I see a lot of discourse on this sub and online in general about how modern 50/50 marriages are harmful. And I totally get it- if both parties are working full time and splitting the bills down the middle as well as the household chores, that would be a mess when children come. It also just feels like you’re roommates at that point.

However, I’m having a difficult time knowing how to avoid a 50/50 marriage. Financially, husband and I both work full time but we have a shared bank account. So we pool all the money we earn together… it’s our money. He makes a bit more than me but doesn’t expect me to contribute more in any way. We each have a “fun” account where a small but equal percentage of both our incomes goes into and we can spend it however we want. But again, it comes from our money.

Household wise, both do chores but don’t have a chore chart or anything… we both just do what needs done. I usually end up doing more of the cooking while he does more household things. We also are not planning on having children.

So… isn’t that technically 50/50 since we both work?? We wouldn’t be able to afford a house if we weren’t both working. Again, I’m a bit confused on what a 50/50 marriage really means.

Edit to add: it seems like online, 50/50 has evolved from “it’s if you have separate bank accounts and contribute to the bills right down the middle regardless of income levels” to “if I woman contributes to the household bills at all, that’s 50/50.” I figured I’d clarify a bit. What do you think?