Have you ever been sexually assaulted by a woman only for it to be put off/people act like it doesn't matter?

thicko-mode · 2025-05-07T13:16:58+00:00

Worse, I took responsibility for it. When I was 17, a week after getting back with my girlfriend at the time , after a party I was very drunk and sleeping in a room with some people in it, a girl I was (stupidly) flirting with earlier in the night was sleeping on a bed next to me and I was on the floor, I was drifting off to sleep with my head spinning when she rolled off the bed, initiating contact with me, took down my pants and tried to give head then have sex. It went on for a short time before I eventually used my words and said stop. I was not aroused at all and that was evident by my lack of erection and visible discomfort, it was really confusing and I blamed myself for not saying no to her earlier and being clear with my words. But I look back now and if you switch the roles, a guy doing the same, the girl being extremely drunk and visibly uncomfortable, I clearly don’t need to say more.

The people in the room heard it, and the next morning I was confronted by others calling me out for trying to sleep with a girl when I had just gotten back with my ex, I was so confused and distraught back then, and because everyone “heard” the commotion, there was no defending myself - because who would believe me?

I ended up apologising profusely to my girlfriend at the time, losing a lot of friendships as the whole school thought I cheated on my then girlfriend. People looked differently at me afterwards.

The event and the consequences after have left me traumatised to this day, I have had psychological ED for years and have only started working though with a therapist the cause of it, which is most definitely that event.

executive-coconut · 2025-05-07T13:04:36+00:00

Cant count how many times when i was out clubbing i got my package touched, ass slapped etc ... Drunk women are ruthless lolll

Vast_Fun_8411 · 2025-05-07T12:47:29+00:00

When I was a student, working for a year in a sandwich course, there was a highly aggressive women who loved assaulting all the men in the office. She would literally slam you against a wall, pin your arms and start rubbing her body over you, licking you and make highly suggestive comments. She did this to all the men regardless of rank to humiliate them in front of others.

Her behavior was simply laughed off as a bit of fun and there were zero complaints. Now if a man were to do that he would be in jail for decades considering the large number of "victims"

TKD1989 · 2025-05-07T12:45:29+00:00

I was sexually harassed by a random woman at a college reunion who kept lifting her top up slightly and moving closer to me. I took the hint and walked away. My mom was obviously shocked and disgusted by it, but I'm sure other people would make excuses for her harassment.

_bisexualwarlock · 2025-05-07T12:45:08+00:00

The main one was when I was underage but I was also a dancer for many years and got groped by women all the time . I was encouraged to just ignore it but I would flick their hands off me each and every time. They didn't understand or care that the same rules actually apply to them

ZeuxisOfHerakleia · 2025-05-07T13:09:09+00:00

A woman grabbed my ass cheek at a festival, when I turned around bewildered, shaking my head, she just said "It looked so cute"

Another time the manager of a tattoo shop slapped my ass when I was waiting in line and no one seemed to care. I mean I laughed it off and I didnt find it traumatizing but imagining the roles are reversed shit would go down lol

shautha · 2025-05-07T13:22:27+00:00

In elementary school a classmate once just started groping my ass right in front of literally everyone and even the teacher (obviously, the teacher was a woman), no one did anything. I really wanted to turn around and do something that would probably get me banned from reddit for saying, but decided to walk away and avoid her. She tried to interact with me the following days but I made sure to be rude so she leaves me alone, which obviously made the rest of the girls in class stare at me very angrily every time I entered the room, but I couldn't care less.

I did think about taking this to the principal at the time but she was a woman too so I didn't want to risk it, it was easier to just ignore it.

Jeepwave13 · 2025-05-07T14:24:33+00:00

Yep. Was drugged and assaulted by a woman a few years ago. Cops told me that if I called them again I’d be arrested for wasting their time, lots of women have the mindset of “if you got hard it doesn’t matter what comes out of your mouth,” and so on. My guy friends were supportive though, so that was a nice change.

