Depression and Anxiety

BornBandicoot2515 · 2025-04-05T19:54:45+00:00

I’m can relate to how you are feeling. It’s been a rough go over here recently and I too have been experiencing a lot of depression and anxiety.

It’s been said here (and I certainly want to believe bc I too want to get out of the funk) - stay as busy as you can. Workout, get a hobby (wish I could find one), stay as social as you can (this is a tough one bc you need a social circle and you have to force yourself to get past your negative feelings and actually gear up to go).

The drugs mentioned here can help but really are just masking the pain (not that I don’t use them when I need them but I know they aren’t a solution).

I’m thinking about seeking therapy. Could be helpful to you.

I have elected to go non-contact with my ex and her people. I think this best. If you interact with them / the ex you are just hurting yourself and smashing yourself in the brain with fresh info that likely will not help you.

Time is really the answer. It takes time to process trauma. I wish you well and frankly if you find a magical cure or answer, pls let me know.

Old-Condition6565 · 2025-04-02T14:49:44+00:00

Who asked for the Divorce you or her? If you did it’s likely she’s crushed and talking to her people and getting the support she needs. Of course they don’t want to talk to you because she’s hurting because of your decision. Do not do a smear campaign on her either and just let her be. Now if the tables are turned and she asked for it then the same rules apply to her. Everyone needs to understand that when you get Divorced it’s not just about losing a spouse, you lose everyone connected to her and we have no business ever talking to them again. It’s very complex and again if you are the one that initiated it then you need to come to terms with how it goes especially where her family and friends are concerned because it’s only natural for them to hate you and never want anything to do with you again. That’s another reason why divorce is so hard.

sunriderx · 2025-04-01T11:47:52+00:00

Working out outside helps me, fresh air, sunlight - something like running, biking or just walking

idkwhyimaloser37 · 2025-03-31T02:00:08+00:00

Go exercise!!!! You'll feel loads better

No-Tomorrow8150 · 2025-03-30T03:53:10+00:00

You lived before you met her so don’t give her or anyone that much influence over you. Take up a sport where focus is required. E.g. Boxing would be good because you get hit and also hit, plus if you’re not focused on what you’re doing you will learn quick. It will give your mind a break from all the crap in your life. Wrestling can also work.

fdana9191 · 2025-03-30T01:15:10+00:00

Heh. Yesterday, my therapist said I need medication or to try this device called alpha-Stim for my anxiety. Still reading up on it. I guess after a year into this divorce mess and 10 months doing therapy, my body is breaking down from the knots in my stomach and my spinny head.

Externally im good. I’m being there for my kids, I’m crushing my job and pushing through this divorce process. Inside I’m a fucking mess and don’t know if I will ever be happy again. That this is it. Everything is spinning and the constant knots in my stomach.

Abject-Soup-2753 · 2025-03-29T22:29:53+00:00

Feel it. Embrace the grief. It will pass.

Content-Class1259 · 2025-03-29T20:49:53+00:00

Don’t plead your case. You don’t need to prove yourself to anybody.

Heavy_Guitar_4848 · 2025-03-29T20:48:10+00:00

Start small if you have to but Long walks, mostly on a treadmill because the weather always sucks. Focusing on and researching solving problems instead of problems helps. Communicate with as many people as possible, friends, family, dating apps, even strangers on social media. Have long and short term goals too

pcx4487 · 2025-03-29T20:32:20+00:00

Depending on your age it may be worth looking into TRT clinics. Low T can make depression / anxiety worse and it's a pretty simple fix if you are low.

Zestyclose-Thanks662 · 2025-03-29T20:15:33+00:00

Be in the moment feel what you are supposed to feel. If you don’t have to go anywhere don’t. Your emotions are telling you something

JustSomeDude7287 · 2025-03-29T20:11:54+00:00

Move. Get sunlight, just move. Staying in place makes it worse, any movement helps.

When you ruminate about the past you’ll be in depression and worry about the future you’ll be anxious.

Ask yourself telling them your story - what will that accomplish? Would it change anything that happened? Will you see them again? If they are close to you then sure but if it’s people you hardly see, imo doesn’t change anything.

You may be looking for closure but none of that gives you closure. Write it down as if you were going to give them a letter then burn it.

Title	Depression and Anxiety
Author	Boglehead101
Upvotes	5
Comments	17
Date	March 29, 2025 8:05 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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