How are yall seeing iois and interest from girls you don’t know?

throwaway193867234 · 2025-02-01T21:17:51+00:00

Women act differently depending on their personality type. Some women (generally those who tend to be really vibrant and expressive) will often make repeated glances at you; it's a subconscious reaction for them.

Some women, typically shyer or less confident ones, will act like they don't like you without even realizing it - for example, they might completely avoid eye contact with you in a group conversation, or they avoid you or become tense when it's just you two. This is due to anxiety and it's up to you to make them comfortable or else nothing will happen. A great way to identify this is to see how they react around unattractive guys - you may notice they're very comfortable and at-ease with them but suddenly tense with you.

Also, you need to be sure they're acting this way because they're secretly crushing on you, and not because they actually dislike you or think you're a creep lol, because it's the same behavior for both. I remember a situation where a woman was acting this way around me, and then we had a one-on-one meeting at work with just us in the room - she was super tense at the beginning with crossed arms and darty eye-contact, but as the meeting progressed she warmed up. By the end we had very long eye contact while smiling and she was mirroring my weird slouch exactly, and for the rest of the day she was almost euphoric.

I've also noticed women will just straight up stare at you when they think you can't see - I've observed this a lot in yoga studios/gyms where there are tons of mirrors everywhere and they don't realize you can see them staring. They actually stare just as much, if not more than us men do, probably because if we do it it's creepy.

Actual smiles from strangers are the most obvious but you need to be giving off a good, happy vibe for most women to feel comfortable enough to smile. Women who are interested in you will pick up on your mood really quickly and it will affect them. For example I've noticed that when I'm in a serious mood, some women become on-edge, whereas when I'm relaxed and happy those same women suddenly become happy and joyful themselves.

Overall, it's generally pretty subtle since most women are on the shyer side. The biggest thing I learned is the more approachable you are (smiling, looking happy and vibrant) the more comfortable women are going to feel making a move - just keep in mind that a "move" for most women is something as simple as a putting themselves near you or just looking at you.

DaygameCode · 2025-02-01T21:19:47+00:00

I don’t. I just approach without caring about IOIs.

I don’t need a woman to give me signs that she wants me to approach her i just approach her respectfully and start being charming.

theasianplayboy · 2025-02-01T22:34:55+00:00

As a 5’5 mid Asian guy, I can’t depend on looking for IOIs because, let’s be real, I’d never get them. Instead, I create attraction after I approach. I don’t wait for permission, I don’t wait for “signs”—I make it happen by leading the interaction.

That said, if you’re someone who gets IOIs (Indicators of Interest), here’s what to look for:

1. Eye contact: Some women will hold eye contact for a second longer than usual. Others will keep glancing at you when they think you won’t notice (gyms with mirrors are great for spotting this). 2. Proximity: She moves closer to you or lingers near you even when she has no reason to. 3. Preening: Fixing her hair, adjusting her clothes, licking her lips—it’s subconscious but common. 4. Mirroring: She starts matching your body language and energy. 5. Engagement: She initiates conversation, asks you personal questions, or teases you.

Some women (especially more expressive, social types) make IOIs obvious—long eye contact, flirting, laughing at everything you say. Others, especially shyer women, might avoid looking at you altogether even if they’re into you.

At the end of the day, IOIs are nice, but they’re not necessary. If I had to wait for a woman to show interest before making a move, I’d never get anywhere. Don’t wait for permission—create attraction yourself.

If you want to get better at spotting IOIs, check out this video: 13 Indicators of Interest: How to Spot If She’s Attracted to You

mrthrowaway_ii · 2025-02-02T00:39:24+00:00

They’ll make eye contact and smile. Get near you in order for you to approach. If you’re having a conversation with them they’ll be intrigued about whatever you’re saying and they’ll try to get the convo going. Drunk women will approach you and tell you what it is.

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-02-01T21:49:33+00:00

Simple fact: in general guys don’t approach and talk to unattractive women, I notice this on daily basis especially at work and confirmed by other guys. It sounds simple, right? Why approaching a mid or a fugly one such a waste of time. So when women just try to be nice or polite to us by smiling or looking at us, or even talking to us, many of us misinterpret it as “signals” or “interest”. Our misinterpretation is merely the result of our projection.

So again, IOI’s are overrated. The science of “Body language” is pseudoscience at best. If you wanna approach someone then approach, don’t rely too much on their signals and IOI’s. Last but not least: I’ve slept with more women who didn’t show me any signals or IOI’s prior to my approaches than the ones who did. That should tell you something.

Worth-Combination306 · 2025-02-01T22:46:55+00:00

Peripheral vision

copyapi · 2025-02-02T12:56:18+00:00

For my experience with girls that have been atracted to me: -When they aré having a conversation with you, they talk good about themselves, about their work, career, or about their personalities, they Sell themselves. Men also do this. -they look at you when you're talking, everybody does sure, but this look is not a normal look, what they are doing Is inspecting your face when you're talking. The look is different, it kicks you. Also the look tend to last a little bit More after you finish

Ryan_the_Scion · 2025-02-02T14:11:08+00:00

For real?! Girls call you sexy to your face all the time?

I DON'T get that, but I do get IOIs like:

*) "Come greet my friend she's out to get some."

*) General spontaneous compliments (smile, face, body etc)

*) Making out without introducing themselves

*) Grinding their ass on my groin on dancefloor

*) Giving me small things, drink, tickets etc.

*) General IOI: limp wrist; playing with hair; eye contact and a smile; them playfully initiating conversation.

I can't recall once that stranger of a girl has said "you look really sexy" just like that. You say you know 99 % of girls make long eye contact by accident. That ain't so.

Intelligent-Roll-763 · 2025-02-05T06:33:11+00:00

Don't wait for anything.

Go for it .

Let me tell you why...

When you wait for women to give you signals you are hurting yourself:

- you become scared of rejection, you don't develop a tough skin to endure most social situations. You are mentally weak and you don't have calibration to deal with group scenarios

- you become reactive and in your head, so bad that even if you meet a woman you like , you will be so intimidated that she will lose attraction for you . Some guys would not be intimidated but by the nature of your post I know you would.

- game is about getting the women you want . It's ok to let women select you if you're looking to have quick meaningless sex or whatnot. But to pick quality women you need to be the one choosing them . So walk up to them and see if you are compatible..it's more attractive anyway.

When you walk around during a day how many women throw obvious signs at you? Also feel free to dm me I like talking about this stuff

ice_man085 · 2025-02-05T13:27:28+00:00

I do not believe in IOs so I do not see them. What I see is that some strange women react differently than other women. Sometimes strange women smile at me when I look in their direction or keep their door open. Some women look at me in a different way than others do (with dilated pupils which is supposed to indicate positive surprise) I never made anything out of that. I might have been some IOs or maybe just normal human behavior.

The best way is just to take your fate into your hand and approach the women you want to approach.

vladiVP · 2025-02-01T21:12:19+00:00

Thats why they do not 😃

Title	How are yall seeing iois and interest from girls you don’t know?
Author	florida_made_lit_jit
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Date	February 1, 2025 9:09 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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