Let’s get one thing clear. I don’t use the term “sex worker.” That sounds like she’s out here laying bricks or operating heavy machinery. Come on. It’s not work in the traditional sense, it’s a hustle, and that’s why I prefer the term “provider services.” It’s a clean way of saying what it is without pretending it’s something it’s not.

Now why am I talking about this? Because whether people like to admit it or not, a growing number of men are choosing providers as an alternative or supplement to traditional dating. And here’s the kicker, many of the guys I’ve sold custom love dolls to? They used to go the provider route and found it more economical to invest in a doll instead. Some of them still do both. That’s right, the doll is at home waiting, and the provider is the Friday night plan. No shame in it, either.

Let’s talk time. You ever sit through hours of swiping, texting, and small talk only to meet up with someone who looks nothing like their profile pic, orders the most expensive thing on the menu, and never calls you again? Congrats, you just burned three hours and $150 for the privilege of being ghosted. Bars and nightlife? Even worse. Drinks, cover, parking, then you stand around hoping a girl who isn’t glued to her phone actually notices you. It’s exhausting. The ROI on that mess is worse than crypto in 2022.

Providers? You pay for what you want, you know what you’re getting, and there’s no drama. She’s not going to flake on you because her ex texted her, or because Mercury is in retrograde. It’s a simple transaction that gives a man clarity, and frankly, relief. And most importan, it's honest! No lies, no games, no bullshit!

And here’s what most people don’t get, there’s often a sense of connection too. You go to the same provider a few times, she remembers what you like, how you like to talk, your little quirks. It may be transactional, but that doesn’t mean it has to be robotic. For guys in long dry spells or in dead-end marriages, it can be the only form of affection or warmth they get. It doesn’t replace a relationship, but it fills a void.

Now let’s clear up the STD scare tactic. Most professional providers are cleaner and safer than random Tinder hookups, who might go from Chad to Brad in one night and never use protection. Providers (the legit and professional ones) often go for regular screenings, use condoms, and operate with professionalism. Meanwhile, Karen from Hinge just had a drunken night out and forgot to tell you she’s “seeing where things go” with three other dudes.

Now some people like to bring up the idea of male providers or male dolls for women, but that’s not the same. Women don’t generally seek this stuff out the way men do. It’s not about morals, it’s about nature. Guys are more likely to pursue physical release, and dolls or providers meet that need. Women want emotional connection first, and let's not forget "the challenge". Male dolls or escorts don’t scratch that itch for them. It's too easy, no chase. As for gay men buying male dolls, not really either. I can count with just a few fingers the few times I have sold male dolls. They exist, but not a big seller at all. I guess gay men are an easy lay, go figure.

And in other cultures? Nobody’s clutching their pearls over this. In Latin America or parts of Europe and Asia, it’s normal for a young man to get “introduced” to this world by an older male figure, uncle, dad, older cousin, because they see it as part of becoming a man. It gives guys experience without the confusion or performance anxiety of navigating today’s emotional landmine of dating. For some men who have completely checked out of the dating game altogther, this method of provider services or synthetic women is the best solution to their eternal dryspell. For the men who are still looking for real romance and long term relationship, the doll or provider is a great way to supplement those interim dryspells as you survive modern dating.

Provider services have been part of our treasured human history and to shame the "oldest profession in the world" does all of us a disservice. Too many guys in the West are tossed into relationships with zero prep. They act too nice, put women on pedestals, and crumble the first time she gives him the cold shoulder. Many men will go into their mid to late twenties as virgins, praying that the first time they lose their V-card, it will be with a girl they "love". This is a feminine mindset. Why? Because he never got real-world experience. He’s been told to wait for “the one” and has no idea how to assert himself or handle rejection. Getting some reps in through a provider can change that. It builds confidence, not shame.

So no, using provider services doesn’t make you a failure or a creep. It means you’re honest with yourself about your needs and how brutal the dating scene can be these days. It’s not about giving up on love, it’s about not letting dry spells or loneliness wreck your mental health. Sure, you can distract yourself with hobbies, work, the gym, whatever, but let’s be real, we’re men. We want to get laid. Is that really such a crime?

And don’t let anyone tell you that it has to be one or the other. Some guys use providers and still date organically when it makes sense. Some mix in sex dolls, especially the custom ones. It’s a personal thing, and it’s not shameful. It’s pragmatic.

The only shame is pretending you’re not allowed to do what works for you.

May you find your next "release" to be economic, efficient, and honest my brothers.

-Benji