Every time I’m out at the bar I either get too nervous to approach at all, or the approach starts out ok but goes nowhere or poorly. Last night was out drinking with the boys, I opened a girl to my left but she was kinda rude and immediately dismissed me. Went out for a cig, approached a girl out there, went a little bit better but eventually couldn’t figure out what to say. Wanted to escalate but then she went inside and ignored me. Third girl I approached was a disaster, she looked at me like I had 3 heads. My buddy said I’m too impatient and I don’t talk for long enough, and I am too direct apparently. When there’s even a slight sign of disinterest I immediately give up. How persistent should I even be? I don’t wanna be too platonic and talk my way into the friend zone. Idk what the deal is I think I give off a creepy vibe sometimes, which is weird because in college sometimes the girls approached me and I didn’t have to do much. Or maybe it’s a cultural thing because I’m southern but I live in the northeast now. I just feel so discouraged like no matter how good I look or act there’s something wrong with me that these girls always pick up on. But oh well gotta practice at least. I’m just happy I even tried instead of just sitting there