Opinions about certain dating coaches

Charming-Seaweed-805 · 2025-04-10T02:03:46+00:00

Avoid dating coaches

xvszero · 2025-04-10T00:50:00+00:00

No idea who those people are.

Went to YouTube, read a few titles from Zander's videos, big hell no there.

Probably similar with the other two.

MercerCurse2525 · 2025-04-10T14:10:14+00:00

I just found Casey Zander because of a snark video by creator Maximo and checked out a few of his videos/reels. He does not give good advise. He has a lot of redpill buzzwords and pretty much see women as something to use and lose from I can tell. He's only 27 and already very jaded. lol Seems he's trying now to get into the Christian/tradwife side of redpill as a lot of his content mentions the bible and leading his woman spiritually (but he is single from what I can tell, lol). He has a whole strategy for how to lie and manipulate women in loving you. He uses a white board and honestly it's hilarious. He deserves to be snarked and not taken seriously. He's cringy for sure.

HLMaiBalsychofKorse · 2025-04-10T12:10:47+00:00

Why do you need an online dating coach that literally doesn’t even connect with or know you enough to give you anything but clickbait-y, BS-riddled ads for their “services”. These are grifters, and they have always been grifters. You don’t need advice from grifters.

meleyys · 2025-04-10T00:51:44+00:00

I am generally suspicious of anyone who makes a living giving relationship advice and does not have relevant academic credentials.

an_altar_of_plagues · 2025-04-10T15:35:49+00:00

As I understand it, these people have helped men get into relationships.

Well, there's the crux. Do you just want to have a relationship, or do you want to meet somebody and have a connection? All of these assholes might help you get some, but the end of the day they're still only teaching you how to be transactional in doing the "right things" to get a reward. That will never turn out healthily.

Not to mention that they do not and never have known you, who you are, and what interests and experiences you have. That right there makes any online dating coach's advice absolutely worthless.

As others have said here, the best advice you can get about relationships is someone who actually knows your, or simply you knowing yourself better.

MisterFreeze29 · 2025-04-10T15:33:56+00:00

Perhaps an unpopular opinion, but I signed up for Coach Kyle's monthly program (only like 100ish per month) because I was disappointed in the dates I was getting from online dating after my most recent relationship. Most of the other people in the program seem to have a very optimistic outlook on life, and Kyle tends to preach that as well. He comes from a somewhat incel-ish background as well, so I think his opinion is valuable, and he'll talk about how his own views changed over the course of his life.

You can argue that signing up for something like this is pointless, but honestly I was consuming content for months and months without actually doing anything, and this is the catalyst that I needed. Not only do I have skin in the game to keep me accountable, I connected with a bunch of other dudes from the program that are in my city, and we go out together.

I went through a tinder fucboi phase back in my redpill days, but I'm really only interested in long term prospects, at this time - I have been doing night game and a bit of daygame consistently for like 3ish months, and while I am starting to get results, one VERY surprising side effect of doing this is that I feel like I've gained a lot more empathy for women, and also realized how fucking fun and cool many of them are.

Of the people you mentioned, I am only familiar with Casey Zander, and honestly he sounds way too red pill, uses a lot of their buzzwords, and seems like he's more concerned with putting women down, and makes it seem as if dating is all about "winning" the game between you and a woman - fuck that - life is too short to have disdain for 50% of the population.

ThreeArmedYeti · 2025-04-11T22:47:09+00:00

Biggest mistake I ever did.

anthonyrecenello · 2025-04-14T00:13:19+00:00

Don't follow dating coaches.

Slomader-will-travel · 2025-09-07T03:28:49+00:00

I can confidently say that Casey Zander would be a no go. If you believe a TRT taking, cowboy hat slinging, guy who baits his viewers for 15 mins while talking in circles and keeps saying “I’m going to tell you the secret” snake oil salesman who isn’t married, has never been married and is all of 30-35, then I’ve got an ocean in the Mojave to sell you.

The comments alone on that man’s videos. It’s like a ship of fools that’s lost at sea. I only say this because I spent a night watching some of his videos and I could not make sense of what he was saying besides the fact that it was absolutely toxic crash helmet stuff. If I watch your videos and I leave scratching my head and my gut says you are an idiot. Then it’s probably true. Your gut is never wrong.

No one can teach you about dating. It’s reps and sets. You just have to go out there and learn.

DecisionPlastic9740 · 2025-04-10T08:09:12+00:00

Zander is horrible. Alexa isn't bad. Don't know the other one.

Rx137 · 2025-08-25T14:57:18+00:00

None of them. I would recommend Kezia Noble. her advice especially her tips on texting have helped me. Her actual course allows you to meet women in real life to get practice. you can't just sit and watch YouTube videos and not apply it. also Kezia Noble is very transparent, there is zero sugar coating and no coming up with gimmicky names.

Defiant_Detective_82 · 2026-05-30T03:53:15+00:00

You can add Lauren rovis onto the list. She's awful

Title	Opinions about certain dating coaches
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