I was friendzoned for the 3rd time. What do

TunechiOnYoTunaFish · 2017-05-26T23:52:59+00:00

It can be hard if you're used to being friendzoned. It's a tough lesson to learn, but all your really need to do is put your arms out front, lean side to side. She gon' be on you when she see you hit that Dougie right.

smoochie100 · 2017-05-26T22:02:34+00:00

"The friendzone" doesn't exist. Nobody is forcing you to be her friend. Some people aren't just attracted to you. Big deal, right?

2017-05-26T23:35:56+00:00

Why are you doing this all via text and why are you just fucking around for weeks before doing anything?

BecauseScience · 2017-05-27T02:15:03+00:00

You can start by never using "what do?" ever again.

DaygameCoach · 2017-05-26T22:56:06+00:00

Be clear in your intent from the first meeting. Escalate, including physically. Don't accept the friends frame...if they won't be more than friends...move on...sometimes the willingness to walk saves you (because they don't have the option to keep you around as a friend)...happened to me with 2 of my serious GFs.

Read Mode One if you need help in being direct.

Read the sidebar help too.

RedBloodedAmerican76 · 2017-05-26T21:24:10+00:00

Let go of your expectations, have abundance mentality and escalate

Woujo · 2017-05-26T21:34:48+00:00

You're being needy probably

2017-05-27T02:20:42+00:00

I'm overwhelmed by the amount of replies haha. Sry but I can't answer you all!

Well then. Thinking about it after a cold shower eased me a bit, cause I probably fcked up at some point, I just can't recall it rn. I usually take long to make a move (literally). It's like I can explicitly say to a girl "I wanna bang you tonight", but my body language doesn't say so, it usually sends the message that "I will act friendly and nice because I don't want to scare you away".

That is probably my classic shoot in the foot. I will definitely improve that, and will read all the content and sidebar, plus watch the vid that someone mentioned here.

I still don't consider myself a player, but I took interested in the subject a few weeks ago. After the reading is done I'll put it all in practice. You guys can wait more posts coming from me in the next months :)

Thanks for the criticism/tips/thoughts!

RabbitEater2 · 2017-05-27T02:30:59+00:00

since the very first days we met (it's been a couple weeks)

You shouldn't waste a couple of weeks before asking her out, if you notice attraction you gotta strike it while it's hot. She could also be the kind to enjoy attention/flirting so maybe she's just that.

2017-05-27T18:55:41+00:00

Buzz off that beard, really beards are terrible and they don't make you look older. If she's not interested she's not interested, move on. Don't drag it out hoping for a change.

Jarn_Tybalt · 2017-05-27T01:30:09+00:00

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CibrecaNA · 2017-05-27T01:32:06+00:00

You're taking too long. A couple of weeks and you haven't made out means you're not even trying to make out.

Just isolate her and let her have the kisses. Then escalate from there.

whatwasthatcat · 2017-05-27T01:53:30+00:00

If a girl calls you "cute" forget her and try other girls. That is code for friendzone. I have a very similar story: on the first day of a new class, I flirted with this girl, and she immediately flirted back. For the rest of the semester, she always kept touching me, leaning into me, brushing herself into me, acting cute around me and stuff. However, on the 2nd class, she started sitting with this tall ugly big guy and I saw him texting her. That's when I knew that she just found me cute and friendzoned me. I was just a cute teddybear for her. She wanted to get rawdogged by that ugly big tall guy. That's how girls are, never try to be "cute" for a girl, they prefer ugly big guys because they find them more masculine. So I ignored her after that, but she still touched me any chance she got.

So yes, she friendzoned you, she never wanted to go out with you. Keep lifting.

2017-05-26T22:43:26+00:00

Thanks for the replies! I'll give it a thought before sleeping. :)

RalphWiggum123 · 2017-05-27T01:19:08+00:00

Has there been any escalation at all?
How do you know you're "friendzoned"? Did she specifically address you as a friend?

cyan1618 · 2017-05-27T02:24:34+00:00

"3rd time"? That's a rookie number!

Vaginuh · 2017-05-27T03:47:03+00:00

Work out.

pacg · 2017-05-27T04:11:39+00:00

Sounds like you waited too long to express your interest.

SaigonNoseBiter · 2017-05-27T05:07:46+00:00

The biggest thing that has changed from when i was in your shoes is that I have become an expert at identifying when girls are not interested in me, and I quickly move on. It took a lot of, what i thought at the time, were near misses that ended in the friend zone to build these skills. Don't get discouraged, keep at it.

Chrpropaganda · 2017-05-27T13:59:31+00:00

You'll be put into that place more than 3 times dude. Just means they aren't digging you sexually, which is fine. People are different. Get over her and move on to the next girl. It truly is a numbers game man.

luaudesign · 2017-05-26T22:38:30+00:00

Stop making friends with girls.

koolman101 · 2017-05-27T04:13:12+00:00

Forget about all this. Having female friends is a good thing! Keep her around as a friend. To things will happen, her seeing you date other women will make her jealous or she'll validate you to other women and the others you date will get jealous of her.

The most important part of this is to introduce her to other girls you are seeing. This sub severely under values the female friend.

Title	I was friendzoned for the 3rd time. What do
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Date	May 26, 2017 9:06 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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