No-Stress874 · 2025-05-07T13:55:36+00:00

Then you got "feminists" making it seem as if only men do these types of stuff. Ive got SA multiple times in clubs. Women touching my junk or slapping my ass saying "im a woman, i can do this"

falandofodhasci · 2025-05-07T13:47:30+00:00

yes, an old woman, co-worker from my job, said out loud she wanted my d*ck and hugged me. everyone laughed. she was attracted to me and always trying to get closer, it was disgusting

vabriga24 · 2025-05-07T12:46:24+00:00

My SA went like this: women wants sex but she on her period, i decline because i dnt want to, women coerces me in all imaginable ways that she can think of, me giving in to not cause anymore problems. Now i asked all of my friends if they had a similar incident and they all agreed.

petitewaifu___ · 2025-05-07T14:04:19+00:00

not a man, but one of my best friends is. He was hanging out with a female friend at his place one day when she drugged him and raped him. When he tried to tell his parents and some mutual friends, they laughed it off. I believed him and begged him to report her. He did, but the police didn’t take him seriously either. Not long after, he attempted suicide.

my 16 year old step brother was also raped by 2 female staff at one of those christian turn around camps for troubled youth and nobody believed him either.

Same_Sentence_3470 · 2025-05-07T14:23:48+00:00

I have a friend that is a technician at a hospital. I was having a discussion with him about the inappropriate things that happen in the medical industry. He told me a story that actually didn’t surprise me too much. There is a female anesthesiologist that grabs him, hugs him, kisses his neck, pinches his butt, etc. He has asked her to stop but she doesn’t. He went to HR and told them. He thinks that they may have talked to her because she is doing it less but she is still doing it. He recently told his supervisor that he is going to go to HR again because she hasn’t stopped. Not sure what will happen but I hope for his sake that they don’t fire him. Isn’t that crazy? If the roles were reversed the anesthesiologist would be fired but as a man reporting sexual harassment you have to worry about your job.

I worked at a medical university for many years. I had two female directors that were incredibly abusive to men. The first one was very abusive but not in a sexual way towards men. She could have gotten away with the abuse forever but she “retired on her terms” because she sexually harassed a woman. The woman got a lawyer and the university paid her off to drop the charges and keep it out of the news. The second manager was abusive in many ways and even in sexual ways to men. The men didn’t go to HR because they knew their jobs would be in jeopardy. She was eventually asked to “retire” because she was abusive to some of the women and one of the women overheard her saying the N word. The women got together and went to HR and that’s when she was allowed to “retire” with full benefits.

InterestMedical674 · 2025-05-07T12:49:27+00:00

Twice, in broad daylight, in front of teachers. No action was taken.

Rhbgrb · 2025-05-07T13:08:51+00:00

Some girl in my high school got dared to kiss me. She walked up to me and kissed me on my face, with zero consent. No warning or anything. It was only after I realised it was a dare. So gross

Icy-Picture-192 · 2025-05-07T15:55:24+00:00

Yup and sexual harassment multiple times by multiple women and people would think it's funny or a joke. If it was the other way around I would get in a lot of trouble.

Women are huge perverts. Society just doesn't paint them that way so they get away with kinda stuff

Malow · 2025-05-07T17:24:57+00:00

I remember reading here a while ago, where a woman was in the bathroom, and other woman pinned her and put her hands inside her pants by force.

when she told her friends what happened, they asked if she was pretty.

looks like people only care if the agressor is a man.

addyix · 2025-05-07T14:25:51+00:00

i’m a girl, but this happened to my brother and i lost a close friend over it. she kept saying that “women are the only ones advocating for male victims, men don’t care” and then proceeded to make fun of him to anyone who would listen like..?

my opinion is probably biased based on my experiences and environment,

but question for men: do you think that this is a common phenomenon? more specifically, women/feminists putting the blame of this societal narrative on men?

i feel like i’ve seen this so many times and often other women use men’s sexual abuse or lower reported statistics as evidence against men to “help women’s rights” or to show that “women are better with handling these situations” when in reality they’re contributing to the problem against men

GodHand7 · 2025-05-07T16:22:58+00:00

I was groped by a gypsy girl when I was at high school in front of many kids, yeah no one cared a bit lol. Also a female coworker recently bumped me in the private area with her hand while smirking about it, she's a feminist when she remembers about it or when it suits her, so if someone were to do that to her like she did, I dont think she would like it at all

SpamFriedMice · 2025-05-07T16:54:14+00:00

Used to have a supervisor (owner's sister) who used to just grab anybody's junk or ass at any opportunity. NOT an attractive woman by any stretch.

We did HAZMAT work there, so it required stripping down to suit up, and showering out of the work area. She had cut holes in the plastic sheeting to watch us change out and nick name us by her assessment of our asses. One guy was "chick ass" another "fat ass" "flattie" etc. ( I was "tighty whitey" BTW).

She once offered to buy me a new motorcycle for a weekend away (ewww).

