What are some male iois? Also how can i attract a guys attention/seem approachable?

wompwompwoomp · 2013-01-11T04:23:40+00:00

I can think of some male IOIs based on my own experience. You can usually tell that a guy is into you when he...

Openly ignores you, like when talking to or joking with people in your vicinity but feigns unawareness of your reactions/comments/responses
Gives you an inquiring look; It doesn't have to be from head to toe, can even be at just one part of your body/outfit/baggage
Smiles or laughs at your jokes
Doesn't smile or laugh at your jokes, but teases you about them instead
Teases you about some seemingly insignificant details, trying to make it sound like it's a big deal (in a playful manner)
Starts talking louder whenever you're near (to make you hear his witty and hilarious quips)
Gets all quiet whenever you're near (for fear of saying something stupid)
Elbows his wingman/wingwoman/bros while nodding in your general direction
Makes an effort to get as close to you as possible even if you aren't directly interacting with each other
Tries to start a conversation (by asking a question, telling you a situational joke, etc.)

As for your second question, I personally find women attractive/approachable when they...

Smile
Giggle or laugh at what I'm doing or saying
Shoot a comment at me unexpectedly, seemingly impressed (with whatever funny/remarkable thing that I did/said)
Tries to kino me (holds my arm, taps my shoulder, puts her hand on my leg, etc.)
Ask questions and try to start a conversation

There are plenty more, but these are the ones that I can list off the top of my head.

nittutt · 2013-01-11T08:46:19+00:00

I think the best male IOI is that he approaches you.

Laughing_Jelly_Bean · 2013-01-11T02:34:46+00:00

Eye contact. Smiling. Standing up straighter/sucking in his gut. Preening, grooming. etc. It's basically the same as female IOI's.

wompwompwoomp · 2013-01-11T06:19:12+00:00

I can tell you right now that you should make sure you seem like you're enjoying the interaction if you are interested in the guy.

I live in the same hall with and share a class with this one pretty girl who came up and sat with me for lunch in the dining hall a couple of times. I took that as an IOI. When we interacted, however, she would not smile, laugh, add to the conversation and didn't hardly look at me. It made me feel like complete shit because I thought she wanted to get away from me. I didn't eat lunch with her again. I noticed, however, that whenever she was near, she would shoot me passive IOIs such as glancing in my direction and actually standing in the middle of my doorway with her back to me as she chatted to her friends in the hall. I began observing her more closely. She seemed to exhibit some nervous behaviors and mannerisms. The girl had bad social skills and was in fact too shy to engage with me. So if you're interested in a guy, make sure you show it.

On the flip side, I hit on a girl in a club who giggled at everything I said without saying anything of substance. I got the feeling that she was laughing at me, so I left. My friends, who had been watching the whole affair, told me that I could have had something there.

Untraced · 2013-01-11T06:52:46+00:00

Had the worst female experience of my life on the weekend. As in the "Oh fuck, get your shoes on and get out before she crazies-out on you."

If you think something isn't going along in a sexy way, don't act like it's not sexy. Pretend that everything's fine and the mood is still there. Genuinely allow yourself to feel this.

Don't joke too much about sexual things - if you can't say them outright, it means you're probably embarassed by them. This doesn't mean saying "Wanna fuck?" in the least sexy voice you can, because you're nervous because you can tell sex is coming (the girl on the weekend did this). Run with your sexual thoughts and allow them to show in your actions, but in a delicate & subtle way.

Imagine the sexiest you've ever felt. Bring yourself back to that feeling when you want - memorize the feeling of it. How you'd move, how you'd talk, everything. Takes yourself back there in normal conversation. Act in the same way you would act immediately after you know somebody got their satisfaction to you.

Spend some time each day focusing on relaxing all of your muscles. Feel out your muscle groups and look for tension and release it. In your jaw, in your lips, in your shoulders. Getting massages in areas that you feel are tense will help this. Remember that being physically tense/physically relaxed is the difference between looking like a nervous schoolgirl and the most sought-after girl in the room.

GoldenEye008 · 2013-01-11T07:09:59+00:00

Also how can i attract a guys attention/seem approachable?

Have you ever considered approaching guys?

2013-01-11T15:18:07+00:00

When I'm interested I KINO.

bk983 · 2013-01-11T15:24:15+00:00

first question: initiating conversation with you

second question: eye contact & smiling

2013-01-11T15:33:21+00:00

I do what I like to call an "eye contact test":

Basically, if I'm looking around and notice a girl I will look at her for a few seconds and wait for her to make eye contact. If she looks at me and then looks away, I will look away for a moment then look back at her. If she's interested, chances are that she will return the second look or do some sort of nervous fidgeting.

This works amazingly well for me and I'm sure a lot of other guys do it as well. So if you notice a guy making eye contact with you then there is a good chance he is interested.

GeneralRouge · 2013-01-11T17:27:24+00:00

-Erections (most bold IOI) -Smiling at you -Breathing

QuackAttack_00 · 2013-01-11T11:44:53+00:00

Just say "I'm Drunk"

ELite_Predator28 · 2013-01-12T06:53:54+00:00

Tell that guy your a gamer. +90000000 chrisma if your a gamer.

Title	What are some male iois? Also how can i attract a guys attention/seem approachable?
Author	wompwompwoomp
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Date	January 11, 2013 2:13 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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