How to deal with slapping?

Sootfox · 2015-10-04T17:14:52+00:00

Slapping? Who does this? Are you dealing with teenagers?

rmbarnes · 2015-10-04T16:16:30+00:00

Tell them to fuck off.

sedtawy · 2015-10-04T17:49:29+00:00

I think it's a really poorly done shit test. I've never dealt with it myself but getting angry is not the right response. At the same time it's not okay to just take it. The correct response would be to call her on it and put her in a position where she is either embarrassed that she did that or at least has to explain why.

My response would probably be "Excuse me. Did you just slap me? What was that all about?" All with a confused look on my face. It's not really playful but it's just confrontational enough to put her off her guard and bring attention to her social faux pas without devaluing yourself in the process.

false_cut · 2015-10-04T17:16:52+00:00

I would go with just a scathing look, and maybe a "what are you, 5?" put her into an apologetic position, which in turn allows you to be the one with the power to forgive.

SpamFilterHatesMe · 2015-10-04T18:09:11+00:00

Oh, I can help you with this one. Happened to me few times. The trick is to take a slap without a blink or move, unshaken and cold. I look them in the eyes with a slight smug smile and go like "cmon, harder", "are you done?", eyebrow up.

The trick is to not present yourself as a punching bag (or doormat), but as a man who can take a punch, but will not deal with her shit. Like, "lol, this means nothing to me, go ahead, take another one", there's tension "guess am I going to slap you back, or am I just going to walk away after this" (it's easy for me because I've been previously bold and open with her, and my kino is more at the aggressive side, so she knows that I'm not a pussy that's afraid of touching her, you have to set a right frame from the beginning). To manage this you have to send a message that reads "I'm well aware what you're doing, I'm not runnung or hiding or ignoring it, I'm looking you straight in your eyes, I just choose that I don't care or that it effects me whatsoever, but think twice are you going to do it again, I could leave anytime, and I will". She needs to feel that she will lose you because of her behavior. It's usually a playful slap, and playful situation, but she needs to think "oh shit, have I overstepped the boundaries". In 99% of cases she will be very hesitant to do it again and actually gain respect because you're not doormat, you're not hiding in corner with your head in sand to wait for her to finish, but have a strong personality that is present, in a moment, well aware of what's going on.. and unscratched. But always follow it with strong words of different subject afterwards, and it gives you a lot of ammo for a near future, because she feels bad and guilty for what she has done, and you can use it in your game if you play it cool.

There's a video of Tyler (or Julian, I can't remember) that demonstrates this perfectly, better than my words. That's how I learned this. But I'm on mobile, and I can't remember in which infield footage have I seen it.

forseti_ · 2015-10-04T18:45:49+00:00

It sounds like you and the girls are really young. Anyway, it's not okay if you get slapped by someone. Learn to set healthy boundaries. Here is a cool reaction of Tom Cruise after some idiot shoots water in his face. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_4sdfcrycEU

donethat8thetshirt · 2015-10-04T20:08:08+00:00

Slap her on the ass. If she blows up say "I'm sorry, I assumed you were initiating foreplay".

Yalc_ · 2015-10-05T02:18:21+00:00

Tell her: "Do that again, it REALLY turns me on" It's a joke that could open up to more flirty topics.

motorsizzle · 2015-10-04T19:27:04+00:00

I would probably turn to face her, put my hand on her shoulder, and say, "oh I'm sorry, am I not paying enough attention to you?" In a playfully mocking way, as if I were talking to a kitten.

JessePinkman88 · 2015-10-04T23:54:08+00:00

If you don't set boundaries about what you are and are not willing to accept from people, you will lose value.

If it's a playful tap on the face then you could say something like "oh poor baby, acting out because you're not getting enough attention?" in a joking way.

If it's a legitimate slap which hurts or annoys you then tell her shes being annoying and turn your back on her.

Ultimately, if hot girls are trying to get your attention, you've not really got much to complain about hey :)

GLOOTS_OF_PEACE · 2015-10-05T00:29:18+00:00

Slap em back son! Lmao your name is even bam bam bam!

TonyDAbsolute · 2015-10-05T02:48:19+00:00

I've had this happen to me before. You have to draw boundaries.

"If you slap me again, I will bend you over my lap and spank the shit out of you."

Say this seriously.

And if she slaps you, seriously do that.

kemar7856 · 2015-10-04T23:02:09+00:00

HOW CAN SHE SLAP

letsgetrandy · 2015-10-04T17:16:45+00:00

She's trying to escalate.

Hot chicks don't get put in their place very often, so they get away with shit like slapping and other rude shit... but understand this is her weak attempt at kino.

Try something like, "if you want to touch me, you can do it without being so rude... who knows, I might even respond!"

IANAPUA_Yet · 2015-10-04T18:03:27+00:00

If it's playful, play along with it. "I'm sorry, are you not getting enough attention? Here..." and then give her a giant dose of kino. A long, handsy hug would do the trick. Then push her away and go back to whatever you were doing. This a) negs her for being needy, b) ramps up some kino, and c) leaves her wanting more.

If it's not playful, tell her to fuck off.

Lets_Share_This_Name · 2015-10-04T17:42:52+00:00

Yes... You have several options on how to handle this, depending on the situation. As you mention, its usually a group setting. I think your best option is to socially take control of the group. DON'T tolerate this behavior. This is unacceptable. You need to IGNORE her completely. You need to either extract your target from the group. Or extract the group from her. Point out the people in the group you want to hang with and literally move them to another part of the venue. Openly imply that the slapper is not invited to hang out with you, without saying it directly as it will cause a confrontation. If she asks why can't she come, just ignore her and proceed. Hope this helps.

edit: This is going to demonstrate that disrespecting you doesn't go well wit you. When she comes back around in your group, she will understand this.

Rayjaysdick · 2015-10-04T22:21:14+00:00

These are not the girls you want to interact with

DaygameCoach · 2015-10-05T03:34:18+00:00

Tell her if she does it again you will spank her. If she does it...she wants you to spank her, so do it.

evilgenivs · 2015-10-05T23:16:08+00:00

No idea.

When she slaps, grab her arm, step towards her, really close, look in her eyes and say "come on, harder, I like it". With a smirk, sexual face? Not sure. Just trying to come up with something fam.

Title	How to deal with slapping?
Author	BAM_BAM_BAM
Upvotes	7
Comments	32
Date	October 4, 2015 3:41 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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