Simple girl speaking from heart why how we suck at attraction (video)

BigFunnyBigMoney · 2021-03-20T23:56:03+00:00

Disagree with most of these points, and feeds into the dynamic that men are supposed to “win” women in dating instead of having the relationship be focused on connection/emotion/values.

Women are not princesses, and men are not knights in shining armor. We’re people and adhering to the aforementioned roles creates an unrealistic expectation of how long term, healthy relationships should be formed.

Just my two cents

Ok-Acanthocephala579 · 2021-03-21T02:36:27+00:00

So women think they know what they want, but can’t really say it, and in the end don’t really want what they think they want so ignore what they say they want and do what they really want, which you should just know anyway. Crystal clear.

dreweydecimal · 2021-03-21T04:14:59+00:00

It’s sad that women can ask for validation but when a man does it, it’s a turn off to be used against us. These gender roles created by magazines and social media and movies are ruining relationships.

At the end of the day we’re all human beings who all want to feel loved in relationships.

If this woman is right and this is truly how women as a whole feel, it’s no wonder so many people are unhappy with these ridiculous expectations.

Nado155 · 2021-03-20T23:37:41+00:00

Man for real I watched the video and sometimes I am asking myself if this is all a huge joke, right? I mean it seems like you need a fucking PhD to understand women

GetChillGetThrills · 2021-03-21T00:13:09+00:00

Pretty good vid, basically the best way to sum it is that women like men.

Men make the first move, men take control of the situation, men don't ask permission (to a point obviously), men don't negotiate the terms of the relationship with women, men just act.

Feminized men ask permission, they're passive, they wait for the right time

2021-03-21T04:33:59+00:00

Been following her for years now the only girl that actually spills the beans

MisterShogunate · 2021-03-21T14:45:16+00:00

YOU want to be what the WOMAN wants to be. But the woman has more clout in the dating market so she's gonna get to play the leading role whether you like it or not. The woman wants you to shower HER with attention, compliments, adoration, offerings. Not the other way around. She doesn't want to give to you. She wants to receive. If she senses you want to RECEIVE too much, she will see you as "wanting to be the girl" in the relationship. So make peace with the idea that she wants to see you wanting to be the GIVER. The father figure. The older, wiser man. And she wants to be the princess.

Lol I've never been in a good relationship where the focus is all on the woman. This is written from a narcissist's point of view.

svstonefree · 2021-03-21T03:51:29+00:00

Everything this woman says is spot on, 100% accurate. Unfortunately the feminist narrative has screwed it up for everyone—men and women—trying to get together along traditional gender roles of the man strongly leading and taking and the woman ‘wanting it to just happen’ without having to take responsibility for her deep desire and thorough enjoyment in being ravished. Feminism is castrating men, which is exactly what some feminists want—not the equality and celebration of the full potential of both genders, but rather down with CIS men (aka ‘the patriarchy’) and more and more and more power to women. That’s where we’re at today. A man cannot look at a woman for too long without being accused of sexual harassment, leaning in for a kiss is now an example of sexual assault, and the fear of a rape allegation has made any wise man insist upon clear, enthusiastic, sober consent before ravishing his love for both persons’ pleasure. Total mood killer, as this YouTuber says, but that’s where we’re at. It’s not the men’s fault. It’s not the women’s fault. It’s just where we’re at and it’s up to all of us to find ways to have awesome fucking sex again, if that’s the world we want to live in. Again, everything this woman says is completely true but it is not enough to simply tell men they need to step up and take the lead again. Women must step up and do the same, in their own way, to make men feel safe taking the lead. I don’t know what that is.

Thelonious_Cube · 2021-03-21T09:12:30+00:00

"Is this going to be all about me or all about him?"

Those are your only options? Bye!

JuneBerryBug94 · 2021-03-21T07:11:43+00:00

Look, as a woman who absolutely loathes pickup tactics and most of the stuff I see posted here... please please please do not take bullshit like what this girl is spewing to heart.

This video literally featured a girl describing her own personal kink to be “ravaged” and play the stereotypical “woman to be taken care of” trope.

It doesn’t have to be that fucking convoluted. Find someone you like, treat them like a human.

Boomachick · 2021-03-21T07:53:29+00:00

As a single female with overly high expectations myself, she is SPOT on (in terms of fantasy). Not saying it’s healthy, not saying it’s right, but she has broken down the feminine/masculine sexual-fantasy dynamic that is actually going on in most women’s heads... whether you like it or not.

If you don’t believe her, try showing it to a woman in your life that you think will have an unbiased and genuine response to the video (and has a lot of female friends that she can reflect on where their fantasies lay too). This simple girl is speaking truth, I think the important thing is for women to recognize A) this is truly fantasy, no man is actually capable of this 24/7 B) in order to receive this treatment at all, she has to reciprocate something as well... usually nurturing, unconditional love and emotional support for her man! (haha so is that a man’s fantasy??)

workingatmcdo · 2021-03-21T02:35:24+00:00

Damn her comment sections is filled with misogynistic men...you want to understand woman? Well start to understand that they are all different individuals that have diffrent needs and desires don't try to ''have'' all woman. Start with one.

MusaTO · 2021-03-20T22:52:20+00:00

Good find

Sultmaker_9000 · 2021-03-21T00:44:42+00:00

All good advice, point 1 on talking about yourself is very underrated, never do that, you should remain a man of mystery where possible , she should be thinking "I feel like I've known this guy for ages but don't know anything about him", always let a woman talk about her favourite subject... herself, like 90% of the talking if you can get it that high.. The other points are just about being masculine.

MatingAdvice · 2021-03-21T09:42:14+00:00

"5 Unattractive Attitudes Women Secretly SENSE in Men but Will Never Admit"

What do women bring to the table? I could make a list of unattractive attitudes of women as well:

Being fat => Not attractive. And no, being fat doesn't mean being "thicc" as in fit. If you are fat you are unattractive and unhealthy. Work on that.
Having a huge N count => Not attractive. Yes, you can still be good for a one night stand, but you are too broken for a long term relationship.
Doing drugs, having tattoos, piercings => Not attractive. You don't put a sticker on a Ferrari.
Too masculine / dominant / aggressive => Not attractive.

iiexistenzeii · 2021-03-21T11:20:56+00:00

This is bad advice, and a lot of people think it's good

Title	Simple girl speaking from heart why how we suck at attraction (video)
Author	Pioneer4ik
Upvotes	151
Comments	63
Date	March 20, 2021 8:35 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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