Is it wrong to ask my wife for a mental evaluation before I sign mediation paperwork?

albertabest1 · 2024-06-10T21:39:29+00:00

We should have all done this before we got together with them. Just like Borat asked the matchmaker to show him clean papers for his potential wife, her mother, and grandmother so he could make sure it doesn't run in the family, like it often does.

jkw118 · 2024-06-10T11:36:37+00:00

So 1st off talk to your lawyer, mine flat out said their is no way that my ex's mental health can be called in. The only way is if she did stuff that was mentally unstable that she was caught for ie.. DUI's, if she harmed you or the kids (which is a whole other legal issue)..

my ex never physically harmed the kids or myself but mentally traumatized all of us. verbal berating/mental harm barely counts for anything as they don't have physical evidence.

My ex has bipolar 2, anxiety, depression.. With Psychotic and some Schizophrenic features (and yes that includes hallucinations) Aside from saying she has mental issues, the fact that she'd been sent to the mental ward a bunch of times. etc.. Didn't matter and wasn't counted. Because within a very short amount of time she was "normal" and stays normal for days or weeks. Then has another break. So until her meds stop working right, and she drives into a cop car they will count nothing.

As if she got sent to a mental ward, it takes 48-72 hours for an eval which she would convince them she's fine (she's good at that) and then judges would get involved.

But what you can ask for is a I think it's called parenting check. And it's basically that someone stops over and talks to her for 5 min and makes sure that the living conditions are okay for the kids. Besides that 98% of the time it won't affect anything, unless she's like I have the kids sleep in this mud pit...

upvotersfortruth · 2024-06-10T09:34:51+00:00

The point of mediation is to resolve the conflict, why would you do something controversial? Save that for a time when you can leverage it, not at a time when you could kill the whole deal.

david10277 · 2024-06-10T03:42:28+00:00

U start my putting those comments in your briefing Highlight her instability and past issues and how you have a concern for the safety of the children.

Use that to reduce her custody time. 80/20 Request Kids are with you and visits with mom are supervised based on her unstableness and on the weekends. That's your going in position, you must Weigh the odds against her and paint a story that she has to prove shes stable. She has go prove it's not true.

That will force her to talk the assessment. If she refuses then you state she is hiding her mental issues and you are willing to take one and she is not , then escalate it and say you are willing to pay.for both to ensure the kids both have stable parents.

Play chess not checkeds..

JackNotName · 2024-06-09T20:43:08+00:00

Are there children involved.

britdd · 2024-06-09T20:27:39+00:00

You can ask her and she can say No. End of discussion. In my Country (Canada), a person's mental health is privacy protected, unless a judge orders otherwise.

Independent_Owlz · 2024-06-09T20:06:12+00:00

Ex motioned for a court ordered psychiatric evaluation and I filed same motion for her. Both were dropped in mediation. It’s not uncommon.

Just another way to line the lawyers pockets.

Amber-13 · 2024-06-09T19:32:08+00:00

You can she doesn’t have to comply- You could bring up concerns and the judge could ask for it if the concerns makes them concerned

My story - I said I sought out and continued therapy and the judge- for custody - ordered me to get one- guess who has PTSD from marital abuse, this gal. I already knew it, but he got the proof.

I’ll never get why? I sought therapy before I left, with him a few sessions before he raged and left - and continued after and I’m still doing it… 🤷🏼‍♀️

Ok-Suit1420 · 2024-06-09T19:21:47+00:00

lol I wish this were more common. It might make things a little more difficult tbh. Also laughing because my attorney also mentioned a psych evaluation, after having read the facts surrounding the divorce initiation. I thought that was bold and awesome of him although we never really pushed for it strongly.

LowMain5154 · 2024-06-09T19:18:12+00:00

I’m sure you could, might just make things more drawn out and hostile, but if there are kids involved and you’re worried about their safety I’d go ahead and ask. Pretty sure psych evals are somewhat common in these situations.

Title	Is it wrong to ask my wife for a mental evaluation before I sign mediation paperwork?
Author	734PdisD1ck
Upvotes	12
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Date	June 9, 2024 7:02 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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