Has the long game ever worked for anyone?

seduction-ModTeam · 2024-08-14T00:49:20+00:00

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Yes, the long game has worked extremely well for me

aFalseSlimShady · 2024-08-13T21:45:35+00:00

Not really. I would let the conversation fizzle and maybe text her again in a couple months.

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-08-13T22:06:18+00:00

I never use the word “dating” or “ask her out” with women like her. Because it sounds exclusive/formal.

Tell her you wanna go grocery shopping and you need her opinions for picking some stuff. Same thing like picking up dry cleaning, or going with you to choose gift for someone’s birthday. Do it very casually, wear jeans, a shirt and sandals. But when you’re with her, escalate and do physical touch once in a while. Just be careful to not have your emotion/feeling involved or you’d come across as clingy.

Women maybe tired of dating and relationship, but they never be tired of physical intimacy.

Funky_hobbo · 2024-08-13T21:44:18+00:00

The only few times it did, it was because he decided to reach me and not the other way around.

Necessary-Jaguar4775 · 2024-08-13T21:49:38+00:00

In my experience, it's very ineffective unless there are some other mitigating circunstances, like you live very far from each other or are dating other people and aren't singklle at the same time. Apart from this, from what I have seen, it just turns the girl off.

Chickenbeans__ · 2024-08-13T21:45:10+00:00

Kinda sounds like she wants you to intimate something physical and casual without any expectations

Wean1eHu11 · 2024-08-13T22:02:25+00:00

Sounds like more trouble than it is worth tbh. The long game is risky for becoming just friends if you overcook it, and fizzling out if you undercook. Striking a balance between the two is near impossible in my experience.

I would reframe it as why should you have to wait for this girl anyway? You’re awesome and she should want to at least have a post LTR fling with you, if she doesn’t then her loss

TrueLekky · 2024-08-13T22:21:08+00:00

I got married off the long term pen pal game but I think I got lucky

MrAnonPoster · 2024-08-13T22:24:11+00:00

Strong chemistry = "slept together and decided it was awesome so now you are bonking whenever you can"

You do not have strong chemistry. You spent time flirting and no, she is not into you - you are just better than other knuckeheads who are hitting on her who are absolutely terrible.

Move on.

Ragnardanneskjunior · 2024-08-13T22:36:52+00:00

It sounds like you showed way too much interest after she already rejected you. You may have had a chance if you followed a simple rule of least interest. If she is interested then you must be slightly less interested than her no matter how high your interest is.
I know, it's stupid, but that is just what women respond to. I've got one that consistently hits me up about every 30 days when she is drunk or high and the only success I've ever had with her is if I really treat her like she is a super annoying pain in the ass. I will treat her as if I don't really want her to come over so I will make up some excuse so it seems like I'm making an exception for her and then there will also need to be some other activity like a movie or cooking as pretext because she simply does not want to admit that she wants to come over so I will fuck her and then not call her. It is a pain in the ass but she is a smokeshow and I never spend a dime on her. Women are crazy. This has been going on for 4 years at this point.

Epiphanic_Eros · 2024-08-13T23:35:02+00:00

Long game is the best game. But it’s not what you’re doing right now.

Long game is planting the seeds with a bunch of women by flirting just a bit, over and over, for weeks and months. Obviously, you need to be in a context where you’ll likely see them again. You develop a rapport with each one, and each one should be exciting to you in some way. You’re trying to get them to think about you when they’re at home, and to crush on you a bit. You’re forward, clearly sexually interested, but never making the move. Not because you’re scared or don’t like them enough, but because you’re too busy and there’s other girls that are more ripe.

These are not girls that you will want to use and discard, because you’ll see them again. Plus, using and discarding people is a shit way to live.

Instead, as you’re feeling good one or another, and as they ripen in their desire for you, you pluck them. You can keep them on the vine for sure a while if you’re chill. But if you want too long, she’ll start seeing someone else or get bored.

Yakkul_CO · 2024-08-13T22:19:56+00:00

Easy, you want to date and she doesn’t. You’re at different points, and that’s fine. Move on to someone else.

STCLS · 2024-08-13T22:49:25+00:00

Sorry to break it down to you brother but she’s not into you. That LTR excuse is juste that, an excuse, so she doesn’t have to tell you she’s not interested.

Someone that wants you will let you know, you won’t have to wonder.

Take the loss and move on, good luck ❤️

Thi3fs · 2024-08-13T23:37:51+00:00

Short answer no. Long answer I kept myself within the conversation cycles, around the friend groups, close by changed my gym times and put in the effort to be around… ended up sleeping with the main girls friend but not the girl I wanted.

So, no. It doesn’t work. Straight off the bat is when you gotta strike the iron hot. Otherwise it fizzles out.

Trip_seize · 2024-08-13T23:52:20+00:00

Asking to "take her out sometime" is kinda nebulous. Try to be more specific like e.g. After you find out she likes ice cream, "hey they just opened a new gelato place in town, why don't we go check it out tomorrow night?"

In that short question, she should be able to visualise the two of you doing a specific activity at a specific time in a specific place. As you've suggested something she likes, she'll basically have to suggest another time if she's truly busy.

Hope this helps.

Professional_Kick149 · 2024-08-14T00:08:57+00:00

yes but i want attempting it. it happened naturally

Prestigious_Water336 · 2024-08-14T00:25:50+00:00

If you don't take advantage of the situation they never come back.

Remember women have options. They're not going to wait around for you in the future.

juicyrad · 2024-08-14T00:41:43+00:00

I promise you, if Leo DiCaprio, Matt Rife, Chris Hemsworth, etc asked her out, she'd make an exception. She made a rule for you that she'd almost certainly break for the right guy and/or opportunity. Respect yourself enough to walk away. It's obvious the connection wasn't strong enough for her to jump onboard. No problem. On to the next. If you had an abundance of options, you wouldn't be worried about this one girl, asking strangers on the internet if you could potentially get lucky by holding out and keeping in touch over the next few months. I don't mean to sound blunt, just pointing out the obvious. You have scarcity problem to address.

Title	Has the long game ever worked for anyone?
Author	pickupmid123
Upvotes	18
Comments	22
Date	August 13, 2024 9:41 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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