you, you're doing better me."

2011-10-19T10:56:28+00:00

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spivey378 · 2011-10-19T10:58:05+00:00

How do you not give a fuck if you want to set up a day two? Just have the mentality whatever happens happens? Flakes kind of fuck me up and confuse me and make me give a fuck when I originally didn't.

T3hJ3hu · 2011-10-19T16:47:36+00:00

Valid points, but I offer a warning: Don't take it too far. It's not so much "not giving a fuck" as it is being comfortable with yourself, your actions, and your expressions. It's doing or saying something because you want to and not bowing down to the fear of judgment. I went a little overboard with the "not giving a fuck" when I first started improving myself, and I ended up acting like a total dick for a few months. I thought I was just standing up for myself and not caring about people's judgments, but I was actually not caring about their opinions at all.

I'd also warn about fighting "the eye". Whether you like it or not, those thoughts keeping you in check in social situations are another part of you -- they've been developing unconsciously your whole life to help you master social interactions. That's not to say that you should bend over to the fears it induces, either; both are foolish. Instead, you should listen to it, welcome its advice, and factor it in. Not wanting to say something because you're afraid of being embarrassed is a lot different from not wanting to say something because it will humiliate someone undeserving.

RcskaSedd · 2011-10-19T01:32:50+00:00

This is just what I was looking for. What a great blog. Thank you.

2011-10-19T03:48:44+00:00

"don't give a fuck, just like a senor citizen"

"do not give a fuck, i've got the swagger of a virgin's dick"

"if i gave a fuck, it's probably from my dick"

-odd future. a lot of rap is centered around not giving a fuck.

Itsatrapski · 2011-10-19T05:44:50+00:00

I was getting depressed that I felt a strong connection to the first part of the article. Then I read that last 5 steps and realized I'll be doing about 4 of them tomorrow with a chick that friend-zoned me in a complicated way. Hopefully things go well now.

Zergbong · 2011-10-19T14:59:35+00:00

I've never met a player who cared.

RedWiggler · 2011-10-19T15:09:55+00:00

I read the first part, liked it, then bookmarked it for later when I give a fuck.

MidnightThunderboy · 2011-10-19T15:18:58+00:00

anything you do is fine as long as it isn’t seriously hurting anyone else

Wow

Kirill88 · 2011-10-19T15:55:26+00:00

i do not giving a fuck about reading Guide to Not Giving a Fuck

cody_au · 2011-10-19T02:49:07+00:00

Surprisingly good advice. Finally, someone else who is 31 and gets it.

Tarblz · 2011-10-19T03:43:29+00:00

I don't think I'm ever going to be able to understand this kind of mentality. Whenever I try to use it I just become depressed and apathetic. So I don't.

nindgod · 2011-10-19T03:08:17+00:00

Great post. Upvoted.

nycprowl · 2011-10-19T04:17:36+00:00

Nice guide. I have the not giving a fuck down to about 90% (thank you punk music growing up), it's the awkwardness I have a hard time with. I need to not give a fuck about when things are awkward.

wasdninja · 2011-10-21T12:53:51+00:00

FACT NUMBER 4. Those who don’t give a fuck change the world. The rest do not.

Those who don't give a fuck won't change anything, by definition.

lostkauze · 2011-10-19T12:10:55+00:00

You guys are too weak to stop giving a fuck anyway.

Title	The Complete Guide to Not Giving a Fuck
Author	dnLmicky
Upvotes	253
Comments	36
Date	October 18, 2011 11:54 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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