How long should the conversation be before asking for the number?

DaygameCode · 2024-09-04T00:16:08+00:00

The problem is that when you go immediately for the number you did not actually seduced her or connect with her in person, so as a result she is not really interested in you.

Talking to women for the sole purpose of getting her number as soon as possible leads to really poor success rate. If you want dates and sex from cold approach, you need to focus on creating a solid connection in person before you get her number.

Contrary to what some clueless guys think, talking for longer time in the approach is not about getting her to like you, it's about evaluating whether she deserves to go out on a date with you based on whether you connect or not on an emotional level, to build trust that you are not some kidnapper, and to see if there is basic chemistry and affinity that won't make her think that a date with you would be uncomfortable.

Because it's not enough to be liked by your appearance, there also needs to be a solid enough connection that makes her excited to see you again, otherwise the girl will treat the interaction as a fleeting event and will not want to see you again.

Miserable-Swing9275 · 2024-09-04T01:32:12+00:00

3 minutes. Ever boxed or sparred before? 3 minutes is a lot fuxking longer than you’d think…

SeamoreBo0bz · 2024-09-04T00:22:55+00:00

i mean i wish it didn't take so long but as a guy you have to perform so many verbal gymnastics it's almost a miracle to ever pull it off.

make her: laugh feel safe comfortable the butterflies chemistry and on and on

epimpstyle · 2024-09-03T22:57:54+00:00

I usually just ask 2-3 questions before asking for the number

Did you make her feel comfortable with you in those 1-2 minutes? Does she trust that you are not a serial killer or a weirdo? You have to tell her a few things about yourself, otherwise you are a complete stranger. An interaction is about 10 minutes in length or if there are strong IOI signals it might be shorter but not before you tell them a few things about you, if you ignore this the chances of flake are huge.

Electronic_d0cter · 2024-09-04T02:45:11+00:00

Like anything it depends. You could ask for it after 30 seconds or after 15 minutes or longer. Good rule I heard is try not to settle for an unsatisfying close try to build rapport figure out logistics and get an insta date or something better

zebekias · 2024-09-04T05:34:36+00:00

Seduction is an art, you have to develop the skills to create attraction, see IOIs, etc. If you are fairly new, quick #closes won’t be as effective as when you are experienced and have overflowing attractiveness.

dobbs1997 · 2024-09-03T23:57:48+00:00

it can literally be 30 seconds

Mc_Dickles · 2024-09-04T03:05:05+00:00

stop going for phone numbers, especially during night game

asking for phone numbers does not make her wet LOL

yourcousinrafa · 2024-09-04T03:09:32+00:00

You're missing the point buddy. Remember, getting a number is NOT your goal; it's just a side effect of making a genuine connection.

Xero_Darknezz · 2024-09-04T04:04:28+00:00

It's different for each girl. Be interested in the girl and talk about her until you find stuff you can connect on. Then, use that information to set up dates so you can naturally go for the number. If you can't connect on anything, then eject from the set and find a different girl.

rzerx · 2024-09-07T03:37:50+00:00

Fuck the number. Dude you got to focus on the convo the way it's feeling for both of you before you ask for the number. The goal is not the number, the goal is to have a highly connecting convo. The number is just a consequence of how deep that convo went.

swiftmartin · 2024-09-03T21:57:27+00:00

Yeah that’s just fine. you can also instantly ask for their number when you approach them or after introducing yourself

Title	How long should the conversation be before asking for the number?
Author	CerealDater69
Upvotes	11
Comments	26
Date	September 3, 2024 9:50 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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