How do you keep your inner game after so many rejections?

DaygameCode · 2024-07-22T01:39:48+00:00

I sometimes get the worst rejections ever. Like face of disgust. So I just leave them.

The problem here is that you see interactions with women as evaluations of your worth and get female approval, when you should be looking at interactions as opportunities to play, evaluate compatibility and learn. You see a face of disgust, the first thing you should do is think how you could improve to avoid getting those reactions, or what is it that may be causing that. That means you detach yourself from the result and look at the result with a clinical eye as if you are just performing experiments and not fighting for your ego.

I usually try daygame model in nightclubs so that's my most number of approaches.

The daygame model is designed for daygame. So it should not be a surprise that you don't get good results with it in nightgame. Different environments require different strategies. So leanr nightgame model for nightgame and keep the daygame model for daygame.

I also game'd with a friend of mine. He is better looking than me and can speak the local language. He got better results than me. This also hurt my inner game.

Comparison should be done with yourself, not with someone else. If you go to the gym, you should not be comparing yoruself to people who have more muscles or can lift heavier than you because you are not there to compete. You are there to improve on your own body, not to try to have a better body than the guy next to you. Because if that were yoru goal you would ismply give up since he has all the advantage. The point is to be better than you were yesterday, and focusing on your own path, not entering some type of competition with other people that no one really cares to win.

You also need to develop humility, and accept that there will always be people better than you at everything you try to do. This however doesn't mean that you cannot accomplish great things because the world is abundant and has something to offer to everyone. Yes, the guy may have better results than you much like a guy in the gym may lift heavier than you, so be it. You need to stop focusing on what other people do, and start focusing on your journey, be humble and stop basing yoru worht on your ability to get approval from others or being better than others because that's a battle you will lose more often than not. And people with confidence based their worth based on their own journey, resilience, humility, and their ability to face challanges and adversities no matter what the results are.

MO_drps_knwldg · 2024-07-22T13:40:18+00:00

Disconnect from the idea that rejection just happens to you, and realize that these women are strangers. They have no bearing or impact in your life.

The biggest players have been rejected, usually often. Attraction isn’t completely a numbers game, but it is a huge part of it. All guys get rejected.

JustNefariousness625 · 2024-07-22T03:10:00+00:00

-It’s their loss -1 blows 2 show Really just an abundance mentality and I legitimately love myself so all that mental struggle shit isn’t there for me. This only came after years of therapy btw so I’m not minimizing others struggles

MouseAware809 · 2024-07-22T18:07:50+00:00

Firstly, I just view all this stuff as a skill I am learning, so its not about me as a person, its about my skill.

Secondly, when you say rejection, what point are you being rejected?

If I can approach and stay in conversation for 5 minutes, then 10 minutes, then 20 and so on, I see improvement. I am not looking at the outcome of getting laid. Its like weights, I don't goto the gym one day, realise after doing my first set of bench press reps, that I don't look like Arnie so quit. No, it takes time to get good at this and see results.

Then I add in other stuff to learn, and rate my progress at learning this. Be it pacing and leading, kino, fractionation, whatever.

Then when I review I look at the positive.

Sooner or later, theres gonna be an outcome resulting in me in bed with someone. As long as I am practicing my escalating and have my logistics down, etc.

As for rejection itself, yeah some women rejected my approach, so what. I know a damn lot about myself and what I am capable of and have achieved in life. What some woman thinks of my approaching skill, has nothing to do with that.

epimpstyle · 2024-07-22T18:21:08+00:00

I usually try daygame model in nightclubs

In nightclubs (club/bars/events) you can't use the same method as in daygame (street, mall, park). For example, in nightgame it is perfectly fine to start with a compliment but in daygame it is not okay to start with a compliment unless you have nothing else in your mind.

I have come to the conclusion that if the woman feels comfortable with you, you make her laugh, you show her that you know how to talk and listen to her (you show her that you are a funny/cool/interesting guy), there is no reason for her not to want to see you again. If the interaction is short, she doesn't have a chance to get to know you, so you're still a total stranger, but if you tell her a few things about yourself during the interaction, the chances of getting a date increase.

I sometimes get the worst rejections ever

Do they punch you in the nose or kick you in the balls? Do they post a photo of you on Instagram? Do they scream or laugh? If not... then how can be worse than that?

GymBroTRT · 2024-07-22T00:13:57+00:00

Well, if you are getting rejected you shouldn’t want to keep your current inner game, because it’s obviously shit. Rejection is just a symptom my friend.

Go out and try this instead. Instead of approaching a woman because you want to success, approach her with the goal of getting rejected. How will your approach change if instead of wanting to succeed, you actually want to get rejected?

forfunn2193 · 2024-07-22T02:50:58+00:00

I'm smart enough to know that I'm not waht some would call hot or even handsome, but I maintain my confidence because I know the nature of me.

Mysterious_Pickle_78 · 2024-07-22T07:20:25+00:00

I sometimes get the worst rejections ever. Like face of disgust. So I just leave them: this is probably because your technique is flawed. you need to come off more confident, and ignore their shitty reactions. The tide will change. Either that or your vibe is creepy/too robotic, etc. Shitty girls are there but mostly at bars.
I sometimes get the worst rejections ever. Like face of disgust. So I just leave them. Daygame is for day.
I also game'd with a friend of mine. He is better looking than me and can speak the local language. He got better results than me. This also hurt my inner game. Don't game with your friend. It's called value tapping and you are better off doing it a alone.

Syndr0meYT · 2024-07-23T09:53:23+00:00

Rejection is normal,we all get it,this is what it takes to be with a woman you want

ACCEPT IT,you will get rejected

Total_Obligation_371 · 2024-07-24T19:19:38+00:00

I am average at best.

Get in the gym and improve your style/grooming

sometimes get the worst rejections ever. Like face of disgust

Sometimes? So then what's the big deal? It's not most of the time. Everyone gets these.

I usually try daygame model in nightclubs

Strategies for day and night are different. Night is for pulling, not numbers.

So far tho, I haven't been able to land a date with a girl who is definitely my type

Well yeah, you don't less than 40 total approaches day and night combined. If you only look average and you're completely new, there's going to be a learning curve. You shouldn't expect to get anything within your first hundred approaches.

He is better looking than me and can speak the local language

Yes better looking people will always get better results, but once you get to the point where you're above average, the discrepancy decreases a lot. Also yeah obviously if you don't know the local language, you're going to get worse results.

You need to have your expectations reset. Here's the reality. You most likely haven't tried to make any improvements to your looks, and you've hardly done any approaches at all, and you're already saying it's too hard. You straight up are not trying hard enough. Maybe you think you are, but you're not. You're putting in small amounts of effort and then getting depressed because you didn't instantly get what you wanted. If you improved your looks and then just kept on approaching, you would start to see results. 40 approaches without getting a date could happen to anyone, that's called a negative wave. Everyone goes through that sometimes.

I try not to be unnecessarily harsh, but the reality here is you're just being lazy.

CumBucketJanitor · 2024-07-22T11:22:57+00:00

Welcome to dating in 2024, its even more about looks then before. The things that young girls said to be about wanting hot guys and how most men are downright ugly, it really opened my eyes. Yeah game and all that shit is important too but the foot in the door are your looks. Try to maximize that.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-07-22T02:35:39+00:00

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Title	How do you keep your inner game after so many rejections?
Author	Nanashi_x01
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Date	July 21, 2024 8:55 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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