Anything said to her brother was met with"Oh, she's just like that".

xxTheMagicBulleT · 2025-05-07T14:31:37+00:00

Yes i was a bartender while I was studying. And many had many many weird incounters. With drunk women where if even a 10th of it would have happen to a women worker people would make it a big deal off it.

But I was told just just deal with it. From weird touching to trying to feel as a try and walk between tables. With like being a accident. To full on just letting them self fall and trying to make me catch them. To push it to be in a weird sexual nature. To full on just having a feel at the crutch area.

Even had a one time a women trying to put a icee cube from there drink in my pants from the back while I was helping a other table.

Let's just say I have experience most weirdest things. Like drunk women are savages.

Why I honestly role my head when I hear the super super mild complains many women had of there bad experiences in service.

But was quite eye-opening experience. Many women wanna blame men and men wanna blame women. But over all there just people and there scum in each bunch. Just the way one side gets taken seriously and the other does not. Makes me just not care for most women's issue's cause they quickly dismiss my experiences.

With the classic "well your a guy. So i bet you liked the sexual attention and the fact women lust over you" what so dumb. And makes me like lose all respect for most women that have that way of thinking or even close to that way of thinking. And it light a kind of disgust for selfishness of women as a whole. So people that are selfish I quickly don't care about them at all. Big part of it cause of that 3 year bartender experiences and interactions I had with women.

Tupac-Amaru_Shakur · 2025-05-07T14:18:08+00:00

Yup, dozens of times in my life. Was molested by a woman as a child too. No one cares. Big part of why I have no respect for women. Because they aren't held to account for what they do, so the only notion of consequences they have is to blame others for what happens to them. Zero accountability when it's them doing something to someone else.

VecnaIsErebos · 2025-05-07T19:52:11+00:00

I was abducted into a child prostitution ring as a child. Even that was dismissed.

DuPhuc · 2025-05-07T22:39:59+00:00

Yeah I got raped and some people just laughed at me for it. There is a major lack of care for rape when it happens to men in this world.

Karim_Dilemma · 2025-05-07T23:16:10+00:00

Imagine you are like 8 years old, and one day your aunt and her daughter start saying things about your butt and legs while touching in the most uncomfortable way possible and then saying that they need to touch it so you wouldn't lose it because of the hex, evil eye, jinx whatever you call it everything while more members of the family watching and not saying anything.

Well that

Upper-Road-1708 · 2025-05-08T02:01:41+00:00

I’ve gotten my junk grabbed at a bar by 10 different women over the years. The immediate response by every woman without fail is “now you know how women feel” with being said I can get over that no problem but being falsely accused is the worst pain ever and there’s never any repercussions. Women can literally say what ever they want and it’s taken as gospel.

Luroj02 · 2025-05-08T07:58:34+00:00

A few years ago, there was a very, very party-loving young woman. She had been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, and everyone knew about her tendency to sneak out of her house in search of alcohol and sex.

Her parents thought very highly of me; they considered me a prudent and moderate man. Because of this, she often used me as a kind of “green card” with her parents, using my name as an excuse, even when she wasn't really with me.

One night, during a friend’s birthday party, I felt safe around those I was with and drank more than I should have. Suddenly, she showed up and began her usual round of unsolicited sexual innuendos. When we all left the club together and headed to my apartment, I could barely walk without holding onto the walls. She whispered to me, “What happens tonight stays between you and me.”

When we arrived at the apartment, she continued her groping and neck-biting routine with some of the guests, but we all knew she was trouble. Still, I didn't think she could become such a serious problem. I was exhausted, so drunk that I was speaking slowly and stayed still for fear of falling over—a state that made it difficult for me to be more forceful in my refusals. She took me to another room and started giving me oral sex. I told her she had to at least put a condom on me. That, at least, she respected. Apparently, she didn’t like it—I assume because of how passive I was due to the substances—and she quickly left the room.

She started feeling guilty and said she wanted to go home, visibly upset, with that rude and unpleasant attitude that made me think she only used me to get her parents’ permission. She called them to go back home at 4 in the morning, which was also common, since she didn’t respect them much either.

Three days later, she started spreading a rumor about a sexual assault, painting a scene in which, according to her, I had gotten very aggressive and had overpowered her through violence.

She’s 30 centimeters shorter than me, 20 kilos lighter, and had no injuries whatsoever. A friend who had the presence of mind to listen through the door confirmed that nothing of the sort had happened. My friends stood by me, as they knew her behavior and had also been harassed by her on that and other occasions. They also knew my character didn’t match the story she was telling.

