going out solo

FromGymToBoudoir · 2025-06-02T23:40:24+00:00

I always went solo.

Go to have fun. The less you think of getting chicks, the more at easy you’ll be and it’ll just reflect. Ironically it’s easier to talk to girls this way and have success.
Talk to everyone. Especially if you’re at a club or bar. Build social rapport. Don’t only give the impression that you’re a social person, be a social person. Strike conversations with the bartender, be chill, etc. Relax.
Avoid standing in the corner with hand in pocket or a drink in hand. Be loose, and vibe to the music and environment. Why is this important? Because you don’t want to give off the creepy or weird vibes of a guy who’s just there like a plant, scoping chicks out. Girls have a built-in radar for that type of shit.

Would you go out with a potential rapist or a kidnapper? No. Women especially wouldn’t go out with anyone who would give off bad vibes, or just aren’t interested in. You want to set those walls down and not set off any red flags, you do this by being friendly and social with everyone. That’s why bouncers sometimes get lucky. Women want to feel safe and comfortable with a dude.

Don’t think so much about going out to get chicks, but if you’re there to enjoy the night women will gravitate toward you. I got way more to say, like body game, dress and appearance, dancing, but my battery is dying lmao. I know more dudes will give some valuable inputs in the comment section.

Edit: I can’t say much about France since the culture there could be different maybe? I’ve only gamed in the U.S and Brazil.

JonesHones · 2025-06-02T23:37:04+00:00

chill out and dont take anything serious! shoot your shot and emmit chill and non nervous energy if you are nervous and cant calm down say i am a little nervous and be authentic. that gains respect bcs you are real!

Either_Sundae6099 · 2025-06-03T07:26:43+00:00

Never been out around France, apart from some night club once at Euro Disney.

But my personal advice is, be chilled and relaxed (ideally get into this state before you leave the door) and talk to everyone. If you have wingmen, yeah you can push each other into approaching and lift each others mood/state. However, Solo, you do not have this luxury. However that is also why Solo can really boost your social skills.

But I want to emphasise the talk to everyone. Its too easy to enter a lower state and just stand or sit there getting stuck in your head in thoughts. I have actually met people just by chilling and talking to door staff. The door staff says hello to someone who stops and chats, I join in, and boom, no need to "cold approach". Just take the interaction from there.

Also, no matter what you do, how your night goes, be gentle on yourself and give yourself praise/credit on everything. Again its too easy to enter a lower state.

Ryan_the_Scion · 2025-06-03T08:59:27+00:00

im 19 with my family in france (paris and nice)for the week and still want to go enjoy a night out see if i can get something to happen

Go straight to the dancefloor at a night club. In the strobe lights and smoke from smoke cannons people won't question whether you're there solo. If they do once you're done dancing say it exactly like it is. You're there with family.

Else wise you've been given sound advice about having a social attitude on solo nights.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-06-03T04:04:32+00:00

You can read my nightclub post. It teaches you from A - Z, step by step on how to win in nightclubs solo. You won't be able to do everything, but you'll have a nice framework in mind without needing to doubt yourself. Doing the thing is already hard enough haha.

hakhab · 2025-06-03T00:13:31+00:00

Definitely talk to everyone at the bar or club and it will relax you. The bartender, security, groups of people or someone just leaning against the wall. So many interesting people you will meet! Just have a good time is the goal in my opinion.

UniqueUserName2017 · 2025-06-03T07:20:33+00:00

Solo is the best method

Title	going out solo
Author	No_Panda64
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Date	June 2, 2025 11:13 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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