Dealing with “are you here alone?”

HotAir25 · 2024-12-05T20:51:56+00:00

Yeah most girls are put off if they think you’re alone….i presume because you have no social proof that you’re a social, non threatening person (?).

Personally I would lie….my friend had to leave early, or met a girl….

Not sure what the best thing is to say but I wouldn’t admit to being out alone. Not all girls care, but quite a few seem to and I’ve had hot girls decide to not go home with me when they or their friend realised I was out alone.

Junior-Sport7376 · 2024-12-05T21:09:59+00:00

Never say you are alone. They instantly think negative.

Silly_Randy · 2024-12-05T20:18:54+00:00

"I've lost my friends"

You could add. "Would you keep me company, you look cool/ fun"

dwobbo · 2024-12-05T20:48:51+00:00

Of course not. I’m here with you.

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-12-05T21:46:41+00:00

I wear a (wedding) ring and airpods 9 out of 10 times when I’m out there by myself. They help me a lot.

If someone bugs me, I just point at my airpods in my ears they always assume I’m talking to someone so they leave me alone. Or if you want to end a convo or feel the convo going nowhere, just say “I gotta take this call, nice meeting you.”

Not only a ring can give you a “wedding ring effect”, but it can also gives an automatic validation that you’re not a loner/alone, not a weirdo, and you’re safe to talk to. I wear it so often it leaves a mark on my finger some women even said it “I can tell you’re not single.” Like dude, I just forgot to wear it, not purposely took it off because I was gonna talk to you.

Chasin1337 · 2024-12-05T20:45:32+00:00

Find an average looking friends group and ask if they can find a girl for you. Youll be surprised how motivated they get🤣

Or just say u lost your friends or say you are there for a business trip and say your colleagues are old and already left you.

Just be confident in your response and it would NEVER be weird. Solo night game is my absolute favorite because you have all the freedom, use it

Also maybe try to not have that Temu gangster vibe. Girls spot it so easily if you try to be more than you are. Dress casually without too much jewelry

postbody · 2024-12-05T20:46:52+00:00

Big gold earrings ? Yeah you probably come off as a tool.

Chicagoj1563 · 2024-12-06T03:08:06+00:00

Try to think of it like this.

For a guy who is attractive and has his shit together, this question won’t matter at all. He will be non reactive and wouldn’t be worried about what people think about him being there alone. He definitely wouldn’t be worried about what the girl thinks.

If you are totally comfortable with being asked this, you can treat it as a shit test. Act like it’s no big deal and turn it into a self amusing joke. Not in a way where you are hiding something, but you truly don’t care what people think about it. It’s fun for you to joke about being there alone. Find ways to self amuse about it.

Or you can say it’s easier to hit on girls when your friends aren’t around. Or answer in any other way that seems natural to you. Just try not to be serious. Game should be fun, not serious and overly logical.

Main thing is to treat it as a shit test, and come off like you are completely unaffected by being asked this question. Totally comfortable.

If you are worried about what the girl thinks, or what other people may think of you being there alone, you already lost.

Repulsive_Leg5150 · 2024-12-05T20:26:01+00:00

Make some friends

Trohawkk · 2024-12-06T00:58:59+00:00

goddamn i already have my next solo excursion planned. cannot wait!

TransitionOk9918 · 2024-12-07T03:58:50+00:00

Girl like confidence, if you can say you’re alone and be confident about it you’ll be more then fine

taysoncat14 · 2024-12-05T23:38:30+00:00

Naw that’s just in your head ! I go out alone a lot and I never think people are looking at me weird for being alone or anything! I always just make new friends there. Even when I go with a friend, I leave him there standing by the wall while I go walk around and usually come back with girls or with new friends.. well either way if they ask me “are you here alone” I say, “no my friend is over there dancing with a girl he just met” and continue the conversation

Quantic316 · 2024-12-05T23:00:17+00:00

just say your friends are around somewhere or they already left

Always2ndB3ST · 2024-12-06T03:17:32+00:00

Say “no I came with my friend but he took an uber home cuz of something urgent that happened”

Gaydame · 2024-12-06T09:29:10+00:00

Just say your friend went home.

I said this to my now girlfriend who knows that I lied. But I said to her "if I'd said that I was there alone it probably wouldn't have gone anywhere" and she agreed.

So my advice - lie. It's not a big lie it's like: How are you? Fine thanks. Now on with the conversation

wishful123 · 2024-12-06T12:37:25+00:00

Say I'm taking a break.

show-me-the-numbers · 2024-12-09T19:46:49+00:00

My strategy, make friends fast and then you're never there alone. I use the association method to remember names.

swapnil123481 · 2024-12-11T10:02:23+00:00

"Friends? Whats that? I'm a crazy cat lady."

bruno-vr · 2024-12-06T03:35:19+00:00

Really bad advice here (no surprise…) Don’t lie. Own it and make it look badass.

HandItToMarshawn · 2024-12-06T03:17:12+00:00

Just own it.

ManofInfluence12 · 2024-12-06T16:15:31+00:00

“Yes I am. But just because I’m alone doesn’t mean you get to take advantage of me, okay? I’m tired of girls just tying to get in my pants”

You’re welcome.

Title	Dealing with “are you here alone?”
Author	postbody
Upvotes	23
Comments	35
Date	December 5, 2024 8:12 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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