But not everyone that night was my friend, and neither were the owners and staff of the clubs she frequented—places where, I was told, she sometimes put on victim-like performances to get more attention from those around her.

When I told my aunt, who works at a feminist organization, she started asking me things like, “Are you sure you didn’t do anything that could have upset her? Maybe you did something and don’t remember. Are you sure your friends didn’t take your side just because they’re your friends? Are you sure they didn’t lie to protect you?” I didn’t speak to her again until she apologized. She told me that if I wanted to file a complaint, she would go with me. But she also added things like, “Well... you've experienced a part of what many women go through,” without considering the crimes against my honor or the thrd-party-violence consequence of it.

We both were 19 years old.

LeeAbeats · 2025-05-07T16:12:34+00:00

By thier definition almost every day.

IllustriousBowl4316 · 2025-05-08T08:08:48+00:00

Not a man and idk if that counts as SA but when I was 15 at the time my then bestie and I was at the pool having fun then when we got out she told me she would do me a "massage" but she touched my private parts such as my chest... At that moment I was too innocent to realize that what she was doing was bad... Strangers didn't mind only my parents... If she was a boy people would be grossed and my parents reaction would be even worse....

shadowguyver · 2025-05-07T16:38:48+00:00

Yes, and when I talked about it, one women chuckled and asked if the woman pulled out her dick as if to say only men can SA

Fat-And-Sexy · 2025-05-08T00:23:28+00:00

Yea. The people I told said “she just wanted dick” and laughed. Even though it was essentially grooming, SA, her being a pedo… double standards.

2025-05-09T05:38:35+00:00

The closest experience I have is when I was in college I had a female co-worker ask if she could come over to my apartment and make me breakfast one morning. I said that sounded good. She had a key to my apartment, and I woke up that morning to her getting in bed with me naked. I didn’t want anything sexual, so I just got up and got all the way dressed and we just pretended nothing happened. The next day we worked together she barely said a word to me and she tried to talk crap about me to other co-workers and turn them against me.

Nothing really ended up coming from it, but fuck, imagine if a guy went over to a girl’s house and got in bed naked with her, then went and complained to their co-workers when she wouldn’t have sex. It would blow up and be a huge deal.

Psychological-Pen-41 · 2025-05-07T18:17:31+00:00

derixithy · 2025-05-07T19:25:21+00:00

I wouldn't tell a soul if that happened. Well maybe my wife

antixwick999 · 2025-05-07T19:51:07+00:00

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Fo11owthewhiterabbit · 2025-05-07T23:11:20+00:00

So many times.

sketchy-advice-1977 · 2025-05-07T23:47:32+00:00

I don't know if it's just because I'm an old man but women sexually assaulting me just doesn't affect me at all. But with young men and children that's not going to fly at all.

Rhbgrb · 2025-05-08T01:12:01+00:00

I wish I knew how to do data research. I want to research the sexual assault of men by women and other men.

keine257 · 2025-05-08T02:16:45+00:00

airfox3522 · 2025-05-08T06:07:09+00:00

It happened to me when I was in my first year of college.

JordyEast101 · 2025-05-08T08:18:10+00:00

Yes. When i was 16.

Was greening out at a party bcs I hit the bong a bit too hard after drinking all night and i needed a nap to stop spinning. I woke up to two women I barely knew sucking me off. Thankfully a friend saw, through a window, that I was barely conscious and trying to sit up and grab my pants. He helped me put my pants on and I fell back asleep soon after. I woke up to my girlfriend blowing me up and breaking up with me over the phone for cheating. The only person who stuck up for me is the one who helped me. Unfortunately I got jumped on my way home due to this drama and had to change my group of friends bcs my town is small and news travels.

I still think about it every now and then and it sucks that no one took me seriously or the situation for what it was.

Women didn’t believe me and guys were stoked I got a "double blowjob" by 2 hot party girls.

Makes me sick and feel like less of a man.

Sam__Toucan · 2025-05-08T12:28:51+00:00

When I was in my 20's a senior manager in the office took a liking to me and started harassing me constantly. She was more than 20 years older than me.

The other senior managers just laughed at the situation and encouraged her on. They said I was lucky and they wished she was harassing them instead. If I was out after work with colleagues, they would call this manager and tell her where I was so that she could come along and start harassing me again.

It only stopped when I quit the job.

Difficult_Brain_4919 · 2025-05-08T13:41:18+00:00

Yes and it feels terrible I am from India and we don't even have basic laws to protect men from sexual offences. Makes it even worse.

