Is it a bad idea to ask my no contact situationship why he ghosted me?

Ok_Potential359 · 2024-10-17T02:49:30+00:00

Men don’t operate like women, when we’re attracted we make it known. It’s very black and white and no amount of mental judo you’re going to try to justify will change that.

Leave it alone, let him come to you. Your desperation is reeking from just this post alone.

Charge36 · 2024-10-17T01:25:27+00:00

What makes you think he's still attracted to you if he's ghosting you?

notmyrealusernameok · 2024-10-17T01:50:00+00:00

The most powerful thing you can say to someone is nothing. Stop chasing and start replacing….because you’ve already been dropped.

2024-10-17T00:15:28+00:00

Sorry luv, but that doesn't sound good. Honestly just move on.

2024-10-17T03:41:43+00:00

There’s no reason to, trust me. You won’t get the reaction from him that you’re hoping for.

Ghosting is disrespectful, period. He just did it a bit slower & didn’t have the balls to tell you that he just wanted to hookup. Don’t give him the satisfaction that he’s still on your mind. Pretend like he doesn’t exist.

Also, I hate to break it to you but you can’t say that “he’s still attracted to you” while ghosting you. He didn’t just go to the kitchen to make a sandwich, where he’ll be back in 15 minutes. He’s not responding to you.

When do you ignore someone for days on end? When you don’t want to talk to them or see them anymore. Also he wasn’t just “busy” this whole time, especially if he hasn’t even communicated that to you.

Remember, nobody is more busier in this world than someone who doesn’t want to see someone else again.

Even if he hits you up again & says how he missed you so much, ignoring you was a disrespectful behavior. Don’t tolerate disrespect, no matter how much you liked them or thought that they were a different person.

Don’t pay attention to what they say. Pay attention to what they do.

I know this might hurt to hear but that’s the truth. Don’t reach out to them anymore & don’t bother speaking to him. If THEY come up to you first at the event, then you can be cordial & respond, but keep it simple & keep it short. Don’t ask him questions. Don’t ask why he hasn’t contacted you. Don’t say how you missed him.

Do it for yourself. Show yourself the self-respect that you deserve.

Rustin_Cohle95 · 2024-10-17T08:16:15+00:00

Bad idea. He likely found you attractive enough to wanna hookup with you, but probably not attractive enough for more, if he already started replying slowly after sleeping with you once.

m4tchb0x · 2024-10-17T01:50:45+00:00

You will gain nothing by asking. Just move on.

Joker_RH · 2024-10-17T07:49:38+00:00

Lol he playing u and acting busy then u will meet up and he'll just use u again then disappear. That's what they teach these days and seems to be working for him.

therealwoujo · 2024-10-17T10:16:24+00:00

Sorry to say but this is common with men. A lot of men like the thrill of the chase but once they get what they want (sex) they lose interest. No amount of conversation will fix that. If anything it will make him feel like he can do it again. Sorry you fucked an immature insecure manchild.

lionsFan20096896 · 2024-10-17T04:12:35+00:00

Just look for another dude

Booster93 · 2024-10-17T04:21:27+00:00

Hookup with guys that want to be with you. Seems like quick fix isn’t your thing.

Quartrez · 2024-10-17T06:25:44+00:00

I mean, maybe he's waiting to see if you're interested enough to initiate the conversation. You'll even see that advice thrown around for men here once in a while. I'd say at least open the conversation, but if he seems distant or still barely replies, yea consider it a lost cause.

devonthed00d · 2024-10-17T09:51:02+00:00

It’s very simple. He got what he wanted.

Just move on. (Like he did)

justmots · 2024-10-17T11:50:34+00:00

Probably found someone else.

BMagic98 · 2024-10-17T11:51:39+00:00

You can try asking but he's most likely not interested anymore. Think what mistakes you did that could have turned him off and improve, women always do an insane amount of mistakes and just going out on a date isn't going to repair the damage

mister_k1 · 2024-10-17T14:03:06+00:00

he is a chad acting like a chad would, whats so surprising here? i really have a hard time understanding women that want the excitement of dating a "fuckboy" then being surprised he is ghosting! he is probably smashing another chick right now!

CancelTraining7677 · 2024-10-18T07:31:09+00:00

He just wanted you for sex. But also you could ask him but don't even expect a response or a good response, but you might get lucky and get one. Just forget about it and move on it is not the right thing for you

Lovelife514 · 2025-03-22T14:54:24+00:00

I get it babe you’re looking for reassurance and closure BUT he cannot give you that. I’ve been there before similar situation. We were seeing each other for over a year with no commitment and when I ended it , he wanted to have a conversation. And I allowed it . We spoke 90 mins and it’s didn’t give me any closure. I told him that I cannot stay b/c I don’t feel valued or loved , since we don’t go out on dates , he doesn’t introduce me to his friends or family etc … and all he kept saying was that it’s how he is blah blah blah and that This year ain’t a good year he doesn’t go out with anyone and tbh it’s all BS b/c he’s still on dating sites. It’s hard reality to accept but you need RADICAL ACCEPTANCE that even if a man likes you it’s just don’t like you that much if he’s not willing to commit to you. The conversation didn’t really bring me anything , except that i was able to see that really thsi ain’t ever gonna go nowhere. B/c even if u do ask him he’ll come up with some BSCexcuses… the reality is sometimes someone doesn’t see you as their person and there’s no specific reason you just don’t FEEL it . It’s the same way for us , a man can have all the right attributes handsome , tall, successful but you just don’t feel it. The best thing u can do it’s let it go. I’m with you babe 4 days of NC and I’m crying every day

Blitted_Master · 2024-10-17T00:38:06+00:00

If you wanna know then ask. I had an fwb that I drifted apart from over time. I came across her profile a couple years later on an app and re-engaged for another year or so. If you’re interested then see if he’s with it. Why not? If he rejects you then you have proper closure and can forget about him. Win win situation.

No-Preference8767 · 2024-10-17T03:00:10+00:00

Yes. It's a good idea .

Try to push whatever buttons you need to to make sure he's as honest as possible.

Lie if you need to. ( " You couldve just told her you wanted to fuck. Id would've been down with that " ) Make him angry Call him out on his bullshit etc...

Because maybe you can get some feedback if you actually did something wrong .

Besides that I wouldn't fall for any lies or let him back in your life because you're worth a simple goodbye text. No second chances for ghosters.

Title	Is it a bad idea to ask my no contact situationship why he ghosted me?
Author	NowYoureInMyMaze
Upvotes	7
Comments	41
Date	October 16, 2024 11:54 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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