“You are good to be friend with!” said many girls I’ve met

asthebroflys · 2019-08-09T19:06:57+00:00

You're not hooking girls. When you are consistently getting "the good friend" thing, they're telling you "I know you're interested in me romantically, but I am not."

Don't be so agreeable.

Give them shit/tease them. Only tease them about things that they can change, never things they can't. Keep it light.

Treat them like they're your friend's unattractive younger sister. I'm not saying be rude. Just be indifferent, they feed off that. They want a challenge.

jackzander · 2019-08-09T22:05:48+00:00

A girl who treats you as a friend is either being sincere, or insincere. Either way, your response is the same.

Shrug it off, treat her like a friend. Notably, talk to her about the (other) girls you're interested in, as any friend would. If she's sincere, she doesn't get weird. You gain another friend, your social circle/proof grows, and you should have a foot in with all of her friends. Abandon intimate ambitions, accept her new platonic station, and enjoy the rewards. There is no loss here.

If she's insincere, she'll be bothered that you so easily only want to be friends with her and her attitude will likely change. She'll either start showing you genuine interest (keep), vain interest to win back yours (iffy), or become undeservedly territorial (leave).

PapiLion81 · 2019-08-09T22:50:11+00:00

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smoothmax · 2019-08-10T00:22:01+00:00

I don't think that physical escalation is absolutely necessary. It can help a lot. Some guys do it all the time naturally and some girls are very receptive. But some guys don't do it at all on the first meeting, some girls are not receptive, and some situations aren't conducive.

I think that you CAN convey intention clearly with non-physical means and not even with direct verbal escalation. Just with facial expression, eye contact, posture and voice tonality.

If you physically escalate and it's not congruent with your body language then it's creepy. So you have to convey your romantic/sexual intention with body language first. Girls are very perceptive of body language so physical kino is therefore not as important as body language.

reginalnz · 2019-08-09T20:14:57+00:00

You should see it as a good thing. Ask her if she has any friends that would date you, and ask why they wouldn't. Start working on the reasons she gives you and date her friends. Date her sister. Date her cousins. Keep making friends with women and date everyone they know. Don't be an idiot and burn bridges listening to the internet hive because she'll tell the whole fucking world you're a walking ticking time bomb of thirst.

nibblersmothership · 2019-08-10T00:49:42+00:00

The easy road of, treat them differential, IMO complete bullshit. You want them to be more sexually interested, be more sexually interesting. You know what they want, the question is, will you put in the work? What really works..diet, exercise, making more $$$, getting good at a hobby, doing cool, fun shit., fuck volunteer at an animal shelter. You want someone better....then be better.

omega_kush · 2019-08-10T04:05:04+00:00

Friend zone them first

Batarse8 · 2019-08-09T22:29:40+00:00

This kept happening to a friend, he seems to be the kind of guy that reflect tenderness, he did some ridiculous stuff to get to a girls pants but it was hard for him until he learnt some girls want to pervert that tenderness out of him, so he kept trying, now he has a smoking hot girl that it’s turn on by his tenderness. Or you change your perception of the girls acknowledging what’s your vibe and changing it mind-setting it everyday or you can keep trying to find a girl that genuinely likes you for what you reflect.

Sorry for bad inglish it’s not my native.

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shinn497 · 2019-08-10T02:01:00+00:00

This is me. Do not know what to do.

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alphafili · 2019-08-09T22:59:14+00:00

You need to establish your intent in an emotionally relevant way from the get-go. Stop trying to make them laugh so much, and start trying to screen for compatibility.

FloydGG24 · 2019-08-10T00:44:19+00:00

I used to be all the ladies “gay” best friend. That’s how they treated me. All the girls loved to be around me, and talked to me about all their problems. The thing is that I was settling for it...I allowed it to happen. And that’s what you’re doing most likely.

