My wife is manipulating to end of time.

Civil_Proposal6053 · 2024-10-11T23:37:16+00:00

So thank you for all of your supportive comments.

As an update, I have a court date on Nov 5th. We are extremely confident that we (the lawyer and myself) will be able to get 50/50. We could ask for more, but that’s not what is best for my son.

But, the soon-to-be ex-wife, is not attacking me on another front. Since attacking my mental health, and trying to convince the judge that I am mentally unhealthy enough to be a father is not working, she has now started trying to tell me that our son who is three, is having anxiety, particularly anxiety separation anxiety. Gosh, this hard one.

She wants me to move to a different state 4 hours away when my son and I are residents of different states. Saying it is too hard on him. But when he is with me, he is happy, sure this is hard for him. Sure, he probably has anxiety from it. But I did not try to run away with my son to a different state without my father’s permission.

I feel like this might be a tactic, for her convenience judge or me to give me more of my custody, but also I want to be sensitive to her needs. And more importantly, I want to be sensitive to my son's needs. But things that she says that bother my son are normal things, like being scared of the dark, and having accidents now and then. Does not like being away from their parents, or at least cries for like 3-4 minutes and then is back to normal.

Any ideas?

Am I a bad father?

scivi92 · 2024-10-11T09:27:45+00:00

She sounds terrible

l3landgaunt · 2024-10-10T18:28:20+00:00

Mine is telling people I have a drug problem. I’m honestly concerned that since her job grants her easy access to fentanyl that she’s going to try to fatally dose me so she can tell people my “drug problem” was the real reason for divorce. I keep narcan on me at all times now just in case

Classic_Dill · 2024-10-10T16:10:41+00:00

Men and women are different, men have a plethora of issues, but so do women, but we’re not allowed to talk about women’s issues, because it’s seen as being discriminatory or sexist. It can definitely go into that territory if you allow it to, which is unfortunate. Let’s look at some facts, gentlemen, men struggle, much harder after a break up than women do, men are eight times more likely to commit suicide after a divorce, then a woman is. Women are able to cut that emotional cord and walk away much, much, much quicker than men are, they heal or at least fake it to they make it much quicker than we do, as warm as they can be at times, they are also the most cold between the two sexes, a woman’s scorned? Right? Happy wife, happy life! All of these were put in place to try to deal with a woman’s bad behavior in our acceptance of that bad behavior, what is happening now in modern times, is the men are actually taking a step back and pausing, we’re tired of being abused and seen as ox that just wake up in the morning, go out to the field to plow and then come home and go back in the barn, learn yourself worth, have actual self-respect and you will never sell yourself at a deep discount ever again.

divorcex · 2024-10-10T15:25:52+00:00

Always remember, you're not running out of strength, you're running out of patience, and that's normal. The process is slow. It's flawed and designed to drain you—emotionally, physically, and monetarily. But keep in mind what you're fighting for—your relationship with your son.

silmarp · 2024-10-10T13:29:30+00:00

Ok. Thing is. When you get to the judge only speak when it's your time to speak. Stoic and resolute. Be calm of mind.

And keep the 180 and grey rocking.

You got it king.

Bretweir_jerky · 2024-10-10T11:05:36+00:00

I know your frustration, I’ve been there too. But I think if you read back what you wrote you’ll read about a man who has fought and won! You sir are a fighter and a winner! She is nuts. She planned the destruction of a family and is behaving like a child when it doesn’t get its way. Keep fighting. Stay in the game, you’re so close to the other side

Exactly65536 · 2024-10-10T10:26:07+00:00

You seem to be learning a valuable lesson, same as I learned in my first divorce.

Any person is a good person when you don't have a conflict, when your interests match.

You only know if the person is decent and honest and fair when there is a competition for a limited resource - a bank account, a house, time with a kid, etc.

Good luck and keep fighting.

Sea_Emu_4259 · 2024-10-10T06:15:18+00:00

A common tactic used by men is to call their wife 'crazy', but this approach can backfire as Judges may be quick to punish the 'offender' without sufficient evidence. So she kind of helped you.

Slowloris81 · 2024-10-10T03:54:56+00:00

I’m sorry. These stories are unfortunately all too common. You are fighting the good fight. This group is here to support you. All of my family is in a different country but I fight every day for my kids. It is hard and exhausting but worth the effort.

Longjumping-Cup-4018 · 2024-10-10T03:32:05+00:00

Get a restraining order on her. Sue her for emotional and mental damage.

koboboba · 2024-10-10T03:25:47+00:00

She didn't love you, she only loves herself, everyone else is just a tool for her to use.

Title	My wife is manipulating to end of time.
Author	Civil_Proposal6053
Upvotes	34
Comments	13
Date	October 10, 2024 2:55 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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