When a man is the abuser vs when a woman is the abuser

The first comment is under a SA victim’s video telling her story about how she was raped by a man. The second comment is under a slideshow in response to a comment saying “women can’t do those things only m*n” (Yes the word men was actually censored) And I just find it annoying how when its a man who abuses a woman, blatant man hate ensues. There were other comments under that video saying “All men should just off themselves” “XY chromosome is a disease” “Kill all men” but when its a woman abusing a man, it’s suddenly “It isn’t the gender, it’s the person”

I do agree with the second statement, nobody is born evil based on their gender, and either gender can do evil. We should be hating horrible people, not just one gender. But I just find it bizarre how the difference in comments and how man hate is becoming so normalized. If people were saying “All women should off themselves” under a video of a woman abusing a man, he would be called a misogynist incel. But when it’s towards a man, it’s “justified.” Why are we saying hate towards men should be normalized?!