For context, I (39M) had divorced my wife (45F) last year and we are still living together. We were together for 13 years. She had 2 daughters prior to our relationship and I had a son. Together we have a son and daughter together and I love them dearly. Our marriage fell apart in 2022 when we got into an argument about her then 16 year old daughter. I laid down a punishment for her attitude about having a car accident (too many details to go through) but she fought against me and I told her I’m done with doing for them since I what I have to say about it doesn’t matter. Can’t have my provision and protect without my authority. I filed for divorce last year in September and it was finalized in November. During those 3 months I discovered she was cheating on me. Took it to the chin and that’s what validated me following though with the divorce.

Of course during and after that time, sex between us was amazing and she wanted to work things out (obviously right)! I wasn’t really for it but I felt the power was back in my hand and we had children together. All in all, she’s still the same BITCH I wanted to divorce (which is what made me file) and I’m honestly just not attracted to her the same anymore. She thinks because she’s physically attractive that that’s enough!

In the end, I blame (and forgave) myself for not choosing correctly or being the man I needed to be before even getting married. I never wanted to get married anyway but I fell for the bullshit like every other man did and figured that I loved her, love her kids, and we wanted to have children together.

Lastly, during these last two years my life has done a complete 180. My business has basically went in the toilet over the last 5 years (went from making $400k+ a year to $60k this year) and due to all the debt obligations and other financial misfortunes, I’m filing Chapter 7 bankruptcy. I told her once that’s over and we eventually have to move out of our home, I’m moving into my own place with my son (who is not hers) and will only have enough space for him and my two little ones with her. I told her I would even take them off her hands so she can figure things out. She said no of course! Her two daughters are 18 and 17 (graduating this year) and they can go by their dad. I’m not willing to be responsible for them nor her anymore because they don’t value or respect me the way that I should. I’ve done more for them than their own father and even her. We’ve traveled to different countries, etc! I’m sick of it all and just want to be alone. Need I might add, I’ve lost 80 lbs in the last two years and I’m scheduled to get a tummy tuck and back lift (yes I’m a man and rebuilding myself 😂) to get rid of this loose skin. I feel better than ever! A woman will never ever have this type of position and effect on me. I’m glad I went through this because I feel untouchable!

MEN……. TAKE CONTROL OVER YOUR LIFE! WHAT YOU FEEL MATTERS! THE WORLD DOESNT CARE ABOUT US SO WE MUST CARE FOR ONE ANOTHER! DIG DEEP WITHIN AND KNOW YOU’RE THE SHIT! IMPROVE YOUR LIFE EVERY WAY POSSIBLE AND YOU’LL BEGIN TO SEE YOU DOKT NEED HER! DONT TRADE YOUR MANHOOD FOR NOTHING! LOVE YOU GUYS!

Here’s a couple of links that have helped me on this journey 👇🏾

https://www.youtube.com/live/3zcAUgfiHtY?si=5_tlG5BLM0go3H-o

https://www.youtube.com/live/q6uMcAGe5GI?si=yYoTd95MfZvq4Zf9

https://youtu.be/mSYLBQOohow?si=NMNAWct_y7-OIjB0

https://youtu.be/h9LASEZtdNM?si=5D_Ph7XRqpvWXydS

https://youtu.be/iMlwcJeEnwg?si=A-8UgFiUhlM6Yclh