How do i regain my confidence back after being ghosted in multiple dates?

Excellent-Archer-238 · 2024-04-25T20:41:32+00:00

Won't be the last 3 to do it, my man. This is dating nowadays, 90% of women just ghost even after successful dates. They just have so much power and so many options in the palm of their hand that they don't care about men's feelings. It feels like dogshit being ghosted, but you gotta move on to the next ones hoping that you will find a decent woman. There are a lot of diamonds in the rough.

Far_Marsupial8572 · 2024-04-25T22:13:22+00:00

I’m a girl and I’ll tell u it really is not you…every girl has her prior commitments and is seeing someone getting played by someone has feelings for someone and they probably took the dates with u as a chance to perhaps sub u in for that jackass in their life And then when the jackass puts in more effort…they’re reeled back in Often times I’ve noticed I’d pass up on an entirely better new option because of history with my previous option If that makes sense Anyways if it’s not hi it’s bye so fuck it 🤣 there are wayyyyy too many beautiful women in the world you’ll be fine Like these guys are saying it’s a numbers game

Westernation · 2024-04-26T00:09:29+00:00

That’s a hard blow to roll with.

I’m sort of similar. and after a hundred thousand chest presses and want-to-kill-myself dieting, having all that put in the ditch in two minutes hurts like being hit by a truck.

But, try to keep a ‘B’ string of women who will work for your attention. And learn to accept people for what they are - flawed AF.

When the girl who ghosted you ends up crying her eyes out when the next guy does it to her? Say a little prayer to the lords of chaos and use that as fuel to keep going.

V4NC · 2024-04-25T20:20:10+00:00

Just talk to new girls. No matter how attractive you are its always a number game. You will never be liked by every girl you meet and there are tons of possible reasons for that, many of them are not related to you. So its normal to be rejected, especially in the beginning when you are inexperienced and have poor social skills. Think about what mistakes you made with that girl and improve it on the next girl. Possible mistakes: you appeared to needy or you didnt show any attraction and made the conversation feel platonic. Once you figured out how to talk to women, you realize how easy it is and how fast you can get another one.

atomant88 · 2024-04-25T20:30:40+00:00

dont tie your confidence to other people in the first place . especially people you dont know or respect

boom-wham-slam · 2024-04-26T04:50:18+00:00

I literally had this happen today. That's why when I date off tinder and go out, I double and triple book dates. Usually at least one works out but today I got ghosted by all three! I've had times none ghosted and I got laid like one after the other too so it's not all bad.

Generally if I ignore them they hit me up eventually again and I set a date and ghost them lol. Or i have them come for a hookup and then ghost them afterwards.

It's not you. If a girl acquaintance says "hey let's meet for a drink at 4pm at Joe's tavern" out thr blue and you say sure see you there... shes either died or she is mentally disturbed. there is no other option unfortunately the average women is straight up retarded as evidenced by this behavior. That's not on you. Girls do literally have panic attacks over nothing, crying fits, depressive moods... most are just whack jobs.

Just double and triple book dates. Or have them come to your house or literally the closest bar or restaurant to your house. That's ideal. When possible I refuse all dates that are not within a 5 minute drive of my house. No exceptions. In my opinion this is the worst part of online dating so you just have to be a bit of an asshole about it to not waste time.

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-04-25T19:56:25+00:00

Take a step back and try to dispassionately remember the conversations you had with them plus their reactions, body language etc. give us a run down here and we will try to pinpoint the cause. It is probably nothing that you are doing wrong. Probably something that you are just NOT doing.

vtribal · 2024-04-26T01:17:49+00:00

their loss, move on and use that fuel to ignite the fire within you

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-04-26T06:26:19+00:00

What are you saying on the dates? What are you talking about?

If three in a row ghost you, it's probably because you're not doing anything to excite them.

Dandys3107 · 2024-04-26T06:49:44+00:00

Keep increasing your attractiveness, don't just stay with bare minimum at first sign of success. If you would feel you are worthy of women's attention, you won't bother too much with particular ghosting, as you would attract next partner pretty quickly, and such attitude is very attractive to women too. Also, it may be a problem with your "game", study some seduction materials to potential find flaws in your mindset, I guess you can write some detailed story in this sub too. Also, it may be not really your fault, ghosting became like a new norm and women are just getting away with their picky and blunt attitude.

luotenrati12 · 2024-04-26T10:48:14+00:00

Don't get invested at all. No matter what happens, don't get invested in her or in the outcome.

tunnelblick · 2024-04-26T11:33:19+00:00

Make the dates low effort. Just meeting for a coffee somewhere.
Filter before the date: For example have a telephone call first and see how it goes and then agree to meet.
There will always be women who ghost, the important thing is to reduce the ratio of women who ghost. Maybe schedule two dates at roughly the same time. Then you have a plan B and don’t waste your time.

DoctorStrawberry · 2024-04-26T11:57:05+00:00

Just curious if you are confirming date day of thru text? I feel like you should if you are not.

mredge73 · 2024-04-26T15:09:05+00:00

It can be hard out there, don't get discouraged. Get back to basics, and make notes on how and when you asked for the date. Girls get asked on lots of dates, so make a weekend date on a Monday. Only ask at the peak of a good conversation, like a half dozen positive messages in a row if you are texting. Don't spend too much time on one connection, setup 2-3 dates a week. Flirt more, ask few questions, break the touch barrier early, etc. Share glimpses into your life, show her that you are the guy that she could live out her fantasies with.

soulshock22 · 2024-04-27T01:44:49+00:00

Would you place a bet of $1000, if the odds of winning was 100 to 1? Probably not right? Or if you did do it and lossed, you probably won't do it again. Now, would you make that same bet but only put $1 on it? Would you do it 1000 days in a row? See what I'm getting at?

Think of a date as the same thing as a bet. Your self confidence is like the amount of money you put on a bet. It will always take a hit when you lose, you can't control whether you win or lose, but you CAN control the amount you put down.

Amjoyx · 2024-04-27T10:08:28+00:00

Didn't you say, you have little experience? Why don't you make the number 3 a number 10? Also, you left us with not enough details. How did you behave? What did happen, that they ghosted you - in your opinion? Were you putting too much emphasis on the dates, did you really "want" them to happen. Or Where you loose about them not happening, or were you forcing things?

tilldeathdoiparty · 2024-04-26T19:31:52+00:00

It’ll happen, I wouldn’t take it personally

It’s a run of bad luck, you don’t ask why when you stay three dates in a row, you expected those results. Adversity builds you into a better man!

Title	How do i regain my confidence back after being ghosted in multiple dates?
Author	Worried-Schedule-124
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Date	April 25, 2024 7:54 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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