How often do you approachers end up rejecting the person they approached?

tacoman0077 · 2025-04-18T20:54:30+00:00

All depends on how hot she is… I’ll stay in a dead set for as long as I can with a hottie and still close for practice. I just might not follow up if the chat was that dead however.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-04-18T20:57:36+00:00

How do you define rejection versus signs of disinterest or hesitation? I don't think those are necessarily the same thing. But i don't blame you for bouncing if the first response is primarily negative. It's the respectful thing to do.

40% success rate on cold approaches (meaning you get a number or instant date) is a high success rate for cold approaches. And that's probably because you only approach women who give you some signs of interest first. And you probably have some decent social skills or good looks.

Most guys approach women without spotting choosing signals prior - and then the success rate tends to be more around 5%.

You can have success with both methods. It depends on how often you want to approach versus how often you get choosing signals from women.

shittybillz · 2025-04-18T22:19:52+00:00

Yea I back off if I don’t feel a fun vibe. I take it as either disinterest on their part or they’re just not what I’m looking for, either way I politely excuse myself

Timwhimsical · 2025-04-18T22:29:54+00:00

Very relatable! Sometimes I see someone cute and go talk to them, but the second they open their mouth, I lose all attraction I had.

It is so awkward having to turn around and reject someone who you just showed bold, forward interest towards. This is one of my biggest sources of approach anxieties. I don’t really care about getting rejected myself lol.

Plastic_Friendship55 · 2025-04-19T01:19:22+00:00

There are two ways men approach. Most men approach like you. Find out there is some interest, reads some sign and cues and approaches a woman where there is a good chance she is interested. Once you talk to her you figure out if there is anything more than just attraction and you can often end up rejecting her because it turns out she wasn’t really that interested after all.

The other way to approach is the “bro it’s a numbers game, let’s be the new Mystery and Neil Strauss” who will approach anything standing on two legs and smells. The will only reject if it’s a part of the script they have rehearsed and they believe it will make the woman interested.

epimpstyle · 2025-04-18T21:25:01+00:00

If they seem overly anxious, they don't respond in an interesting manner

It’s not their fault, mate! They’re walking down the street, minding their own business, and then you appear out of nowhere expecting them to be thrilled. No! You’re the one who needs to say something interesting or funny, then you’ll get a reaction

I get some shit test immediately

This is debatable, how do you assume you get a "shit test" from someone who doesn't know you? I bet they ask a normal question because it is too early for a "shit test".

I tell him my name and they do not tell me thiers

Why do you assume they care about your name right away? What if the roles were reversed and, out of nowhere, a girl appeared and told you her name, would you be interested? I doubt it!

The rejection rate is debatable, hard to say. It depends on a bunch of things you do and say. Maybe you won’t get rejected right away, but later... it’s like a lottery, 50-50

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-04-18T21:43:07+00:00

“Choosing signals” or IOI is overrated. Like any other body languages, we tend to misinterpret it by a big margin. Heck you and people you know probably don’t speak the same (body) language, let alone between you and a stranger.

By doing it right away — only approach women who are showing IOI —- you basically disqualify yourself.

liftingnstuff · 2025-04-18T22:43:47+00:00

Shit tests are indications of interest, not disinterest. If they aren't interested they are just going to reject you outright or give you nothing of substance.

Also if you walk away from a girl who gives you a cold response, or if she isn't engaging, that's not you rejecting her, that's walking away from a failed approach.

You rejecting her would be doing the approach, having it go well with her being into you, and then walking away because she did something that made you no longer interested.

Ciabbata · 2025-04-18T23:43:25+00:00

It can be nerve-wracking, but remember, rejection is a normal part of dating. It's all about finding the right match. If you want more tips on approaching and navigating these situations, feel free to ask about my Telegram bot. Good luck!

GENERALSECRTRY · 2025-04-19T01:09:14+00:00

ls walking away really rejecting her? lsn;t that just giving up? how can u reject her if she didnt aproach you? and she was never trying to go out with you in the first place. lf u aproached, her and she shows no interest, it just means u misread her, and does not imply that she was ever interested in the first place. misreading people is actually quite common with pick up artists, and autistic men. that;s why guys cold aproach because they lack the ability to read body language, so they just aproach everyone, and hope something sticks

videogames_ · 2025-04-19T17:08:24+00:00

Yeah because from a cold approach standpoint you could get probably 50% numbers if you are really good looking and showing choosing signals. There's still going to be a lot of flakes and ghosts from that. Even the most buff PUA dudes that shared their numbers only had 7/100 dates from cold approach.

MrPound4Pound · 2025-04-19T02:46:32+00:00

You didn't reject them. You just backed out. Rejection implies that something was desired from you. How can you reject a girl who wasn't interested in you in the first place? If you approached a chick and she actually showed interest in you and for whatever reason you ended your interest in them, maybe they had bad breath, then yeah that would be a rejection on your end.

Title	How often do you approachers end up rejecting the person they approached?
Author	ancientweasel
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Date	April 18, 2025 8:49 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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