25F- i want to improve my sex skills in bed.

Maya-hill · 2020-04-27T12:47:03+00:00

I know it’s not the answer you’re looking for but The way to improve your sex skills is to genuinely enjoy what you’re doing and not feel ashamed to ask for what you want and to love your body and feel comfortable in your skin.

You can’t have good sex if you’re still thinking I’m bad at this, I don’t like that position Bc my cellulite shows there, I think this is what guys (or whatever partner preference) like etc.

There is no magic move or position everyone is different. The only sure fire way to improve their experience is for you to have a good experience. That means knowing what you want first and then it’s easy to get them to tell you the same.

When you’re lost in the moment genuinely enjoying yourself - you could do fucking anything and it’s extremely erotic and they will love it

Goruto1334 · 2020-04-27T13:29:54+00:00

1: enjoy it. I as a male want the girl to have as good of a time as I am and I sense you are disinterested, I in turn will put your pleasure of the back burner and finish ASAP

2: it’s ok to be uncomfortable but you have to try new things. Not necessarily anal or big things like that. But new positions (That your capable of). I messed around with a girl who was scared of anything except missionary, finally I convinced her to try doggy style and she said that is by far her favorite now and those 2 are just tip of the iceberg.

3: if you’re the type to give head (Which you should if you’re trying to improve in bed) have fun with it. If you can’t deepthroat, use your tongue, lick/suck the balls a little, tease him. Not many girls in my experience have done anything more than the “down, up, down, up” and that’s no fun after awhile

4: obviously, be hygienic. We have noses and we can smell unclean vag, as I am sure you can smell a dirty peen

5: while on top, get creative. Too many girls just do the “rub back and forth” the whole time, which feels good but not as good (in my opinion) as the girl squatting on top and going up and down, that is a game changer sex wise.

Can’t think of anything else at the moment. I pretty much just listed all the things I wish the average girl would do in bed to make things pleasurable for the both of us. If there is one last thing, make sure you take your pleasure into account. You’re both entitled to a nut if it is consensual intercourse. If there is something you like that makes you nut, tell him and take the lead. Any real man wants to please the woman as well. Hell, I feel more pride from saying “I made her nut” than “I clapped her cheeks”.

2020-04-27T12:55:42+00:00

Keep in mind that sex is like any other activity, you can be as knowledgeable as possible but experience is priceless.

Gotta_Go_Sonic_Speed · 2020-04-27T15:29:32+00:00

Considering you're a cam girl your skills are pretty good as they are. Nice bait though

PercheMiPiaci · 2020-04-27T12:42:57+00:00

It would be helpful to understand where you interests lie. As a core introduction, you could look at the old classic The Joy of Sex https://www.amazon.com/dp/0307587789/ref=cm_sw_r_em_apa_i_ukTPEb7R9CX6G

If you're looking for techniques to improve certain activities or techniques, then tell us what those are, and we can guide you better

TheDoctorCoach · 2020-04-27T13:58:48+00:00

How is your dirty talk?

User1036X · 2020-04-27T14:26:18+00:00

The key to amazing sex is communication and confidence. The movies lie when they show one night stands as amazing sex. Everyone is unique and so is sex. Also, don't let porn ruin your mindset to what sex skills should be.

2020-04-27T13:29:28+00:00

I have the joy of sex and sexual healing. I literally need to climax or I get very irritated and disatached.
I’m in a long term relationship and things got stale for a number of reasons. recently came across this app which I believe will improve this. It’s called splicer. And matches your with things you do, maybe or don’t want to do. I think we just need to not be insecure and worrying if they do or don’t want it and just start off with the basics. I want to kiss and touch more, especially in between positions. I love hearing him moan but guys tend to be quite which sucks.

ikkeah · 2020-04-27T13:57:15+00:00

Read Sex God Method by Daniel Rose's

igcasanova · 2020-04-27T14:36:46+00:00

I have read no such book, however I have an advice, get a girl or a girlfriend who is borderline frigid. Couple months of trying to get her going and you will become an expert. When girls ask me how did I get so good, this is my reply. Frigid girlfriend for few years.

zicx21 · 2020-04-27T14:43:22+00:00

Yoga, stretching. Anything for the hips and lower back. All men are into flexibility

Dirty talk if he's into it.

Pompoir/Different kegel exercises.

highjinx411 · 2020-04-27T15:05:34+00:00

Someone said to enjoy yourself and be in the moment. Yes that’s true. Also one thing I wanted to add is that sex with different people is different with each one even each time! One girl likes it rough, another just likes regular missionary, maybe it’s that time of the month. It’s impossible to plan ahead and know what they will like and don’t like. Be attentive to them and to your own needs/wants. Watch the boundaries.

doubleOsev · 2020-04-27T16:44:59+00:00

(27M) the types of girls I’ve the best sex with are the women who really enjoy having sex. How does that look? It’s a girl that isn’t afraid to ask for what she wants. Get comfortable with your body so you know how to make yourself orgasm, etc.

Tips 1. Take a shower and brush your teeth (wash your butt).

Use body lotion To keep your skin smooth.
If you don’t like something then say it but don’t knock it until you try it at least once (within limits, like I don’t have to try heroin to tell you that shit is death)

BJ 1. Make sure to have a wet mouth.

