I got really good at asking open ended questions and letting girls just talk about themselves. However, I still had this feeling that they weren’t interested in talking to me, or were just being polite.

I think it was because I was very judgemental in my replies. For example, I would say - “Omg, why would you do something like that?” or “That sounds a bit dumb, no?”

Being non-judgmental has really improved the quality of my conversations with girls and at work. A lot of girls go out of their way to talk to me now. It’s a superpower that doesn’t get talked about a lot.