Story is too long and crazy to tell, but TL;DR is my ex cheated with a coworker and turned our family's life upsidedown for her selfish affair fog and brain addled with drugs instead of therapy.

I did the dumb shit you never should (if you're newly separated, please please please follow the advice here) — cried over her, begged her, tried everything to fix it. I'm sure I blew all chances to salvage anything as she lost respect for me. Wish I'd read No More Mr. Nice Guy and such earlier.

Fast forward though and I rediscovered myself. Hell, I killed the man she molded me into with her nagging and her vision for a husband and father which apparently wasn't what she wanted after all. I went along with all the shit tests and put my health and interests on hold for her while she lost respect for me. That man no longer exists. I'm back to enjoying life as the real me, the one I was before her. The cigar smoking, whisky drinking, motorcycle riding, iron pumping, sex having, outdoorsy sonofagun.

Never again will I take shit from a woman, I will be me, I will provide for and put my children's best interest first (I got 50% custody despite her tricks).

Now look at me without the weight of her unhealthy cooking and grocery shopping, forcing me to spend every weekend staring at the walls at her mom's, and watching her nap in front of TikTok and Hallmark while I could be enjoying life.

67 pounds lighter and great muscles Doubled my income Got a sex crazed hot little girlfriend Spend every other weekend camping, fishing, rock climbing, kayaking, hiking (oh and fucking, did U mention how good it is to have sex multiple times a day/week again?!) Bought a sick motorcycle My kids love their time with me and tell me how much they hate mom's boyfriend and ask me to marry my girlfriend because they like her so much (I don't say shit but I chuckle inside)

The point of all this is I know if you're starting this journey it SUCKS. I tell you I was pathetic, couldn't stop crying, and couldn't eat or sleep for weeks. All for some bitch who couldn't keep her legs closed and made up a false history about our relationship. Wake up and hit the gym and start focusing on yourself. She's not worth it, bro.