If you’re talking to random girls, and they’re all friendzoning you, most likely you’re not being forward (direct)enough. People here are saying tease her, but more importantly be dominant and direct in your approaches and show her that you have no outcome but you won’t settle as friends. If a girl said to me “sorry but I just see us as friends” I say “I’m not looking for a friendship” or “I have enough friends but thanks for the offer” Show her you know what you want. You’re probably being very indirect and safe which will get you friendzoned. When I approach a girl, she knows EXACTLY what I want because I’ll pretty much say it off the bat. “You’re gorgeous, had to come meet you”. I get rejected a lot but never friendzoned at all.

Also I wouldn’t recommend staying around with friendgroups of girls that just see you as a friend. Can it “help” you get more girls? Yup. But you’ll be constantly treated like shit by these girls. Trust me, I was ripped to shredded by a bunch of girls. They knew I was weak so they took advantage of that. Stay in your masculine, you won’t get friendzoned no more.

elsipha · 2019-08-10T12:02:21+00:00

Lmao 99% of the advices here are only useful when attraction is already established.

If you get this comment, then there isnt any tension between you and the girl. Tension is what always establish attraction, it's the energy channel that convey status, power, dominance et male energy within a social interaction (with girls and guys).

If you convey the nice amount of tension (good charisma, confidence, personnality etc ) and she's still not interested, then you will most likely don't get the "lets be friends". If you then become friends it's because you were really meant to be friends not because of some asymetrical non trustworthy interaction that feel forced as fuck

You get it because there is wayyy too much comfort between you and the girl. You think "bad boys" get let's be friend when the girl is not interested ? No, they either get "I want to fuck him so bad" or "what an asshole"

I ll probably get shit for having this opinion but that's just because we live in an era where guys became so feminine that they are trying to get girls like some children trying to figure out what are the rules : escalate physically, establish comfort, blablabla this shit is just too much intellectual and to actually get alot of girls you get the hell out of the intellectual world and moren intune with your male energy but that's not P.C

senddita · 2019-08-10T01:10:30+00:00

That’s not a bad thing ! girls feel comfortable with you and that’s the whole premise of building comfort. The best relationships with women are ones where you are friends as well and mutually enjoy each other’s company.

However if you want to date women then you need to be sexual at the same time and escalate, lead her - dominant masculine energy, kino, teasing and flirting, essentially be direct but be a challenge and keep her on her toes.

Also goes without saying, you need to be willing to get rejected if she’s not vibing, be respectful and gracefully next her, it’s all good.

2019-08-10T00:59:14+00:00

Which girls are you approaching? Are there friends of yours or girls from the street?

BlueRibbon998 · 2019-08-10T02:50:05+00:00

What's your personality like? I only ask because I've come to find out that girls like a challenge from guys. They like a guy who will tease them, poke fun at their habits/flaws, etc. Why? Because generally, guys with those kind of traits are considered more fun to be around--thus they're more attracted to them.

If you're "too nice" (use that term loosely) then you're bound to always find yourself in the friend category from women. Try being a bit more of a tease in the future and see how that goes

uptimex · 2019-08-10T08:03:41+00:00

7 times confess to a girl that you want to fuck her and it will be solved. I won't dig into details but consider this is calculated.

MasterWilson_ · 2019-08-10T08:48:01+00:00

If i were you, I’d tease her by saying “Ah daammnn, who’d wanna be friends with youu? That’s not the road designed for us”.

dopef123 · 2019-08-11T02:16:00+00:00

If girls randomly say that then they are basically giving a big hint they aren’t interested.

There’s not really any easy answer or even answer we could possibly give you based on this post. Human interaction is a complicated thing.

Iconiclyfaded · 2019-08-10T00:09:07+00:00

Get ripped

runningdaisy7 · 2019-08-10T00:33:21+00:00

Maybe don’t try “man to woman” and treat them like a regular fucking person.

MicDrop2017 · 2019-08-10T02:45:25+00:00

What you do then, is take them...very gently...and give them a nice, aggressive (but not too aggressive) kiss--if you have to bend over do it...and then say, "really, would a nice friend such a great kisser too?"

Then say, "catch you later..."

And just walk away.

Title	“You are good to be friend with!” said many girls I’ve met
Author	beepingview
Upvotes	228
Comments	75
Date	August 9, 2019 6:35 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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