Hello peeps. I'm becoming more active on this sub, ya'll are a lot of fun, even my redpill goofers.

So, I was in the pickup community for a while. I've shared that many times on here. I left it because the guys were wack as fuck, but I do love what it taught be about socializing. One thing that has been bugging me is that bars and clubs have been very hit or miss for me. I wanted to know what makes a guy stand out so much that you actually want to follow up after the night is over. Or are bars/clubs just bad places to meet people?

I had a lot of success in my College days, just going around campus talking to women. Got a lot of dates, fun experiences (I admit I used this power for evil but let's not go there :D). Post-college, I survived off some coworkers and the occasional success in bars and clubs, but they've been getting even worse for me.

I feel like I could literally be borderline fucking a girl and she still won't want to see me after. I've made out with girls, danced with them, felt them up, and still nothing after the night is over. I'm not the type to sleep on the first night, so I set up dates right there or get their phone numbers.

I have had decent success before (currently texting a woman I met and was making out with...and I met THE EX of my life I met at a club...she's forever going to haunt my soul lol my heart was torn apart), but it is just so inconsistent now. I have a lot of lady friends but they're not as nerdy about these concepts as the people are on here.

Basically, what makes you want to a see a guy again after a night is over? Does the making out and stuff even matter? Or are these places just bad places to meet people in general? The pickup advice is to just be hyper aggressive and sleep with them the same night but I'm not that kinda guy lol. I am working on my courage to try talking to women out and about during the day again, outside of a college campus so that's in the works. I got a date recently from a girl sitting at a park. But I want to know what to do for these clubs and bars.

Disclaimer: This isn't that serious, end of the day, I have fun when I'm out regardless. I'm just curious for the female perspective. Thank you!