Today marks three weeks since my wife ran away with our children. They had already been gone for four weeks visiting family before that, so I have not seen my kids in seven weeks. My oldest has his birthday tomorrow. I’ve been asking to go down and see my boys, especially for his birthday and she just says that she’s forwarded my request to her lawyer. Then she said her therapist said my commander in the military ordered me to stay in my home state, which never happened, so I can’t see them, but we can “clear it up Monday”.

I don’t know what lies she is feeding my children. She has been cutting my phone time down with them each night and I haven’t talked to my oldest in three days. My youngest calls me each night right before bedtime and she makes him get off the phone with a few minutes. Today she texted me, saying if they don’t want to talk to me. She’ll respect their wishes and they don’t have to. I’ve always been extremely close to my kids and she is just ripping us apart. I still have another five weeks until the custody hearing that I filed and I don’t know if I can wait that long. It’s tearing me apart today, especially when my youngest started talking about some guy being his uncle that was over at their house today and I know for sure he is not blood-related.

It’s just eating me up inside not knowing if she’s sleeping with other guys or when I’m going to see my kids again. It drives me nuts how she is weaponizing our kids because it makes her feel “happy” being home with her mom. She still has not told me she wants a divorce or separation or anything other than she needs “space and time”, then she got a no contact order from the military against me. Unfortunately, in the military, all it takes is an accusation with no evidence to start an investigation, so I can’t even ask her what she wants or try to get her to come home. It’s just eating me up tonight after I saw her all dressed up while FaceTiming my youngest and some new guy being called uncle that I don’t know was there.