Adult Men of Reddit, What will you guide a teen boy about girls of our age?

Local-Willingness784 · 2025-05-26T17:06:16+00:00

respect yourself and see how women act around other men, in general, it can tell you a lot.

Gen_X_Xoomer · 2025-05-26T16:48:49+00:00

Don’t sign a government piece of paper that guarantees men will be financially ruined.

Women are not the end all, be all. They’re people with issues like everyone else. They are not sweet caring people just because they’re female. They are just as mean and selfish as everyone else.

What I’m saying is NEVER put women on a pedestal. Put yourself on a pedestal and if she wants you she has to climb to get there.

WeEatBabies · 2025-05-26T16:41:33+00:00

Strong bounderies.

State what you expect out of the relationship.

If you don't receive what you asked and feel used : Block her on every plateform! Before she can use you some more.

Also, you should ask this on r askmen.

Inside-Common-8301 · 2025-05-26T18:38:06+00:00

Make sure she doesn’t make a fraudulent or baseless claim about you and if she makes racist or xenophobic jokes. Run away as fast you can and don’t look back.

TFME1 · 2025-05-26T20:27:30+00:00

Trust but verify.

Trust your neighbor, but lock your doors anyway.

All people lie, even if only to themselves. Most people don't even make that distinction.

Protect your seed. Women, just like men, are fully capable of lying and deceit. Moreso now than ever before in history. Do not get a woman pregnant if you aren't fully prepared to pair-bond with that woman and take care/responsibility for that child. Bring your own condoms to the event and never trust a woman who says she's "got it handled." Refer to line one of this post.

People of all stripes will use you, but with women being your desired goal, they'll be the ones most often to successfully use you. That's where men's guard is down and where the armor is the weakest.

Give her respect and dignity. Also, demand her respect of you and her observance of your intrinsic value. If she isn't giving you that, run away very quickly.

Don't act like a child. Finding your inner child may be perfectly necessary, but don't forget your adult in the process. Life is dynamic. There's time for both. Women will often view men as childlike, which is simple arrogance, since the world has been telling them they're right for so long that it's now just assumed to be correct. It's not a bug. It's a feature now. The big lie has been told enough times that it's indiscernable from the truth. It's not the truth. There's no iteration of a successful reality that excludes men or women or makes one more righteous than the other. Without either the system fails. Don't accept either exclusion as being feasible or bad things will inevitably follow.

It seems that women have taken on all the worst attributes of men and called that "empowerment.". Look for the woman who isn't an "empowered feminist." They're plurally toxic and will have no hesitation in destroying your good (but imperfect) name. Their preferred method of assault (yes, I said assault) is reputational harm or destruction. Don't believe anyone who tells you that women are conflict-avoidant. They just use devious forms of conflict and have literally no shortage of hate, anger, vengefulness, or a willingness to use them on you for your complete annihilation. Most often, they're just not bold enough to commit homicide since that has repercussions that aren't desirable.

The world is full of idiots. No gender is immune to idiocy. Don't harm the idiots. Just give them a wide berth. They'll sort themselves accordingly. Don't be overly sad when they sort themselves destructively. It's ok to be sad for those who are impacted as collateral damage. Assist them and treat them with empathy.

Mind your own business unless there's inevitable, direct harm to others in the immediate future. If there's time, call the appropriate authorities to intervene. Don't do so on theory. Only do so when the evidence is truly compelling. Calling 911 about getting shorted on your chicken nuggets is the empirical mark of stupidity.

Don't engage with idiots. They'll only destroy the things you've been working diligently to build.

Don't expect perfection. No one is perfect. If you hold out for perfect, you'll be waiting for a very long time. That being said, don't accept catastrophic imperfections. There's no point in going down with the ship unless your partner is truly that important to you. There's always a caveat to every possible scenario.

Women aren't always right. No one cares if momma is happy anymore, and a happy wife can still be happy while you're drowning, so it has to be something more than "Happy wife, happy life." If you accept such an arrangement, you have no one to blame but yourself. We'll still be ready to catch you when you fall, but there's only so much any human can do in these circumstances. Just don't go down that road. Try "Happy spouse, happy house."

Women are wrong just as often as men. Yet, society will hold them up as the ideal for how to behave. Pedestals are meant for trophies, but only if they're earned. Trophies aren't all made the same or earned the same. If a woman expects you to treat her like she's the prize, then make damn sure she treats you like you're her prize. Otherwise, the pedestal is just a flat surface to pile crap on. Don't put anyone on a pedestal unless the treatment is reciprocal.

Society is often wrong and is almost always decades behind where the social morays and ethics should be. It operates in a cycle of stupidity, constantly re-litigating old issues. Like it's stuck in a rutt that it can never quite get out of, largely because of idiots that can't accept any form of compromise.

Avoid extremism, as well as the extremists who dwell in it. Extremists sow disunion and, as a result, only destroy everything; the good, the bad, and the yet-to-decided, indiscriminately in their singular focus (technically blindness to everything else). Work diligently to see all sides of the argument and recognize that each "side" has its merits and flaws, with the realization that people are flawed and will sometimes self-correct after an epiphany, catastrophic or not (usually due to new info someone suggested and that they were open to hearing and they were willing to contemplate honestly).

Vanriel · 2025-05-26T17:13:00+00:00

That the best thing you can do for long lasting happiness is to focus on yourself.

Nathaniel66 · 2025-05-26T17:21:16+00:00

literaly: Fap few times a day to have clear mind and make reasonable decisions not driven by your lust. And i'm 100% serious.

Consistent_Ad3181 · 2025-05-26T19:22:04+00:00

Juice isn't worth the squeeze.

