In my marriage and now in the divorce if I screw up, however minor (ie: accidentally telling her the wrong time or location for a sports practice) I get roasted-crazy text messages and phone calls, nasty letters from her lawyer, etc…

Case in point-per my agreement I pick my kids up from school on Thursdays. She signed them up for basketball (which I consented to) and my five year old was sent to school this morning (from my ex’s house) with boots on. If I had sent one of them without proper footwear for sports, etc…to her house I’d probably be getting a visit from the Police by now. I text my ex telling her that I need her sneakers. I get a response of “I’m not home-she doesn’t have any old ones at your house?” I simply say no. She then offers to leave a pair in her driveway. I simply respond with “OK.” Then I rush to get her to practice only to find out it starts a full half hour later than I was told. She had forgotten to forward me a follow up email from the coaches.

As much as I want to say something I know that it just feeds the beast and gets me nowhere, but goddamn is it frustrating to keep biting my lip. Curious to hear how others handle this stuff.