What was your very first approach like?

TheNaughtyGarbageMan · 2013-10-24T03:40:15+00:00

Me: "hi..um I uh.. thought you were really cute and I-"

Her: "um no" walks away

Not exactly a great confidence booster.

deadweight212 · 2013-10-23T23:59:00+00:00

It was pretty easy. Broke out right above minimums, circled around and came in for the perfect landing.

lucasmello · 2013-10-23T23:48:38+00:00

I was in a party and I wanted to hook up with this girl and I knew she was somewhat interested in me so I started talking, used a normal opener, build some connection, escalated the kino. Everything was normal. The turning point was when she was sitting on my lap and started playing with a bracelet I had in my right wrist. I looked into her eyes and said: "you know I a prophet" to which she replied: "Oh really? Prove it" I held my hand open, showing five fingers and said: "In five seconds you are going to be kissed" I started counting down one finger at a time, by the time only one finger was up, our lips were almost touching, and then BANG, K-CLOSE.

absolutepig · 2013-10-24T01:11:49+00:00

It was about a year ago. I approached her she said she had a boyfriend and I just stood there for a few minutes then left.

TailoredSuccess · 2013-10-24T01:24:52+00:00

Hey uhh... Here's. A mechanical pencil. K bye.

daytimeninja · 2013-10-23T23:47:27+00:00

Saw someone eyeing me. Pussed out. Felt like shit. Went back out of disgust and regret with myself. Talked to her. Got her number. Felt alpha as fuck.

rusty84 · 2013-10-24T01:57:31+00:00

She was really nice, but shot me down, real hard.

Bad_Ace_Brother · 2013-10-24T12:53:45+00:00

When I was sixteen me and my buddy decided we were going to actually do day game. So we went to the local mall to give it a shot. The first approach of my life I use a shitty canned opener - nervous as fuck. I saw an older looking redhead (HB 8) walking and I just get up and approached head on (as I had read about) trying to get in her way and stop her.

Me: Hey I'm doing a quick survey - do you floss before or after you brush your teeth?

Her: Ummmm .... I'm really in hurry, bye.

And she just kept walking. Fucking exhilarating.

ApathyTX · 2013-10-23T23:24:59+00:00

I got shot down. Hard.

But isn't that the point?

HGLucky · 2013-10-24T02:32:45+00:00

Drunk, sloppy, and surprisingly successful.

Djmeansdjk · 2013-10-24T00:50:22+00:00

I took my sister to the hospital and holla'd at this bad latina girl (HB8) in front of her mom/best friend (She wasn't sitting next to them). I thought her son was her little brother, and he kinda made it easy by showing me his toy. The girl and her son ended up getting called by a nurse not long after I introduced myself.

I ended up approaching her mom not long after since she stayed in the lobby. I talked to her for a good 20-25 minutes. lol

whomeverIwishtobe · 2013-10-24T01:27:06+00:00

This wasn't my first approach but it was the first real cold approach I did that I can remember. I was skating home from the store with a box of dogfood and this girl waved at me from across the street so I cross and go over to her and ask if she wants to come feed my dog with me. She said no and from there it was pretty much all just a fumble. I thought for sure it would go better than that and I felt like an idiot afterwards, but I also felt free like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I should start approaching more I'm forgetting what that feeling felt like.

Alafran · 2013-10-24T06:01:11+00:00

Saw a girl I thought was really pretty (hb9) and decided that there was no reason not to because I would never see her again, right? The approach went amazing. Got her number, 2 days later I took her to see a movie, which was a horrible idea, but whatever. Basically the date went horrible and I never saw her again. Except every single day walking to and from class. God that was awkward.

TerriblePUA · 2013-10-24T02:22:57+00:00

I used to be very shy when it came to women. I used to be the guy who would wait for her to make the first move, with varying and infrequent success. I went out for a drink with a couple of friends. One of the girls brought a new friend along who was also very shy. Even though she wasn't much of a talker, I could tell she kept trying to catch my eye and laughing along to my jokes. Eventually I just thought "Why the fuck can't I hit on her?", so I did. We snuck outside to make out and ended up dating for a year or so.

I was lucky to not be shut down ;)

Shpirt · 2013-10-24T02:35:31+00:00

In a subway train. I was turned down, but she was nice about it.

blindside06 · 2013-10-24T03:32:27+00:00

I walked for an hour to her office (she was my dads receptionist) working out what to say, before i asked this girl to my formal (prom). She said yes. I was SOOOO nervous.

ElCidVargas · 2013-10-24T09:30:42+00:00

It was something like "I noticed you from across the room and I couldn't help not knowing your name" This was in community college when I was in high school I felt great afterwards. (Not so much now)

elemeno2 · 2013-10-24T11:04:20+00:00

Decided to man up and ask a girl in my dorm that I barely knew out for a drink on the weekend. Knocked on her door, she answered in her pyjamas and a face mask - probably the worst possible timing. As a result, the exchange really did not go as smoothly as I had pictured, and I left feeling pretty rude overall...

Kingspycrab · 2013-10-24T13:19:20+00:00

Waiting near the bus stop, hanging around. I've known this girl a little, an acquaintance of sorts. On and off for a year, I just see her in the hallways at school, that's the end of it. I don't really have the most amount of confidence, and always questioned whether or not I'm "good enough". A little while ago, I just went in and asked her at the bus stop: "Hey there! Would you like to go for a coffee sometime?" Taken aback, she said yes!

The next day, we had coffee(I payed for our drinks, of course) and we hit it off amazingly.

2013-10-24T13:41:28+00:00

For years I never approached a girl and often rejected any advances. I was seriously depressed up to 23, but after dealing with that my life changed.

