Wife makes more. I make good enough to share the bills. I do all pick ups, drop offs, school and after school activities. She works mostly and contributes her half of our bills.

Unbeknownst to me she: - posted bail for a niece that assaulted someone at school - continues to financially maintain said niece to this day - paid her sisters mortgage for years - now is offering thousands so another sister can buy a house - refuses to see a financial advisor so we can get our affairs in order (ie estate plans, wills, college savings, retirement etc) I found out all of the above post fact… Talking to her gets her angry and defensive. There is no interaction at home and the kids know full well things are not okay

I feel cheated. Mainly because I helped her build her career and stayed home sacrificing rifing my own ambitions.

What would you/ or did do in such a situation?