Hey guys! Just been mulling over my experiences and knowledge for the last year, and I developed some ideas on the differences between what men and women find attractive.

Knowing what turns a woman on to a guy and how to model yourself into those standards is the key to success with women. It's what guys who are natural with women do on a daily basis.

The difference between male and female attraction is this: Male attraction is rooted in the physical first, and the emotional second. Whereas female attraction is rooted in emotional first, and physical second.

Men are turned on by obvious physical traits first, making attraction instant and obvious to themselves. They connect and gain more attraction later through a girls personality and gaining an emotional connection with a woman. Women are turned on by less obvious emotional and character traits as priority, and physical attraction comes shortly after in priority.

Complete attraction towards a man builds slower for a woman because she has to learn about him in some way before she becomes completely attracted. Once this is covered though, his physical appearance (which caught her eye first) becomes the icing on the cake and seals the deal. This can happen in a split second by observing your body language, or over the course of a conversation.

The reason attraction for women is emotional first, is because of outdated biology. Biologically women have a lot more to lose than men when it comes to sex, they risk pregnancy. And in caveman times being pregnant without a partner to look after them could prove fatal. For this reason, women have evolved an attraction rooted in security and connection.

There are in fact two halves to a womans attraction towards a man. If you can flick both of these attraction switches in your interactions with women, then you'll generate attraction quickly, and you'll be able to act on that attraction to further things along.

The first half of this attraction is your emotional and social value.

That is to say how likely and easy it is for you to build an emotional connection and make a woman feel comfortable. Emotional and social value is determined by a collection of character traits and mindsets and is shown through your behaviours and actions.

These traits include things like confidence, openness, acceptance, motivation, honesty, outcome independence, courage etc. They are shown through how you treat other people, how other people treat you, and how well you look after and treat yourself.

Living a life you love, enjoying good times for the sake of good times, having friends you love, and constantly being aware of your options and choosing a life you want to live, all prove you have character, and the potential to connect and make women feel great around you. Having this trait will make women want to become your partner.

The second half is - women want to feel desired.

When a man of high emotional and social value expresses desire for a woman with confidence, it will turn her on. Normally both physically and emotionally. This is because part of attraction is narcissistic in nature, we all like to be desired, but because women are initially turned on emotionally this is more of a priority than it is for men.

Simple actions like holding their hand just a tad longer upon a handshake, or touching knees under the table on a date are subtle signs of confidence AND a desire for the woman, which will flick both of her attraction switches at the same time.

Women enjoy a man with high emotional value making them feel sexy and desired and valued. So long as you have your lifestyle in order, make sure you're pursuing your dates with a comfortable assertiveness which shows to them you're comfortable with your sexuality and your desire for her.

If you know these fundamentals, you can start to see why certain actions of yours have worked and why others don't. So it's worth keeping in mind when reflecting on past interactions.

  • Matt