Fist number I got was when I was viewing a house share, I didn't do anything. She just liked my personality and look and gave it to me. We went out for a while but I had no game and she cheated on me.

First number i scored properly was a friend of a friend in a club. Flirted with her got her number. Went out but the attraction wasn't there.

First proper cold approach was in a pub. 3 foreign girls, with my friend. Got the hottest girls number and I'm currently seeing her. She's actually chasing me for date no.4. My game is so much better.

I've never been rejected as such. I started late I guess and dealt with other issues before entering into game. I use good body language, eye contact and kino to judge whether she's into me so I guess that takes away the chance of verbal rejection. I think being too verbal is a mistake, it puts pressure on things if you tell the girl.you like her instead of just escalating non verbally slowly.

snurrefel · 2013-10-24T14:03:22+00:00

Don't remember my first approach but my first K-close.

Met a girl in the club that I had not seen in years! We hang out for a bit, I introduced her to all my friends and so on. In the club there is an balcony over the dancefloor where we sat down on the couch. Strong eye-contact and then I just said:

"Do you wanna kiss me?"

And we made out for a bit, and I had my eyes open haha. Then tried it with my eyes closed, so much more feeling too it.

Every time I'm having a bad night, I just think of that moment and it gets me in an better mindset pretty fast.

whenimsedditing · 2013-10-24T18:37:01+00:00

Crazy eye contact across the bar

Friend: Yeah, you need to do something about that.

Friends Girl: We're leaving!

Friend: Yeah, you need to do something about that now.

Me: Yeah, I do.

Walk over, big smile She's talking to a friend.

Me: Hey, excuse me, I'm leaving but before I go I thought I should get your number?

Her: Hahaha Um looks at friend

Her Friend: She has a boyfriend.

Me: Okay.

Her Friend: That's him gestures to guy sitting behind them.

Me: Is it?

...

Her: What if I give you my number and he answers?

Me: I'll ask him to pass the phone to you ... do you really share a phone?

Her: Yeah, I don't think so.

Her Friend: But it's cool that you asked, most guys don't even ask.

Me: That's why I asked. Well, you ladies have a good night, I'm off.

Walk out to meet friends

Friend: How was that?

Me: Great.

Friend: Did you get her number?

Me: She has a boyfriend.

Friend's Girl: Her loss man.

Me: It's all good. Still feeling like a boss

ArredWade · 2013-10-24T03:45:49+00:00

To be honest, I never saw a need to dive in head first. By the time I cold approached a total stranger, I had already approached a 4 set featuring one person I knew and got myself in with the others, or started a conversation with a girl I sat next to in a class or something, hundreds of times. Everything I ever did was a tiny step further than the last thing I did. If I cold approached a total stranger when I first got into the game, I would expect it to go horribly.

McCaaw · 2013-10-24T04:42:16+00:00

I(16) was at a party and a cute girl was sitting alone at a table, i then pulled up a chair next to her and said i want to get to know you. We talked for like 2 hours got the number went on a few dates, but things didn't work out. I look back and think how did i get the balls to do that?

HuskyPandaBear · 2013-10-24T03:56:29+00:00

”Hey, is it okay if I copy of your biology worksheet?" Then I met the girl that broke my heart.

kellyhelly · 2013-10-24T04:31:39+00:00

Hopefully I'll find out soon :)

Kj0ttbiten · 2013-10-24T11:02:53+00:00

I was in a nightclub with 2 freinds in Serbia (im Norwegian) and i just walked up to a group of 3 girls and started talking to the one i thougt was the hottest. i tought it was horrible, i was struggling to even get the words out of my mouth and it was like 2 min before the club closed and they left. Adrenaline rush times 100!

twelfthman8 · 2013-10-24T17:06:55+00:00

I just did my first one a few days ago in my class at community college. I thought this girl who sat in front of me was cute and I wanted to get to know her, but I never really got an opportunity to talk to her since she always rushed out of class after it ended. So finally I said fuck it and went middle school mode on her, wrote a note saying "So there's this cute girl who sits in front of me in my sociology class...Do you know her name? :)" and gave it to her in class. At the end of class she told me her name and I introduced myself. Next class, I asked what she was doing that weekend, and she said she had a boyfriend. So then I just decided ah whatever and suggested that we just be friends. She said she didn't think her boyfriend would like that very much. I left it at that and just left. But now class is kinda awkward lol

zach84 · 2013-10-24T20:56:05+00:00

Went down in flames. So it goes.

1nfinity0nhigh · 2013-10-30T04:16:03+00:00

I was on a beach on vacation. Saw a cute girl reading lord of the rings (my fav book). She was sitting with her fam. After seeing her on the beach for the third day in a row, I walked up to her and her sister and said "hey, wanna play some frisbee?" She said no, I walked away. She later felt bad, has her sister invite me over to throw around a volleyball in the water. We hung out for the whole day; she gave me her number the next day, ended up dating her for 3 years lol

SoCalvin · 2013-10-24T01:29:47+00:00

I asked her on a date through text about 3 days after meeting her. She said yes.

Goofymango · 2013-10-29T05:03:45+00:00

After 2+ hours of pussying out I walked by a girl who I thought was cute, and I continued walking. After about 20 feet I finally got some courage and turned around and walked up to her. "Hey you're the cutest girl I've seen all day" "Thank you <giggle>" After some talking I told her to give me her hand because I could palm read lol. "This means you're a good runner. This means blah blah blah. And this means that I just tricked you into letting me hold your hand." We then talked some more and I asked for her number, but she said no and then I asked for a hug instead and got it. She told me she'd give me a hug because I was "so ballsy". That was the best confidence booster ever.

Title	What was your very first approach like?
Author	zach84
Upvotes	20
Comments	48
Date	October 23, 2013 10:54 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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