Chupadedo · 2025-05-08T22:21:07+00:00

Yes. There was a little party at a female friend's house. When the party died I wanted to sleep so my friend offered me that I sleep in her room while she went to sleep in another room. A little while later she sneaked and started to touch me. I repeatedly told her to stop. She wouldn't listen and started being more aggressive and touching my privates. I said NO like 30 times. I went to sleep in the living room and she didn't follow. I have told some people, and didn't laugh or anything but hadn't had much to say either.

Complete-Cook-8786 · 2025-05-09T01:02:14+00:00

That happened to me multiple times. To cover it up, she later accused me. Everyone sided with her.

Pure_Emergency_7939 · 2025-05-12T03:52:37+00:00

Pure_Emergency_7939 · 2025-05-12T03:52:53+00:00

yes and honestly no one cared

xaustishx · 2025-05-14T10:21:34+00:00

Yes. Several times in my life. First time it happened was with an ex of mine. She sexually abused me (with intention of hurting me) and also sexually assaulted me (going after sex when I rejected her advances constantly, even her mocking me saying “no”) and also just overall being physically abusive. I was not good at keeping my boundaries up back then. When I finally mustered up the courage to “open up” more about how abusive she was, there were like 2 people who kinda cared, but ultimately shrugged it off. She actually convinced people I was the abusive one, doing all this abusive shit in the relationship, and of course a lot of people believed her. I also had to deal with stalking after we broke up too. There is just an indescribable amount of dread and hate for the world you get after the person who abused you plays victim and makes you out to be the abuser. It’s definitely jaded me ever since, and around that time I started to realize why male un aliving rates are so high. Throughout the years after, I was describe my other instances as “casual harassment/assault” primarily from drunk women at bars being way too touchy and incredibly rude when you’re like “stop touching me, I don’t know you.” People just sit and fucking watch, he’ll most of the time they’ll giggle or think it’s cute. But if a man does the same thing to a girl, half the bar will be on top of the guy beating his ass and yanking him out of the bar.

You have to have a really good head on your shoulders as a man to not snap from such a low blow. I’ve seen similar situations happen to other men, seeing them bawling right in front of me when they have no where else to turn to. It’s affected my view on relationships, and many other things in my life. Society doesn’t give a fuck about us, they brag online and make memes about violence against men 24/7 (yet do the same for women and it’s a huge uproar, you’re getting canceled, banned, etc. rightfully so though.) so it’s unfortunately not surprising to me that more men are being abused and assaulted, it’s becoming much more normalized. As a man, even if you’re able to convince people that you have been assaulted, most of the time it is IMMEDIATELY turned into a pissing competition along the lines of “well women have it worse, women go through it more, etc.” it is so incredibly exhausting.

Snoo_78037 · 2025-05-28T20:03:21+00:00

No, but I literally saw a girl from my maths class in secondary school literally slapped 2 guys butts as we were leaving class and nobody cares. The guys that got slapped even pointed out the double standard. Women have a licence to touch men how they please in our society. It's also more acceptable to put your hands on a man than a woman in any context. But people still think it happens more to women. No people are just more attentive to women. Nobody looks out for men's safety and bodily respect. We're supposed to look after ourselves. Nobody is going to save us.

MajesticMajesties · 2025-05-10T23:38:30+00:00

I was 15. I'll tell the story if anyone cares. I doubt it.

NumerousImprovements · 2025-05-07T13:24:13+00:00

Use to bartend and while walking through the dance floor would often get felt up. I don’t mean just my arms or chest. Literally front and back slaps and grabs.

I got security to get rid of one girl who cupped my balls and didn’t let go, but honestly, I just never saw the big deal with most of it. These were usually women I was flirting with, and if they weren’t, so what? It was Saturday night, packed dance floor, drinks flowing, I never saw the big deal for the most part.

I also know women who say the same. Guy grabs your ass? Turn around, give him a slap, walk away.

Now admittedly, I think there are what I’ll call “levels” to sexual assault. I’ve never been raped or anything like that, so I am not downplaying experiences of that nature, but shit like that, I never understood why people cared. So maybe I’m the one downplaying some shit? But to me, people make mountains out of mole hills half the time.

Knirb_ · 2025-05-07T12:53:00+00:00

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Title	Have you ever been sexually assaulted by a woman only for it to be put off/people act like it doesn't matter?
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Date	May 7, 2025 12:39 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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