How to be mysterious without appearing like a loner?

random_question4123 · 2018-03-09T15:10:16+00:00

Be attractive

Posting717 · 2018-03-09T18:40:01+00:00

Inner confidence introvert = mysterious Insecure introvert = weird

nofapstreakcounter · 2018-03-10T00:52:22+00:00

Buy a batman costume and wear it when interacting with women

ImJustSo · 2018-03-09T16:53:12+00:00

Look alive. Look curious and inquisitive. Be expressive with your face (smiles and eyebrows) and just keep your mouth shut unless someone tries engaging you, then talk slowly and accurately, well thought out.

Also, you should be stylish as a mother fucker. Hair, clothes, shoes, sharp as a tack.

I'm extremely extroverted, but there's certain social situations where I just know I'm going to be more attractive in my presence, rather than trying to get words in. It also frustrates people in group settings, because they know of what I'm capable. Typically, they drag me into conversations, then so does everyone else.

You essentially want to be the attention everyone seeks, but it's a very active passivity.

tangerineeniregnat · 2018-03-10T00:19:16+00:00

Make an Instagram and put some thought into it

For some reason PUAs stay away from it, but it’s literally a platform for normie dating or where you develop social value. Probably because PUAs are usually nerdy social losers at the start.

If you have an Instagram and you post stories often, people message you etc

GuyFromDaStore · 2018-03-09T23:40:04+00:00

Mystery is what a womans sees in a guy its not necessarily what you give off.

A lone wolf is comfortable being alone, a loner looks around helplessly or is uncomfortable in his own skin.

africanpyjamas69 · 2018-03-09T15:18:06+00:00

Be sociable, but don't give up too much information about yourself.

For example when I worked at a restaurant, the people there had no idea I had already studied 2 years in uni until they had known me for about 1½ years.

When women ask you "when did you last have sex" you don't give a serious answer. You can say "tonight", "I don't kiss and tell" etc. By not giving a serious answer you increase her attraction AND her curiousity towards you.

Being mysterious is really the same as making her wonder about who you really are.

Tokemoke · 2018-03-09T17:07:41+00:00

This mysterious vibe thing is a myth. You have to take action. You know what people find mysterious? a guy who is flying solo but can work a whole venue or even just be friendly with everyone because 99% of most people are incapable of being that free.

evan1932 · 2018-03-10T00:44:37+00:00

I found out right after graduating highschool I unintentionally was perceived as mysterious. I was pretty fashionable (even received best dressed in the yearbook, if that means anything), usually walked alone in the hallway, but carried myself well, and I was acquainted or friends with pretty much everyone in my classes and could have a conversation with them, but most of the time, I minded my own business. Inside I was still very self-conscious, but on the outside, I looked confident, dressed very expressively, and knew enough people to not seem like a loner in social situations throughout highschool. Because of this, I would get a lot of looks in the hallway, and a lot of girls had crushes on me, and some would even compliment my clothing, ask me questions about myself, or flirted with me. Having a lot of social anxiety, I wasn't able to reciprocate well, but looking back on it, if I had game, I could easily pick up almost any girl I wanted in highschool, despite having the mindset that I was worthless amongst others back then.

natephant · 2018-03-09T19:35:48+00:00

Become familiar with the area. Not just one venue, but multiple venues... you’ll find a lot of bartenders/club owners etc hang out at each other’s businesses. You become familiar and friendly with them... and you are golden.

You walk in, the bartender knows you. You talk to a girl who is now interested because you seem to be well liked by the staff... you can then see if that girl wants to go to a different spot, where you will be able to enter easily without waiting in lines because the bouncer is familiar with you... and then walk up to the bar and do a shot without so much as waiting.

Now the girl who is super curious will ask “who are you!?”

You can giver her any answer you like... she’ll probably ask the bartender or another employee “does this guy work here?” They say no..

It builds to the mystery.

plowzedong · 2018-03-10T12:28:37+00:00

Don't be an open book. Let her have a peak of what you're doing and what you're about, but never reveal everything and never explain yourself or your reasoning.

Don't be an open book. You can do that and still have friends.

Lambdal7 · 2018-03-10T14:49:05+00:00

Also be playful. That's what makes you not only mysterious but also fun, not weird and interesting.

XDarkstarX1138 · 2018-03-09T16:17:49+00:00

Curious as well. I'm also an introverted guy and want to explore some of the clubs/bars where I live. But, always told it's always good to go with a group and never alone.

Aristox · 2018-03-09T19:12:52+00:00

Alongside the other advice here, it's definitely hard to be mysterious if you don't actually have any depth to your life or genuine mysterys or stuff going on.

That's not an insult to you or anything i dunno if you do. But im just saying that as a rule, unless you got some interesting stuff going on behind the scenes then trying to appear mysterious is just fake and lying, so even if you pull it off, people will see through it soon enough

Join some sports, do some drugs, get into some crazy situations and make some great memories. Go travel. Chat to a homeless person. Volunteer at a charity. Get yourself thrown out of a club for giving the bouncer shit for harassing someone. You cant be all "im mysterious" and then when the girl finds out whats so mysterious about you it's that you've got a big gamerscore on xbox live or some shit 😄

Title	How to be mysterious without appearing like a loner?
Author	ClutchyMilk
Upvotes	21
Comments	31
Date	March 9, 2018 2:27 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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