If I were to ask her (after good conversation of course) if she is taken

  • this way I can "brush it off" and maybe just maybe 6 months from now or a year find an opening again
  • also my confindence wouldnt be that shot because rejection isnt because me (though I get why this is problematic)

If i were to ask her directly - are you up for coffie or drinks or to hang out, negative answer seems definitive, I cant really go to that teritorry again without being the guy who was rejected.

This all is in enviroment of girls you see at work, bakery, supermaket.

No point of this debate for nightclubs or girls that you just met and probably wont see ever again.