How to stop my self worth being tied to sex

norwegiandoggo · 2024-07-02T09:13:39+00:00

Make sure you're providing worth to others and society at large. Worth is your value to others. Sex is more an equal exhcange. It's more like a kind of play or a bit transactional. I stroke your back you stroke my back, and let's have fun while we're doing it. Sex doesn't say much about your worth. I don't actually see how you can connect sex with worth. It's equally weird to say that masturbating increases your worth. That's having sex with yourself. Why would sex with someone else increase your worth? It doesn't make sense. Charlie Sheen banged like half of Hollywood. We don't collectively think that he has a lot of worth for that. No. Worth is how much you provide value to society. Bill Gates helped usher in personal computing to everyone. That's worth. He provided value.

VrilHunter · 2024-07-02T11:03:59+00:00

Yeah, sex feels good. But that's more to life than just sex.

Your dreams, goals, purpose come far above sex.

Your worth is defined by what you choose to do with your life in this world. I'm not saying you have to be a great man who savwd the world. I'm saying doing what you chose to do creates your self worth. Achieving shit in what you chose to do creates your self worth. You wanna be a millionaire? Go do that. You wanna be a farmer? Go do that. You wanna be a playboy? Go do that.

In essence, have something to strive for and do what you choose to do. Value your own words, and speak with your actions. That's self worth.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-07-02T08:46:37+00:00

Well, if you find the answer to that, let me know.

Admirable_Distance96 · 2024-07-02T14:04:48+00:00

get yourself a motorcycle. helped me with all kinds of insecurities. made me focus on myself and my personal goals that actually meant something before I even knew what sex was.

it doesn't have to be a motorcycle, it can be whatever you want. the key is to shift your focus on things and goals that have a deeper meaning. do something that will make you proud.

you got this brother!

BarryBold8 · 2024-07-02T11:35:54+00:00

Pointless sex is fun till it’s not.

Realize sometimes soul ties are real

And really 1 solid women is worth 100000 lays

Kusharti21 · 2024-07-02T12:40:55+00:00

Your value comes from your values. Look up “living by your values”.

BigFunnyBigMoney · 2024-07-03T03:19:46+00:00

I doubt it’s sex that’s making you needy. Why do you need to get laid? If you have a good connection with a woman, but don’t sleep with her, does that make you feel shame? Are you insecure that if you don’t bed a woman soon enough, she won’t invest in you? Are you looking for a sexual experience that will overcome some perceived lack in yourself, i.e “if I finally bang THAT girl”, “I need to sleep with x women before I can feel good about myself”?

I think you’re looking at this all wrong bro. Willing to bet there’s some deeper underlying reason for why you feel this way, and chances are you won’t be able to solve it with some tip or trick you learn about online. Only you can know for sure what’s going on inside of you, and that can be tough because self awareness is not always easy to achieve, and often coming to an understanding about ourselves to help navigate why we suffer the way we do involves processing a lot of pain.

The good news is that the hard work is worth it, and I can tell from this post you want to improve. I had very deep insecurities that I used my relationships with women to cope with - at first learning pick up was a fun thing I was trying to get myself out of my shell, later it became toxic and caused me deep commitment and trust issues when I did want to settle down. I’ve been where you’ve been, and likely where you are going as well.

The two things that helped me the most, were radical honesty - concept coined by mark manson in “models” - and self reflection which lead to awareness. I would urge you to read models if you can, and ignore all the other dating advice you hear ever bc it’s probably bullshit (especially on this sub - blind leading the blind out here) but radical honesty is pretty much what it sounds like. In your case, you would tell the girl you’re insecure about, or a friend, or someone, about your feelings as a means to diffuse the shame you feel and bring your insecurities to the surface. Sounds insane but believe me, nothing has done more for my confidence than owning my deepest fears and insecurities even when I was scared to. If you truly embrace this, it will change your life, and in the way it sounds like you most want it changed. If you want more info I would again recommend models, and to be sure you’re doing the right things for yourself therapy is always a good idea.

Best of luck in your journey my man

Haunting_Bid_408 · 2024-07-02T08:12:45+00:00

Hypnosis with a focus on my self worth has really helped

BloodMuffin · 2024-07-02T16:31:37+00:00

“There is no truth in flesh, only betrayal. There is no strength in flesh, only weakness. There is no constancy in flesh, only decay. There is no certainty in flesh but death.”

Wellthatswhathappend · 2024-07-02T16:59:57+00:00

I’m. A plumbing and heating engineer and I work on big sit across the country, hospitals, universities, schools, retirement villages, police stations Newbuild homes and Private customers, I know I make a difference and I’m making this world better everyday,

when you’re single, it’s a bit of-fun and excitement, Someone wants to share your personal energy and match your frequency and rhythm,

Educate yourself, dance play music or sports together or with others

Chicagoj1563 · 2024-07-03T00:38:56+00:00

The fix for this is to wake up every day with a sense of purpose. You need to find something else you want to accomplish in life that really drives you. If it’s something that benefits others, even better.

Dismal-Revolution941 · 2024-07-03T02:21:58+00:00

Because my self worth is living a happy life and just finding a significant other that makes my life even happier, sex is just an expression of my happiness with that person

Affectionate-Fly399 · 2024-07-05T01:57:39+00:00

betterhelp.com

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-07-02T09:39:30+00:00

Be a decent and empathetic person.

ZenoGeno · 2024-07-02T14:20:28+00:00

Truth be told, it's not completely possible, even here some people will tell you it's not tied to sex but they all know it does, virgin is a common insult on this very subreddit, just like it is used as an insult everywhere, so yes to a point you have to accept the 2 are connected.

thepobv · 2024-07-02T18:03:08+00:00

Jfc, some of yall need theraphy and not reddit.

Available_Bass9725 · 2024-07-02T08:26:00+00:00

You can't. You're a man. Sex with beautiful women and fights with strong men define your worth as a man. Sure you can also get rich and have cars make great progress in arts politics and sciences but then you will be seen as a rich smart femboy at best. Just look at apes or wolves. What males get the girl? the strong ones.

Title	How to stop my self worth being tied to sex
Author	Wean1eHu11
Upvotes	59
Comments	50
Date	July 2, 2024 7:57 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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