I'm 37, tall and thin at 6'6", not that attractive, balding and going through a divorce. I'm smart, creative, make good money, have a ton of hobbies, and am a musician in my free time.
Had a friend cancel on me on Friday, so I said fuck it, I'm going out by myself
I went to a popular super busy bar, and noticed two girls next to me while I ordered my drink. I asked where they were from, and they were also locals (most people at this bar are from out of town). I said "lame", and then they asked me where I was from and said this city too. Had a little laugh and then I said I had to meet a friend upstairs and left as I couldn't get a good read on the vibe
Upstairs I had to wait in line to go to the 3rd floor and noticed they had come up and were a couple people back, so I went back and started chatting with them while we waited. They were young, 22, but were interested in chatting. Talked for a bit, then turned out they were no longer letting people up so I asked if I could get them a drink and they said sure! Bought a drink, chatted, and then parted ways (they went downstairs)
Decided to dance, but not a lot of girls and the guys were fucking vultures. Luckily they came back up and we started dancing. At this point I ask if I could give her my number and she said "sure!"
Bought us all shots, we danced some more, then they had a legit friend emergency, gave me a big hug, and then had to go. She later apologized for having to jet and said she would be down to meet up the next day
I decided to leave and head home, and while walking on the street got another girls number
Then joked around with a small group of girls who then invited me to come up to an office and keep drinking as the bars were about to shut down at 2am
connected with one of the cute girls and just had a really good time (she was married w/kids, liked the attention but I didn't advance because of that). At 6am we were hammered, and all the hotels were full, so they came back with me to crash at my place (nothing sexual...we just needed to pass out)
10/10 will do again this weekend!
Edit: meant to say this was a huge confidence boost for me! This wasn't easy, and I used to be super anxious when I talked to to girls. I learned to talk to girls when I was married and it didn't matter...still gotta just pretend like it doesn't matter!
Edit2: and just for reference, it's very hard for me to get tinder/hinge connections. Especially not the caliber of girl I'd actually consider dating.
Edit3: also I was wearing slim jeans, white puma shoes, a well fitting button down short sleeve shirt with a cardigan on top. And of course a hat to hide my baldness
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