Do you ever 'treat em mean' to 'keep em keen'?

unreal_zeff · 2020-12-16T12:19:47+00:00

Acting busy and treating them mean are totally different things. But yeah usually a "busy" guy seems more attractive to girls. That being said I don't do that shit

excentrik-art · 2020-12-16T15:41:17+00:00

General rule if busy:

Imidiate answer = Busy now, will answer later if complicated or ok/yes/brb/no/idk

Answer within 1 hour = Send answer but few words max one sentence

Answer within 8-12 hours = Few sentences, more thought out

Answer within 24+ hours = Wall of text is ok

If you send wall of text 10 minutes later, you are overly investing. If you send "ok" two days later, you dont give a shit

RiseOfBooty · 2020-12-16T13:48:17+00:00

It isn’t about acting busy, it’s about actually being busy.

idontdobackflips · 2020-12-16T13:08:50+00:00

I take 'treat em mean' like 'hold no quarter' or 'don't hold back'. Like 'that was a mean omelette' mean not 'I kicked her in the shins and called her a bitch' mean.

Not an expert

AlarmingBlackberry42 · 2020-12-16T17:05:01+00:00

The only reason my FWB became my FWB is because he was consistent. He texted first, he was nice, and I didn’t have to guess with him. That’s literally the only reason he won out over the other potentials. Been fuckin his brains out for a few months now. Mean to keep keen only works on girls, not women.

andreecook · 2020-12-16T13:14:55+00:00

Yes I do, but you have to ride a thin line with it, playful teasing and make sure you guys are somewhat into eachother at the very least. And can’t be too hurtful, maybe give her a funny nickname or if she does one thing like trips then have a running joke that she’s clumsy idk just stuff like that that will make her say “omg you just hate me hahah” while she’s laughing

kettlebell_workout · 2020-12-16T13:31:41+00:00

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Tractor-92 · 2020-12-16T13:10:16+00:00

Well man, if you listen to me, you may change your life. There is a guy on YouTube. Coach corey Wayne. Watch his videos and read his book. It s for Free. That guy will explain to you, why they feel more attracted to you, if you give them less attention. -No one is attracted to you... You. They are attracted to your image in their minds.(of course that your person influences that. But their character will also add things to you). What you can do for them and how you make them feel. That s the most important thing. When you give a woman space she will understand this and she will do this : - Her fantesy of you will grow and she will think often about you. How you are, what you re doing etc.. Now she becomes unsure... Is he liking me, or not? Then she starts to pursue you. - Not beeing all over her, you are allready more interesting than 90% of The guys who bombard her with messeges and so on. She will think of you as high value. Nature made women to always be attracted by men who have higer value then them. - I don t know what your level is, but i don t think you re very high on the knoledge ladder. S-o hear me out: You need to become a student of psichology if you want to become good with seduction. Just this site, it s not enough. You come here, ask something and people will give you hints where to look for. As much as i want, i can t give you în writing what i learned the hard way. I give you steps. Ideeas. You take them, learn, act în them and în time you embody the change. Good luck

Mog_Melm · 2020-12-16T16:50:26+00:00

I would add that if you've contracted Nice Guy Syndrome, then having one ounce of backbone feels like you're a Grade A Asshole.

faithinstrangers92 · 2020-12-16T18:11:44+00:00

No I don’t like being too mean honestly I can be a asshole I know. I love being charming and anger or being cruel takes away I feel. But being unavailable and charming? Gold.....I know you want me but imma make you wait. Being a asshole works for super insecure girls but even then I ain’t really the type

hob814 · 2020-12-16T23:44:14+00:00

Well my point is a guy who is always free seems like has nothing in his life like why should she care or talk to him, she can basically talk to him anytime and he will reply. When you cant talk all the time when you busy somedays that means when she can talk to you is a rare time and she has to get the nost potential out of it. It's more like this gold is really expensive because its rare iron isnt because there is alot of it.

If you want to do it you dont have to right away. Like spend time with her for 1 or 2 days but just in case try to say you have to go at the first time (i dont usually do this but you can do it for a safer interaction). I honestly reply when i feel like it. Anyway after few days you can start applying it even not talking to her first if it was always you the one who starts the talking maybe leave her for a week after those few days if she talk talk to het if she doesnt maybe after a week just say hi and you wanted to check up on her (honestly it would have low probability of relationship if she doesnt talk to you first in that week but it can happen).

And again your not an a**hole if you dont reply fast your a guy who have a life and cant be always free and if you are its because she is important which you should do something after a while or when you start a relationship but always return to act busy from time to time.

TravonM · 2020-12-17T01:24:03+00:00

If you have a big purpose in life and pour your energy into it, you naturally won’t have much time for women. You’ll literally have to go out of your way to make time for them. Once you realize how valuable you time is you’ll see women differently. If a woman doesn’t comply or show much interest you won’t have time to sit around and figure out how to get her to reply, you’ll just put your energy into the women who can clearly see your value and appreciate it.

2020-12-17T03:50:49+00:00

Sometimes I do light-teasing, but usually nothing that they may find too offensive or deep to hurt them where they may not want to continue

TosACoinToYourSwitch · 2020-12-24T23:20:46+00:00

Nope. I play 0 games.

But I do baby step emotional escalation. I don't show a girl how interested I am until I see her showing interest back. That's not a game. I'm honest 100%. Fake nothing. But I also match investment and responses and stop talking to anyone who doesn't match me. If I find that I'm responding instantly all the time and she's always taking a minute, we aren't going to be talking long.

I also only date talky women who respond fast when a real conversation gets going. If I start talking to a girl and we do not sit down and have like an active back and forth conversation both replying instantly within 3 days of talking to each other, I move on. If I have a good conversation with a girl and then she gets distant and stops replying promptly at all, I'll ask her when a good time to sit down and have an actual conversation would be, and if that conversation does not happen in a day or two, I move on.

Title	Do you ever 'treat em mean' to 'keep em keen'?
Author	faithinstrangers92
Upvotes	65
Comments	56
Date	December 16, 2020 12:14 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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