how to make my dominant man listen to me.

firewatch959 · 2024-09-18T22:05:07+00:00

Give him a clear specific description of what you want do not manipulate do not play games. Give him reasons and budgets and facts, make room for him to do his thing, tell him all the pros and cons without sugarcoating, and tell him how much you’ll appreciate him for it.

Deliaallmylife · 2024-09-18T22:38:02+00:00

Do you have a "major thing" in mind when you ask this question?

Ill_Coffee_6821 · 2024-09-18T22:19:24+00:00

Definitely not silent treatment - that’s manipulative and a weak way to handle things. Do not nag either.

The answer is to have clear boundaries with the things that are important to you. To state them directly. “It would be important to me if you could do X…”

VasiliyZaitzev · 2024-09-19T03:03:50+00:00

Silent treatment? That’s a great way to get replaced. And be careful with manipulation, a smart guy is going to see that coming a mile away. Or at least a guy who has sisters. Your best move is to be straightforward and in a calm voice, say I would like you to listen to what I have to say. Don’t come at him sideways. A fair-minded guy is going to listen.

rosesonthefloor · 2024-09-19T10:31:11+00:00

It’s really helpful for things like this to pick your battles. If you’re agreeable or amenable 80-90% of the time, it’s going to make the times that you aren’t, more effective. When you aren’t bringing up little things all the time, it will make your man sit up and take note when you do bring something up. Use that wisely.

Another thing that works with dominant men is being fun and playful. Part of the dominant/submissive dynamic is the polarity between you two, right? So playing up the “Goddess of Fun and Light” part of Laura Doyle’s advice leans into that. When you get excited about something, that enthusiasm can be contagious, even if he’s not exactly excited about it in the same way as you. And our men want to see us happy, so if you make it easy to make you happy by communicating what you want, it’ll be that much easier for him to do that for you.

HighHeeledGazelle · 2024-09-19T04:01:59+00:00

is the silent treatment effective?

The way husband explained this to me is that he's not a mindreader and restricts his hooliganism to the football pitch. Hence, he's not going to fly off the handle outside of a game. So, whatever I want to say, do so unambiguously, in as simple and direct language as I can muster.

Now, he's getting better at the subtle, nonverbal communication, but has a long way to go.

Independent-Story883 · 2024-09-18T23:58:23+00:00

For me totally depends on the man and relationship.

Some arenas are a “no go.”. For instance I don’t let another man tell me how to raise my kids, punish my kids . Their father is in the picture (amicable divorce 50:50 custody) . I usually establish that upfront.

I don’t enjoy a man who wants to exhibit financial dominance. Tell me how to spend my money or have access to my accounts. But also i dont ask this of him.

Otherwise: I truly enjoy dominance. He can tell me what to wear, what events to attend, pick all the dates, what household responsibilities he wants me to take over etc. I have no problem with him picking all the date activities If it something I enjoy that he is not doing, I usually gift the experience on my budget. Hope , Ask he reciprocates. Otherwise, i just do it by myself on my free time. I don’t need my man clung to me. I always get what i want because i don’t mind providing for myself. Most dominant men will see this and offer to join or pay. They don’t like to be inadequate. The less dominant men are intimidated, sit back let me do everything myself and wait till i drop them… because that is what usually happens. Just sayin.

I believe in good communication. I don’t date men that can not do this. Safe words apply both in and outside the bedroom. Outside bedroom I usually use something like “ pause”. Or “ hold on babe that’s going to be a no” Because I rarely say no, am super committed and attentive in a relationship. A “pause”. From me —He will know that he is in danger territory. It would be like grandma raising the eyebrow in church. I don’t throw fits. Or manipulate. No passive aggressive stuff here. Me and my ex husband never fought like that. Any of my ex men, all quite dominant, will tell you that is just not my style.

Because I’m super selective upfront, i don’t have to tell him what to do. For me that would be very rare. I pick men that we both enjoy the same things or think the same way. Dominant is just one criteria. I dont date abusive dominant or poorly matched dominant. Im being totally honest.

Anyhow I don’t think you should make a dominant man listen to you. You probably need more of a submissive man. Either that look at your selection criteria in the future and try to find a guy that matches your preferences. That way you will be comfortable with the decisions he is making. Just my two cents.

-dai-zy · 2024-09-19T02:25:45+00:00

i just want him to be totally obsessed with me and actually do stuff my way sometimes

sounds like you want to be the dominant one in the relationship. this subreddit is for women who want to follow their partner's lead, not the other way around

Consistent-Citron513 · 2024-09-19T00:53:28+00:00

The silent treatment is a manipulative, abusive tactic. State what you want directly rather than playing games or beating around the bush. Good, clear, communication is key. What "major things" or areas are you talking about? Let him know. Also understand and accept that being dominated means you have a submissive role and this means accepting his leadership, so long as it is healthy and of the best interest for both of you. You may want to check out Ms .Elle X on Youtube. She has a lot of good videos about Domination/submission. Although a lot of it is on BDSM/kinky topics, there are other videos about general relationship/communication advice when one partner is a healthy dominant or submissive.

Lola_Montez7130 · 2024-09-19T03:42:43+00:00

Major thing like a health crisis or major thing with finances or major in your private life?

plein_old · 2024-09-18T22:22:56+00:00

Let him think it was his idea. Play dumb a bit. Express your feelings/wishes/desires and let him come up with solutions. Be patient sometimes.

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Full text: i love to be dominated (in bed and outside) by my partner but sometimes i like for things to go my way

how do we as women get our way around with strong dominant men?

is the silent treatment effective? sweet talking?

i just want him to be totally obsessed with me and actually do stuff my way sometimes, not tiny things like picking where to go for dinner but more major things.

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