Winter depression, staying social and pickup?

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-11-28T04:35:46+00:00

I'm sure you're aware that seasonal depression is often treated by exposure to lights. This is supposed to give offset the effect of shorter days. Let me give you a related idea. I read a suggestion that you avoid TV and computer screens for at least an hour or two before you go to sleep. This supposedly lets you get better sleep since your eyes and brain haven't been processing a raster image for a while. Maybe read a book or something (no not an ebook).

But on a more pickup-related note.. I'm reading some materials that suggest you try to add one or two specific outside activities per week, something you wouldn't normally do, that will get you up off your ass and out of your house. And not just going to your local bar and doing cold approaches, something with a specific social context, like take an evening class, go to an art opening, look for one-off events like an author you like is doing a book signing, etc. And then when you are home, don't just zone out, spend a little time making some specific improvements on your home environment. Clean your dirty bathroom, maybe straighten up your bookshelves, organize your closet, etc. to make it more welcoming not just for yourself, but for guests.

So the idea is to try to improve both your home life and your outside life, but with small gradual steps. Just pick a time when you can spare 15 or 30 minutes and do something that is not part of your routine, something that will improve your circumstances at home and also out building new social contacts.

july25 · 2012-11-28T06:16:47+00:00

I get this too, I've been dealing with it by looking at motivational shit every day, taking action, and dealing with the paradigms associated with that. You can always do it, doesn't matter if it sucks, you can still go out there and own it. State is irrelevant, how you feel isn't always under your control. What you can control though, is the fact that you're taking action, and then just trust in the process and the fact that you'll get into state eventually, because it always happens. Focus on the process, not the outcome. There comes a point where you just need to cut the shit, and do it, while realizing that you either can do it or not do it, and that it's really just that simple. Like seriously, think about that for a second, it really is just that simple.

Meditation and good sleep's also helped me out tremendously.

secret-sauce · 2012-11-28T06:54:25+00:00

You say you eat healthy, does that include taking vitamins? Vitamin D is great for alleviating seasonal affective disorder / winter depression. I take ~1000 IU / day when sunlight is scarce, and it seems to help. If you are taking vitamin D, make sure you get some vitamin A as well, because you can't absorb one without the other. Also, fish oil is tits, it has totally improved my mood and sleep patterns.

EricDisco · 2012-11-28T13:08:41+00:00

What you have is called Seasonal Affective Disorder (S.A.D.). I highly recommend a full-spectrum lamp to use for light therapy. I am a huge skeptic and detest pseudoscience, but light therapy is not pseudoscience. Numerous clinical studies have proven its effectiveness. Light therapy has changed my life and stopped the cyclical depression I used to get. I can't recommend it enough.

uberafc · 2012-11-28T14:48:29+00:00

Yes i'm dealing with this right now. I mean i've always had some mild depression but during the winter months it seems to always get much worse. I feel more lonely, longing for companionship, each rejection hurts more, i get way too emotionally invested, and hate waking up and getting out of bed in the morning, my appetite is also not the same.

I'm honestly not sure how to overcome it, but I'm greatful to see this post here, because I woke up today feeling like shit and Seddit always seems to have stuff that I can instantly relate to. You basically saved me from "thinking" about making a post like this, because honestly i never would have made it, just believing i was the only one feeling like this right now.

dablac · 2012-11-28T15:38:03+00:00

Stop forcing yourself, sometimes you just need to take a break. Tell your friends that you're taking a vacation or going out of town and break all contact for a while.

Alternatively, you could try just doing things without trying to stay motivated. Just do them anyway. You always know what to do, so do it and never consider the consequences unless there's some sort of danger.

Or... come to Australia for a while.

MonkeySteriods · 2012-11-29T02:48:14+00:00

I find that people are more interested in meeting other people in the colder months than in the summer.

_mad_martigan · 2012-11-29T03:21:48+00:00

I don't know if this is an option for you but it works wonders for me. I live in a place that has very long winter's so I always try to break it up with a winter trip to anywhere where it's summer. South America, New Zealand, Australia, etc. I always come back feeling brand new.

Methaxetamine · 2012-11-28T20:18:38+00:00

If you're not opposed to drugs they're a great help; and some like opiates will make you last longer during sex. I am a drug addict tho, and it's not debilitating for me although it gets pretty expensive.

I have a full spectrum light. Doesn't really help; sunlight is better. The light is just harsh but no reason not to try it yourself it's cheaper than drug addiction. On amazon it is like 25 bucks for 4x awesome bulbs. They seem to help my plant tho.

I'm antisocial by default. I spend time on computer; which is a great reason for you to make an online profile. I've gotten sex from this. You can too if you're good looking. I'm not that great looking so I only get a few but hey: it's sex I wouldn't have gotten if I didn't idle online!

Title	Winter depression, staying social and pickup?
Author	nycprowl
Upvotes	12
Comments	21
Date	November 28, 2012 4:06 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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