Don’t suck as hard as you can but do put effort in sucking.
Use your tongue to swirl around the head of the penis.
Purse your lips and kiss and lick the shaft of the penis.
Use your hands to stroke his body and legs.
You can use your hands to jerk him off
You don’t have to swallow but orgasming in a mouth is soooooo much better than not; it makes us feel sooo good and wanted.
No teeth

Intercourse 1. In missionary take time to hold your own legs up so he can concentrate on himself and you.

Practice kegel exercises so you can flex and grab his dick with your pussy
Don’t be afraid to use toys or lube but for vaginal sex you don’t normal need lube. Be aware that too much lube takes away from friction needed for stimulation and orgasm.
Make sure to say something like “oh that feels good” “yes, fuck me” “you’re gonna make me cum” or moan a little tiny bit at least.

If you want him to go down on you then just say so.

Oh yea, and if you need some more tips. Literally just watch some porn to get some ideas, but don’t scream like the Asians or talk mad shit like American pornstars. You’re looking for the main idea of a sex position but realize male pornstars have longer than average penis and they’re gonna be in weird positions so the camera can get a close up of the penis going into the vagina. Real life sex doesn’t look like porn.

Maya-hill · 2020-04-27T13:36:10+00:00

Most of the times women just lie down and everything has to be done by the guy. Now if you're not doing this you're just doing fine, however there is always scope of improvement. You can just mirror your guy, for example if he is involved in the foreplay too much just do the same, jump over him kiss at his ears, his neck, give him a head and let him beg to nut but don't let do him. Talk dirty, moan and most important be in the moment. I know that yo do most of the things but this is it. You can always try different poses read 'Kamasutra' try anal and let him nut inside you but it totally depends on your preferences. You have to know that most of the women don't do above mentioned things and if you're doing even 50% of these things you're good at bed. The guy who didn't agrees doesn't deserves you. If you want to know anything else, I'll be more than happy to help you.

dstsknnd · 2020-04-27T15:15:57+00:00

There's some YouTube channels that cover different techniques for women! GlamErotica101 is one of my personal favorites

MellowG420 · 2020-04-27T15:23:31+00:00

The Art Of The Plow - Ron Jeremy

MrMemper · 2020-04-27T14:25:45+00:00

Oh! I’d also like to add that being physically fit helps as well. More so for men, but women too.

Xycotic · 2020-04-27T18:53:58+00:00

Like others have said, just enjoy it. I'd rather have someone who is having fun, enthusiastic, communicates, and at least try to reciprocate. Because that's what it's all about, sex is supposed to be fun and feel great! If it's not fun, and doesn't feel great what's the point?

And to reiterate, please dear GOD communicate. You're an active player in your pleasure, give the guy some direction. If the guy doesn't care about your pleasure and doesn't make it fun, then I refer to the above fun comment.

mrmoorer32 · 2020-04-27T19:05:23+00:00

This feels like a troll.... not sure

Quagmire-69 · 2020-04-27T19:31:53+00:00

Come to my house. Giggity

2020-04-27T21:35:09+00:00

Firstly, listen, feel and talk. Communication is the key.

Secondly, take your time and work on your preliminaries. Imagine your sex moment like a build, a progression. You need to keep some ''achievements'' for the climax. Create a frustrating process, where the girl want it, but your turn around (not too much) and excite her more and more.

Thirdly, always enjoy it and play it as a game. Because it's the best game in human history.

stranger-than-danger · 2020-04-27T22:13:06+00:00

Cook to bang by Spencer Walker Just a good read

cheeeezeburgers · 2020-04-27T22:39:04+00:00

Just have more sex, with practice come improvement.

recyclablebanthas · 2020-04-28T02:04:16+00:00

Wrong sub: you want /r/sex

Though I'm proud to see such a constructive and helpful response here, everyone.
OP, you still ought to go to /r/sex and ask your question there, too. This sub is focused on getting something started up, not so much about the actual process or thing happening in bed.

2020-04-29T06:54:12+00:00

My favorite, controlled chaos = phenomenal feeling blowjob.

carlsberg24 · 2020-04-27T15:53:55+00:00

Learn how to cook and clean.

creamyturtle · 2020-04-27T14:37:08+00:00

all you have to do is try new things and pay attention to the girl's reaction. if she is making good noises, keep doing that. if she's not, try new things. keep going until you have a roadmap. every girl is different unfortunately, but some of the same tricks work on (almost) every girl

CensorResistant1 · 2020-04-27T14:17:36+00:00

So watch porn and have sex. That's literally how to improve. Not sure what's unclear about that

25F- i want to improve my sex skills in bed.

Comments

1: enjoy it. I as a male want the girl to have as good of a time as I am and I sense you are disinterested, I in turn will put your pleasure of the back burner and finish ASAP

4: obviously, be hygienic. We have noses and we can smell unclean vag, as I am sure you can smell a dirty peen

5: while on top, get creative. Too many girls just do the “rub back and forth” the whole time, which feels good but not as good (in my opinion) as the girl squatting on top and going up and down, that is a game changer sex wise.

1: why are we shouting

2: That moment where she's cowgirl and just moving forward and backward horizontally... you barely feel shit but at least she's enjoying herself.

Title	25F- i want to improve my sex skills in bed.
Author	Maya-hill
Upvotes	137
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Date	April 27, 2020 12:36 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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