How to seduce a girl that is opposite from you

Known-Student-381 · 2025-03-29T11:39:07+00:00

You don't have to impress her with your life, you just have to be enjoyable to spend time with. Make the conversation fun for you (while not trying to make it about you), and you'll likely make it fun for her.

Zotoaster · 2025-03-29T11:41:08+00:00

Perhaps you're attracted to her because she represents your unlived life.

As they say, if you don't do it, you'll try to marry it. You gotta see this as your cue to step up your lifestyle

Rhino3750ss · 2025-03-29T11:47:47+00:00

This situation is better than you think.

Think about 3rd grade science when you learned how magnets work. Common poles repel, opposing poles attract. Polarity also applies to men and women.

It's often easier to attract your opposite because you are more likely to behave in an outcome independent manner. Don't worry about fishing for common ground to talk about or having logical conversation in the first place,you want to banter, you want the interaction to be all vibe. Watch some old Craig Ferguson clips and watch how he talks and behaves. share stupid and colorful thoughts about life, the surroundings, or stuff you observe, don't give away too much info about yourself and don't pry for too much info out of her so she has to slowly turn one page at a time. The faster the story is over, the faster she moves to the next one.

trdcr · 2025-03-29T11:43:42+00:00

Make her feel emotions, be unpredictable.

CountryJeff · 2025-03-29T11:45:24+00:00

If you want to be a more interesting person than you think you are now, then I suppose that is not something you can change much in a week. Generally that would mean some changes to your lifestyle in a way that you would think of yourself more as an interesting person.

However, somehow she agreed to go on a date with you. So there must be some initial interest.
Perhaps because she appreciates some opposites to herself as well. Maybe you would be able to provide a sense of stability for her.

Or in a less healthy sense, perhaps she likes the spotlight and needs an audience.
Who is to say.

Perhaps you can help yourself for this date, to imagine what qualities you have that might be interesting for someone who would complement that.

But if this date isn't working out, then I'd suggest making yourself and your life more interesting in a way that is good for you. And then at a certain point you might feel very interesting, when going on a date.

150420throwaway · 2025-03-29T13:50:55+00:00

You’re already set up for failure with that mentality. Work on your self image.

If you’re lazy, don’t be, do shit.

GSikhB · 2025-03-29T12:40:22+00:00

Just stare at her long enough until she falls into your arms

DopeAFjknotreally · 2025-03-29T14:07:55+00:00

I mean why not just find hot girls that are similar to you?

One of the big misconceptions of all this is that you have to be able to get any girl. Screen girls for their personalities, too. Find a chick that is hot and also - to you - the coolest fucking chick on the planet.

Brother, even if you’re not looking for a relationship…trust me - sex is 10000000x better when this is the scenario

Eyitsyaboii · 2025-03-29T21:54:01+00:00

Whatever the elephant in the room is, don't be afraid to call it out. Use Irony and hyperbole. Tell her that her life is too boring and you wish she was as exciting as you. Make absurd statements about how dangerous office work is, how you almost died from a papercut. Things like that.

Make sure you are very obvious when you are being sarcastic and absurd. You should watch some Ryan Reynolds interviews to see how he does it.

StrongElderberry8952 · 2025-03-29T16:21:52+00:00

You hate people, she likes people, that alone will be a fun convo topic

I hate people too, once I go on a date with an extrovert and said something like " How the hell can you smile and laugh with people and not hates them inside", she burst out laughing

ChicoBrillo · 2025-03-29T15:16:54+00:00

You guys take the wrong approach to dating and romance. She obv sees something interesting / attractive in you, the advice will always be the same, have fun and don’t be too platonic, escalate properly, don’t over think jt

succesful333 · 2025-03-30T00:36:43+00:00

U don’t have to change in order for someone to like u if they don’t like u how u naturally are then bye

DebunkTheIgn · 2025-03-30T01:32:27+00:00

Women think a man’s interesting that is able to make her feel like she should respect him, he’s a fantastic listener, while also making it fun with confident romantic intent.

If you literally just get her talking and listen and learn her, make her feel understood. Talk 15-20% get her to talk 80-85%.

Talk about where she grew up, why she loved it, what she misses most, what inspired her journey into dance and how it felt chasing that passion, the fears the joys, and make her feel interesting and all the while. Relating and seeing the whys to her what’s. As you’re Relaxed back chilling, enjoying yourself enjoying her, use that lovely smirk brother, knowing you’re the fucking shit, and that you’re just being there is a blessing in her life and she knows it. A little bit of confident cockiness, own your shit. Have some pride. Be a little vague on your stories and wrap conversation back to her. Women desire and are attracted to strength, be that. You don’t have to have anything in common to get to know someone and sleep together.

Lord_Asmodeus93 · 2025-03-30T09:03:55+00:00

You don't really need to find common ground. All you need is to be fun.

Find out what you're really passionate about, and become that guy. This is a transformation that probably won't happen overnight, but will serve you a lifetime. When you're living your life with passion, you subconsciously signal that to other people, and that's a very attractive trait.

Title	How to seduce a girl that is opposite from you
Author	Sad-Function6273
Upvotes	19
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Date	March 29, 2025 11:30 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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