Many “tough guys” are good at preaching “discipline”, “resilience”, “seek no validation from others” just to be VALIDATED as “disciplined”, “resilient” and “seeking no validation”. This in turn is a very silent, sneaky form of lack of discipline/resilience to pull back from their thirst to be validated while being also a self-contradicting slap in the face. I call it the “alpha paradox”. That is why all these alpha male/female “toughness” is just an easy-way-out, most backboneless camouflage of sweeping one’s emotional vulnerability under the carpet by labelling others (especially mellow, polite, introspective people) as “beta-snowflakes who cannot take pain” just to puff up the alpha’s self-deluding, self-consoling “toughness”. But many Anglo males seem to helplessly suck up to all these alpha-self delusions.