Taking a massive break from dating apps.

the_gregor_samsa · 2018-11-07T07:02:28+00:00

Only use dating apps when you're traveling and wanna meet new people. Otherwise if you need to do something while waiting for a train or airplane, taking a shit, or at the barber shop or dentist, use Duolingo. Pick a language you might want to learn, and start learning. Otherwise find some other app that's gonna train your brain or teach you something new. If you're single and going out every day of the week or at least a few days a week, you're meeting women anyway.

Schroef · 2018-11-07T08:02:57+00:00

Giving up after 4 is pretty quick I would say. I think you’re taking it a bit too seriously.

never put them on pedestals and I never let myself be too readily available on snap/text yet they flake.

Might be you’re just applying tricks here. The reason you shouldn’t be readily available is because you’re ACTUALLY busy with doing other things, not because you want a girl to respond or feel a certain way.

I’d say you should be SO busy with other things, that if a girl cancels you feel kinda glad because now you can do other things.

kaythanna · 2018-11-07T11:38:37+00:00

You are putting too much emotions into nobody bitches, by the time you find one that's reciprocate you will be bitter and paranoid. Do the action, save the emotions until you actually meet a girl who has potential. Men suck too, it's a number game for all of us.

Don't let flakey bitches tire you, be happy you dodge the bullet. I honestly see guys do this all the time. They get so worried about the inevitable of flakey people, get bitter, than a girl is actually legit and they unload on her. Its human nature, reserve your fucks before they diminish.

Oman2 · 2018-11-07T07:26:14+00:00

There's always a million reasons why they might have, don't beat yourself up over being unable to decipher an entire human through a few lines of text. I only bother to use Tinder in my spare time (though learning a language is actually a great idea), since my track record of tinder dates flaking is honestly depressing.

Shadowfury957 · 2018-11-07T12:38:10+00:00

You might need to chat with them a bit more in between when you make plans for the date and the date itself (or the day of the date). like the day before ask hey how are you today or ask something relevant or funny to a previous conversation, then ask are we still on for tomorrow? then they say yes and you say great :) and maybe talk a little more if you want

I've found i have the same results as you if I completely neglect this in between portion of chatting between when i make the date and the date itself on dating apps. good luck bro

EDIT: "I never let myself be too readily available on snap/text" I would suggest moderating this behavior.. you don't have to completely stop it but I'd mostly avoid playing games, you can text back immediately sometimes especially when she is too, it can create a deeper quicker connection in my experience

Burnmotherefferburn · 2018-11-07T13:02:29+00:00

Back when I did them, I found you need to gently push relatively quickly to meet in person. There's a sweet spot, like a bell curve. Once you're on the downhill side, it's going to be a digital partner only. You can be whoever you want in the cloud life. Some people are on there purely for personal vindication.

Interestingly, guys tend to do the apps in private. Many women would sit in groups and collectively swipe. Don't be a douchebag. You're gonna get laughed at by that group.

A well written profile will get you places, but you need to be able to back that up. I'm glad I'm not playing that game anymore, it literally consumed all of my free time. Get home from work, go to gym, shower and go on a date. You know where I met my amazing girlfriend, at that gym.

Do what you enjoy, and it'll happen naturally. My other suggestion is to join Meetup. Engage in those activities you enjoy, with other like minded people, but don't be a creep. Build friendships, it'll get you places.

neoda1 · 2018-11-07T13:52:36+00:00

its a cash grab man, They just wanted it for a confidence boost.

Mik_Dundee · 2018-11-07T14:17:01+00:00

Choose a different app. Bumble and tinder didn't work for me, however I was able to get dates right away on hinge.

Brostory_com · 2018-11-07T07:50:04+00:00

Been there can relate. Nowdays I just give 0 shit on dating apps, I use it as a fun no investment outlet when I have some timer over. Also whenever I book a date I always have a backup plan like working on my blog, company or something else if she bails so its no big deal if nothing happens.

V4refugee · 2018-11-07T12:43:05+00:00

Four girls flake, so you quit?

ImAnIronmanBtw · 2018-11-07T15:24:16+00:00

Took me years of dating apps before i found a girl i liked and that liked me back. So yeah. Patience and persistance.

rentmypie · 2018-11-07T15:33:29+00:00

try building more rapore. girls have trust issues when it comes to meeting random guys. build the rapore and the trust and you should have better closing rate

snaug · 2018-11-07T15:36:16+00:00

I feel you dude. It's frustrating.

K3wp · 2018-11-07T16:13:12+00:00

It's amazing how you see the same sticking points over and over in this sub. Really helps identify them in your own space.

You should be outcome independent and have an abundance mindset. You should be meeting so many women that a few flakes will not matter (abundance) and when they do it doesn't bother you (outcome independent).

Jacob_961 · 2018-11-07T18:16:22+00:00

Set dates either for the same day or the next. Morning dates are better than evening ones. Morning dates that you can stretch for more than 4 hours and can end up at your place have a high likelihood of going to fucksvile. Otherwise be a jacked model looking guy and get 4000 matches and just write "come over". Online game is king for mega good looking guys. Only game needed is "come over".

sweetpotatuh · 2018-11-07T10:41:51+00:00

Lol quitting after 4 girls. Good luck

MolitoGaming · 2018-11-07T14:36:24+00:00

thats just how women are

Title	Taking a massive break from dating apps.
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Date	November 7, 2018 6:16 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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