The-Cyberpunk · 2025-05-26T22:23:31+00:00

I've been waiting for this moment lil homie, I got 3 lessons for you. You might have heard this before but it's timeless.

Women may control "intimacy" but you control who YOUR girl is. "Happy wife happy life" is propaganda, don't believe it. As a man you need to be able to stand on business because a man's duty is to protect, provide, & teach and a woman who is not fulfilling her responsibilities does not deserve any of those. A woman will ruin a man's life but a man can only take a woman's life so there is no recourse against a woman that has hurt you. the best strategy is to leave those women with their thoughts and let them eat themselves alive. Kill them with kindness but never let them have access to you again once they fuck up.
Simpin ain't pimpin. Don't take this the wrong way but whether you want lots of women or just one the strategy is all the same. Make them feel good about themselves, get them to talk a lot ABOUT THEMSELVES, and never over invest in one woman until she proves to you that she's your biggest fan. On the matter of rejection & etc, If it's not a hell yes then it's a no. Women throughout history have developed the skill of using and abusing weak men for their own personal gain. I'm not casting judgment on that because it's an evolutionary trait but it is harmful so don't fall for it. A woman who truly wants you will SHOW YOU WITH HER ACTIONS. Never settle.
Outer beauty is nothing but a chance, inner beauty is a midnight dance. I hope that wasn't too poetic but here's what I mean, outer beauty often comes down to factors such as genetics which people don't have control over thus they cannot work to be beautiful ergo making beauty cheap especially in the case of women. If you live in America you know that there are beautiful women everywhere but there is a drastic shortage of women with character, intellect & morals. Realize that she's only human and not only that she's a woman so she probably has it easier than most especially if she's attractive. This isn't about the worth of a gender, this is about what you bring to the table and if a woman says she is the table don't go for it because that's like McDonald's saying "why would You go anywhere else? We are the only restaurant". No bro, YOU are the prize big man. If none of this has resonated keep in mind this one little thought, A person's worth is only determined by how much time and effort they put into improving themselves, how much self-improvement do you think in beautiful women go through when they have the attention of hundreds of men? I once said in another subreddit that there is a power disparity between men and women but men have overt power such as physical strength and competency but women have COVERT power such as social justice and crying. All right I'll stop ranting but please do not let any of these little girls do you dirty because they will fuck up your mental and laugh in your face. Stay up Kings 🫡

_bisexualwarlock · 2025-05-26T17:34:53+00:00

I'm not supposed to tell you the truth but I will anyway.

Expect to be valued only by both how you look and what funds you have available to spend on them.

Don't expect to be treated anywhere nearly as well as you will be expected to treat them.

Don't cry, they don't care. When they cry you will be expected to offer comfort (sometimes at an expense to yourself).

I could go on but I won't because you have enough information to understand how the future looks.

Sheepdog_Millionaire · 2025-05-26T19:22:21+00:00

Don't chase girls. Make yourself chaseable, and they come around again.

OddRemove2000 · 2025-05-26T18:54:16+00:00

Put yourself out there, approach, talk with her, when you see signs she's not interested in talking to you walk away, repeat hundreds of times. Internalize what this level of rejection when you are young and broke is like.

You will need it when you are older, educated, and successful. Those same girls who rejected you to go party with bad boys will hit you up wanting a decent man and see you as prime STEPDAD material. That's when you walk away again just like you did and never accept a bad deal. Life is better not spent with someone who wants to use you.

I speak from experience.

Quiet_Attempt_355 · 2025-05-26T22:39:37+00:00

Focus on you and yourself. Confidence will deter a lot of this behavior in my experience. Women don't need to be your whole focus in life.

gmnotyet · 2025-05-26T23:38:00+00:00

Control your lust for women and 90% of women become uninteresting.

theanchorman05 · 2025-05-27T01:53:55+00:00

Be confident, don't care, tease, and the girls will come for you. Also be smart about which girls you talk to

RealStarkey · 2025-05-27T02:10:43+00:00

If she treats Alexa better than any man, stay away from her.

jaceq777 · 2025-05-27T03:17:15+00:00

You will sadly never know a person fully. They can hide some part of themselves, including their malicious intents, selfishness etc. even for several years while you still view them as gentle, caring etc. Always stay vigilant and work on your boundaries. Be strong on your own so someone's actions or someone going away won't ruin you.

Karim_Dilemma · 2025-05-27T05:07:49+00:00

Honestly I wouldn't have a kid right now, I even have the intrusive thought of start transitioning even if I'm not really trans, but seeing how things are going (for example UK considering medical castration for Sexual Harrasers which won't be a bad idea but we all know false accusation are becoming more common) I rather pass through something I don't need so I can feel at least more safe than bringing to this world a kid that can be a boy which I will always fear to lose him.

Iamscaredofpeople69 · 2025-05-26T17:08:16+00:00

I would probably tell them to be themselves around them. If they don’t like you then most of the time they won’t interact but it’s for the better. Idk if this is me being a negative Nancy but I would also recommend being cautious about the ones that you like or the ones that approach you. Look out for signs of ulterior motives and attempts at manipulation.

FrankFace81 · 2025-05-26T16:48:38+00:00

I have a hard time nailing down exactly what is being asked here. I would prefer the title and body to be more clear.

erik_reeds · 2025-05-26T17:45:26+00:00

i have no advice really; people are all very different. try to be kind and caring, same as you would people of any gender or age

DirtyDustyDoggy · 2025-05-26T16:44:50+00:00

If you're bisexual, no woman will accept you and you probably prefer guys so take the safest route!

Title	Adult Men of Reddit, What will you guide a teen boy about girls of our age?
Author	Noble-prize683
Upvotes	42
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Date	May 26, 2025 4:35 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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