I do pretty well on tinder. I was a virgin until 21, and only slept with 1 girl by 23. In just over 2 years I've bedded over 30 girls.

But it took a lot of time, effort and patience before getting to the point where I can now get many matches with beautiful girls, set up a date easily and take the girl home on the first night we meet.

I lost 3 stone in weight and hit the gym 3 times a week for over 2 years. I read several books, watched videos and snooped this subreddit for years on tips on seduction. Learned how to dress. Tried many different photos and bios, openers and conversation topics. And I've been on countless dates, many of which didn't go the way I'd hoped. But I learned most from those experiences and becoming extremely comfortable holding a conversation with any girl, then confidently inviting her back to my place.

Yeah so I'm 6'3 and girls tell me I'm very handsome, so I guess I have a big advantage, but believe me... throughout my teenage years girls wouldn't give me a 2nd look. But I think any guy who hits the gym regularly, looks after his appearance, reads up on how to be attractive, and goes out of his way to meet girls will find success eventually. I also very recently moved country to a much bigger city, which I would definitely recommend as I get a lot more attention because there's a much bigger pool of girls, my accent is exotic, and it's a lot easier to start a conversation.

Some tips on tinder:

  1. Get good photos taken of yourself and experiment with them. Main photo clearly of your face (no Snapchat filters or anyone else in your main photo), one of your whole body, one of you doing something talented or fun, one of you traveling, another of your face and one of you with friends.

  2. Write something in your bio, brief but put some things that will give a girl an anchor to send you a message. Also put something funny. If you're tall put your height!

  3. Also if you really want matches and you're happy enough with your profile buy boosts. Best money you will ever spend.

  4. Personalise openers, using their photos or something on their bio, or their song or favorite artist, or a mutual friend. Don't say something generic unless you absolutely have to, and if you do have to, make sure it's funny.

  5. Don't be overtly sexual on tinder. Just be friendly and normal. Most girls that are worth sleeping with won't agree to sex before meeting you first.

  6. Invite the girl for a date of she replies like 5 or 6 times. If you can try and be smooth and direct the conversation to the point of asking to meet up. But don't be afraid just to be blunt and ask for it. Better than nothing.

  7. Ask her if she has WhatsApp or Facebook.

  8. Message her the next day and start a conversation. Suggest a time and place to her. Make the date asap. Try and make it somewhere fun like somewhere with live music, pool table, bowling or an arcade.

  9. When you meet always go for a hug, but make sure she sees it coming.

  10. Chat and have fun. Don't overthink. Try make her feel as comfortable as you can. Be playful and don't be serious. Ask questions. Tell stories. Use eye contact. Be genuine and honest always. Don't talk about exes. Try and steer the conversation to talking about sex when you're both more drunk.

  11. Possibly change venue if the conversation is lacking. After a few drinks, judge the situation. If she touches you or winks or is watching your lips or is biting hers then she probably wants to bang. Just ask her if she wants to go back to yours. You can literally say anything at this point. Say something like I've got booze at mine if you wanna come back for a bit.

  12. Pay for the taxi. Get back to yours, invite her to your room. Start kissing. Foreplay. Fuck her. Fuck her hard. Let her cum first.

Here's a link to my profile if you're interested http://gotinder.com/@freenrich