What does a bodycount qualify as?

Wife_and_Mama · 2024-12-27T21:07:37+00:00

Most men won't want all the details. As you get older, it's less likely they'll even ask, so if it's something you're worried about, I'd suggest letting him bring it up. You can certainly tell him it's not something you discuss, but if he's asking in the first place, that's likely a dealbreaker.

In general, I'd recommend vague honesty. "I've slept with three men, but fooled around with two others in college." If he wants more information, he can ask. You can share or not, but never lie. If you lie and he somehow finds out (drunk confession, stories don't line up, buddy mentions something, etc.) he'll have no way to know what the truth really is and will likely never trust you again. You can be honest without oversharing, though. That's where I'd start.

YYZYYC · 2024-12-28T14:18:15+00:00

I have no time for and cant take seriously anyone that uses the phrase “body count”

youllknowwhenitstime · 2024-12-27T22:58:46+00:00

Flashbacks to a gay classmate in college, who had previously mentioned his body count was 19, saying he was technically also a virgin because he had never had intercourse with a woman.

Your body count is the number of bodies you've had sex with. We call oral sex and anal sex "sex" in English because in English culture we consider the acts sex.

That said, you are definitely conflating being honest with oversharing. You don't have to present yourself as having had 2 boyfriends if your real body count is over 30. But unless the body count is extremely low - 0 or 1, maybe 2 depending on your age - and therefore relevant to express inexperience or your standards, specifying the number is downright crass. Specifying what acts and their number is crasser.

AngelFire_3_14156 · 2024-12-27T20:02:25+00:00

I think the more transparent you are, the stronger position it will put you in.

I told my husband EVERYTHING. My reasoning was that if anything should come up in the future that could raise a question about my body count, then he would already know about it. Further if for some reason he couldn't handle something in my past, I'd rather he find out sooner than later

Plenty-Green186 · 2024-12-27T19:55:55+00:00

I personally disagree with President Clinton, I think oral sex counts. I don’t think it should matter too much anyways though

Equivalent-Ad5449 · 2024-12-27T22:44:09+00:00

Honestly I find it so weird that people discuss this. I’d never ask a man this as no good reason too and would find it creepy and red flag if a man needed to know

VasiliyZaitzev · 2024-12-30T04:41:20+00:00

PiV. Simple as. At least that’s how I score it when I care to ask. The only reason I would ask would be to gauge how effed in the head she might be if I’m not able to triangulate that in other ways.

throwthisthothaway · 2025-03-24T09:36:11+00:00

Does attempted pnetration even count? Cuz it did not go anywhere nor far not even past the gates properly before we had to stop the whole thing off And personally i am petty and refuse to accept something that couldnt even begin properly for something thats supposed to be satisying as a body count.

I cant count a body that didnt even start right to even possibly end in satisfaction. To count something is to get at the end so you can count it! Right???

Aah..this is so stupid people are so stupid. Nobody is a fking phone were all humans and live our lives untill we meet someone..we cant just sit and not live human experience... Also its stupid if its only one sided, as if the other side is obligated to accept that but not the other way around..It also feels predatory.. grown human adults have adult experiences that doesnt mean they shouldnt be responsible adults.. ugh humans.

JustaRelief · 2025-05-16T15:05:31+00:00

For me, it doesn't matter the quantity of sex, but the circumstances, if it is on a relationship, okay

But if it was a casual one, not a chance

Consistent-Citron513 · 2024-12-27T23:07:12+00:00

I find it to be a weird question. My last boyfriend was the first person to ask me and even though I answered honestly, I found it very weird and invasive and if put in the situation again, I don't think I would answer. It's nobody's business, honestly.

cubatista92 · 2024-12-27T23:13:05+00:00

Anyone who asks, and expects an inventory, is not really looking at you as a person.

They are looking at you as a tool/object. How many bjs, how many times you made out? Does it matter if you gave 100 bj to 1 guy in 2 months? or 10bj to 1 guy, in 2 Years ? Does it matter if you had 3 night stands in 1 months in the course of 3 years?

If they are comfortable enough asking you that question, they should have known you for a length of time that they should know your value and caliber. And they shouldn't even want to ask that question, because WTF?

Now, if you want to volunteer your purity and use it as an asset/virtue, be careful how you approach it. Because some bad actors will treat you like a challenge and it will not end well, once they've 'conquered' you.

Overall, my answer to anyone that makes the subject a deciding factor, is that they will not be counted in that list in the future. They are officially disqualified from the position. I don't want anyone who will shame me, or see it as a metric in my favour, because their value system doesn't align with mine.

ghostlymeanders · 2024-12-27T21:19:14+00:00

My husband has never asked me, I would have found that creepy and invasive and I don't even know what the answer would be, not because it's so high, but because I don't really want to think about anyone I broke up with again, what a waste of brain power. I let them fade away, like tears in the rain. It may be pertinent to mention it if you are a virgin, but if you're not, I just don't see how it's anyone's business.

NewSpace2 · 2024-12-27T20:39:42+00:00

It is nobody's business. Is it your ex-boyfriend's current girlfriend's business what you and him got up to? E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G ?

No. It's low-class to be uncouth about one's sexlife.

Being demure & refined and private (because a woman never tells) is classy.

Don't fall for it. Don't be trashy, boorish, or even bawdy.

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Full text: In the event of discussing your sexual experience and past to a potential partner, what would you guys include and exclude? Would oral sex be something you mention in your bodycount? I would like to be completely honest, but im unsure what guys ask for when they want to know your bodycount.

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