I recently experienced my first real relationship — first kiss, first deep connection — after years of rejection. It felt beautiful, but now she’s broken up with me, saying she wants to focus on her career and doesn’t think a relationship is right at this stage. I responded respectfully, asked for clarity, and said if it’s truly ending, I’d prefer to close it in person rather than over text (which we plan to do after the break). Looking back, I realize I may have overinvested emotionally — I was honest, vulnerable, and gave a lot upfront, hoping to build something meaningful. But maybe I came across as too intense or too easy. She seemed emotionally reserved and more logical, which clashed with my depth. I also carry a deep abandonment wound from emotional neglect at home, and this breakup ripped it wide open. I’m starting to understand that emotional intelligence isn’t enough — I need to master emotional restraint, polarity, and self-respect. I want to stop overgiving, create space, and let women earn my heart instead of giving it away too soon. I’m here for honest feedback: where did I go wrong, and how can I grow into someone who is respected, desired, and not abandoned for loving too deeply?